Relationship Advice...

**KahanaReef** · 04-15-2013, 06:18 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Let's just leave it at that - RIP thread.

If I had the time, I'd go through this thread, do a count, and tally up how many times we've heard that

**35th-ANV-SS** · 04-17-2013, 01:24 PM

It's all good. She's afraid of commitment. That isn't something I'm interested in at this point in my life.

Btw- she is sick. See my post a week or two back...

Like I said...I know her better than she knows herself.

**SiggyZ** · 04-17-2013, 04:16 PM

Which post #?

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

It's all good. She's afraid of commitment. That isn't something I'm interested in at this point in my life.

Btw- she is sick. See my post a week or two back...

Like I said...I know her better than she knows herself.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 04-17-2013, 04:40 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I am willing to bet $1,000 that she will make an excuse as to why she didn't come visit my mom like she said she would. Strep throat, too busy with new promotion, car broke down....any takers?

This one. Oddly, she was sick the last 2 times she contacted me too after I cut her off for months on end.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 04-18-2013, 02:02 AM

Haven't heard from her in a few days. Guess she got the ego boost she needed from me. Why, you ask? She's back with him again lol.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 04-18-2013, 05:10 AM

So my question now is: Do I call her out on her bullshit and tell her what I think of it?

Do I contact him and tell him also?

Or just let it go...AGAIN....and ignore her ass the next time she tries to do the same shit?

The fact she contacted my mom with her bullshit has me livid.

**SiggyZ** · 04-18-2013, 05:24 AM

I'd let her know how you feel.

**GTP231** · 04-18-2013, 06:50 AM

Can't understand why you pay her any mind or care about her relationship. Just forget her and move on its time to let go she's a ho bag not worth thinking about her.

**SiggyZ** · 04-18-2013, 06:57 AM

Come on man, it's obvious Jon's head over heels for her. She's like a piece of candy that's too hard to resist.

Originally Posted by GTP231

Can't understand why you pay her any mind or care about her relationship. Just forget her and move on its time to let go she's a ho bag not worth thinking about her.

**98TransAmWs-6** · 04-18-2013, 08:02 AM

For someone who says he's done with her you seem too interested in what she is doing. Be done with her. She seems to be like candy that everyone wants a piece of. Even if you get back together if she gets bored with you she is likely to relapse again and start this whole predicament all over again. I would tell her you are done with her and don't want to talk to her ever again. I would block her phone number as well. It seems to me you are dwelling on her because of the idea of what she represents but I think your morals don't match up. You have morals and a level head on your shoulders and she doesn't seem to in the slightest bit. If you go back to her you are likely to just get hurt again. I know it is hard, I had a similar situation about 7 years ago. You have to move on and not dwell on the past, what happened is the past and you will find someone who treats you better in the future. I just realized that kind of sounded like a pep talk

**35th-ANV-SS** · 04-18-2013, 08:12 AM

I took the bull by the horns this AM. Told her this shit is going to stop. Enough is enough. Told her I'm done being her pen pal. Let's meet up. She replied we can meet up. Asked her when...and said not 2-3 weeks from now either. Time to shit or get off the pot. Done fucking around.

**FasstChevys** · 04-18-2013, 08:22 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I took the bull by the horns this AM. Told her this shit is going to stop. Enough is enough. Told her I'm done being her pen pal. Let's meet up. She replied we can meet up. Asked her when...and said not 2-3 weeks from now either. Time to shit or get off the pot. Done fucking around.

Enough is enough. (2 1/2 years!)

**SiggyZ** · 04-18-2013, 09:03 AM

Good man.

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I took the bull by the horns this AM. Told her this shit is going to stop. Enough is enough. Told her I'm done being her pen pal. Let's meet up. She replied we can meet up. Asked her when...and said not 2-3 weeks from now either. Time to shit or get off the pot. Done fucking around.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 04-18-2013, 09:25 AM

Originally Posted by 98TransAmWs-6

For someone who says he's done with her you seem too interested in what she is doing. Be done with her. She seems to be like candy that everyone wants a piece of. Even if you get back together if she gets bored with you she is likely to relapse again and start this whole predicament all over again. I would tell her you are done with her and don't want to talk to her ever again. I would block her phone number as well. It seems to me you are dwelling on her because of the idea of what she represents but I think your morals don't match up. You have morals and a level head on your shoulders and she doesn't seem to in the slightest bit. If you go back to her you are likely to just get hurt again. I know it is hard, I had a similar situation about 7 years ago. You have to move on and not dwell on the past, what happened is the past and you will find someone who treats you better in the future. I just realized that kind of sounded like a pep talk

Good advice and I agree. I've let go numerous times now...yet she always comes back. They say if you set someone free and they come back then they were meant to be yours. Corny shit, I know.

At this point I am being the Alpha male and calling the shots. That's the guy I was for years and it got me any woman I wanted. I've dated women who were wanted by hundreds of guys because I was not only cocky and confident, but funny also and had a care-free attitude. All of my gf's were absolutely gorgeous.

I lost that for awhile.

I have it again though. I have the mindset this woman wants me and she's waiting for me to make her mine...not be some pussy bitch like I have been.

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 04-18-2013, 02:01 PM

I think she'll just make another excuse on that meet-up. As you know there's sooo many women out there just as hot, funny, etc as her but they'll do what they say and they don't play head games. You can do better. I know it's easier said than done but i'd be the one to cancel the meet-up this time and truly let her go.

You being her text buddie and being there for her isn't what they mean by the "setting her free and if she comes back" thing. IMO you haven't set her free yet despite being apart and dating other people. You changing back to "alpha" might get her in bed but when you wake up she'll still be the flake that can't commit....meaning she needs to change not you.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 04-18-2013, 02:16 PM

Problem is, out of the 200 or so I've met in my life, I haven't found one that comes remotely close.

I'm not going to settle for a half-ass, mediocre relationship either like 90% of people do.

Maybe that leaves me single the rest of my life. I really don't care. I've been single for 5 years now aside from many short-term women. Doesn't bother me one bit. I'm doing quite well in life. George Clooney is too.

And she knows...I'm not fucking around this time. This is it. She needs to shit or get off the pot. I will not let this game continue. She may be able to live without me in her life and be just fine. If she wanted to let go completely she would have though...and she can't. Why? Because I feel she connected with me emotionally more than any other man in her life, ever. Women need that from men too, regardless of how well they like completely dominating males.

**allbaugh_04** · 04-18-2013, 03:50 PM

All I know is don't settle man. I feel the exact same way and I don't think I will find anybody either, but it's not going to stop me from trying.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 04-18-2013, 06:12 PM

I almost did once. Dated a girl for 6.5 yrs who gave me everything on a silver platter. Was engaged even. 4 months before the wedding I called it off. Just wasn't as happy as I wanted to be.

I've dated some awesome girls. Made some mistakes along the way, learned from every last one of them and won't ever make them again.

I decided to see what was good on his FB page. He quoted "wait for the person who is willing to give it their all in a relationship" or some shit like that. Even changed his cover page to reflect a quote about "live life in the present...don't worry about the future and forget the past".

That's where macho man aka model boy and me are different. While I am a sensitive guy, I don't have a vagina. Women already have one of those and don't need another one.

Truthfully- if she likes that kind of shit, I'm not for her anyhow. I'm not a pushover. I used to be. Another mistake learned.

One thing is certain...I feel absolutely no sadness or guilt. I have a completely clear conscious too.

I gave her the chance. She can live with her decisions. Glad I don't have to.

I love that.

I'll post again in here when I can upload an image of us together...and not until then.

Sorry for my mangina in the past fellow LS1 brothers. Won't happen again. Scouts honor.

**suede** · 04-19-2013, 01:43 PM

I feel like this is the type of convo women have on "girls night" lmao

**GTP231** · 04-21-2013, 06:05 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

At this point I am being the Alpha male and calling the shots.

Its cute you believe that. Responding to her when she comes a calling or texting is not calling the shots. It still appears she's still running things and I guarantee she sees it that way also...