Ex-boyfriend deal...

**waldo** · 05-01-2009, 06:55 AM

Originally Posted by Musclefan21

she says that they dont hang out which i believe and she promises never to call them but IF they call her, she will answer and chat with them over the phone. I asked her to not even do that, get them out her life completely but refuses to do that.

am I being ridiculous? should i just let it go and relax? but I just think this way, if she really cared, wouldn't she just let them go for me?

what would you honestly do?

god this shit gives me a headache

Neither one of you should be giving up friends. Live an exclusive life and you’ll find yourself lonely in the future.

**Zboner** · 05-01-2009, 08:33 AM

we all know the only reason to "stay" friends with an EX is that there is always a possibility of a late night hook up thats the only reason, I personally have no female friends. Its pointless I dont like putting up with there shit, why should I put up with it if im not getting any ass from them. Pretty simple to me in my eyes.

**mrwdjv** · 05-01-2009, 09:52 AM

Originally Posted by DUBB

lolwut, werent u just bitching about your bf doing the same thing in another thread?

Yes, however his ex was "the one who got away" that his has been in love with for years! I just didn't feel the need to go into all the history!

**gd1996** · 05-01-2009, 11:44 AM

I never had any girls that I could just keep as friends. In the end they always ended up liking me, wanting to date me, etc... And you can see some of the comments of why guys keep talking to their ex's, I did the same thing. At least 90% of guys who have a hot chick friend want to hook up with them. It comes down to if you trust her or not.

I've been with my girl for ove a year and a half and there were probally 3 different times for 2 months at a time we broke up and did our own thing... only one time I was hooking up with her the whole time at least once a week. And tha's only because I turned her down.

So like I said before either deal with it or move on... it's not going to go away. People don't change over night.

**4thtimes charm** · 05-01-2009, 01:25 PM

Originally Posted by Musclefan21

this is my serious gf, serious responds only dude!

i think he was

but in all honesty you can't tell her who she can and can't talk to truth of the matter is if she really cares about you when the exes call she will tell them she is in a serious relationship. Your job is to make sure she has no reason to talk to anyone else...romance her to death....and that's not picking up some bar-b-que and gettin busy. gotta do the little stuff to keep her happy
and remind her that exes are exes for a reason

**ztrouble** · 05-01-2009, 01:42 PM

Originally Posted by 4thtimes charm

i think he was

but in all honesty you can't tell her who she can and can't talk to truth of the matter is if she really cares about you when the exes call she will tell them she is in a serious relationship. Your job is to make sure she has no reason to talk to anyone else...romance her to death....and that's not picking up some bar-b-que and gettin busy. gotta do the little stuff to keep her happy
and remind her that exes are exes for a reason

bullshit my bitch loves BBQ... course she's 6'4, tree fity, and drive a mack truck

**4thtimes charm** · 05-01-2009, 01:50 PM

Originally Posted by ztrouble

bullshit my bitch loves BBQ... course she's 6'4, tree fity, and drive a mack truck

that's funny

**bmyers** · 05-01-2009, 02:18 PM

post pics of gf then post poll for dumpage or not to be dumped

**raynor139** · 05-01-2009, 02:46 PM

Originally Posted by Mr. Luos

In my experiences.....ex's aren't to be friends.

He is right. Every experience ive had with GFs being friends with there ex's have ended badly.

**anniversary30** · 05-01-2009, 03:04 PM

Too many girlfriend, boyfriend issues going on in here. EVERYBODY with issues break up and find someone else.......they aren't worth it. Go out and get some strange, you'll feel better, I swear!!!!!

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 05-01-2009, 03:47 PM

Originally Posted by Musclefan21

ok what do you guys think about this? I have argued with my girl over this many times and she compromised some but not all the way. I said i dont want that BS, drop them cold and she says that they are her friends, that they dont hang out, every once in a while they talk over the phone saying "hi, hi". I asked her to delete them off of her facebook, myspace and delete all the pics and after a long debate she did it and she said that she wont call them anymore but if they call her she will answer and talk to them. I said why cant you just drop them, she says that they are friends and she cares about them as friends! well this BS put a "question mark" in my head and I started to have trust issues. she says that her reason for not dropping them is cuz what i am doing is controlling and when i mention that i do not trust her and she created this trust issue in me, she says that get over it, i dont do anything wrong.

am I being ridiculous? is she on the right here? what are your opinions here?

I wanna clear my head because I think about this a lot and it gives me head ache and i end up arguing with her and i really want all this to stop. she obviously wont stop talking to them even though she has compromised some and i am bothered to know the fact that when they call, she talks to them. how can I fix this?

thanks!

Use your head man...you're a guy so you know exactly what these "ex's" are thinking. Soon as you fuck up they'll be ballz deep. You're not insecure or any of that garbage....who in their right mind what's their "serious g/f" talking to some dudes that have fucked her in the past? If she can't break it off then do yourself the favor and become an ex yourself.

**ezwip** · 05-01-2009, 04:15 PM

Originally Posted by Musclefan21

She obviously wont stop talking to them even though she has compromised some and i am bothered to know the fact that when they call, she talks to them. how can I fix this?

Ahhh, I've never dated a woman that is online. They flirt and talk non stop to guys. They collect them like pokemon cards. If they break up with some dork online they'll have another one by the end of the day. You might get online and look at some nudies or something but you're probably not jumping at the chance to talk the entire time to some chick. I know I'm not. What do you think she's going to do? Listen to some music and find a dude. You know I'm right. Drop her like a bad habit dude. Try to find one that doesn't know a damn thing about computers. Because once they are regulars online they are turned out and talking to guys anytime you turn around. Go to the hood and get you a lady their parents can't afford the internet.

**tnthub** · 05-01-2009, 07:13 PM

If you trust her why be upset? If you don't trust her either you have a real reason or you are simple insecure.

I have an ex girlfriend my wife and I will be visiting on vacation this summer...

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 05-01-2009, 07:34 PM

^^^weird

**1badchicken** · 05-03-2009, 07:54 PM

look up oxytosin,

that should give you your answer, quit wasting your time and move on.
Nothing positive will come out of this situation.

**TARZAN** · 05-03-2009, 08:01 PM

If its really this big a deal, then a couple things are apparent

1.) You don't trust her, theres probably a reason for it

2.) She's nto worried about your relationship enough to change things.

Cut the string, recast.....plenty of fish in the sea.

-Will

**310stanger** · 05-03-2009, 09:36 PM

dude, get rid of her. Girls talk to ex's because theres underlying issues or "unfinished business", they know they have a history together and girls like convenience, so if you two have problems shes going right back to any one of these ex's she has in her bullpen. Do you think for a minute that any of her ex's are calling her because they just wanna see how she's doing? Be honest with yourselves guys, how many of you truly have girls that are ONLY friends, if you do I can guarantee you they were never real GF's. Guyfriends are just guys that are waiting in line to fuck your girlfriend.

ps. Sleeperc5 is probably fucking her

**Kjz99z28** · 05-04-2009, 01:54 AM

Originally Posted by ls1blackbeauty98

i personally think it all comes down to the type of girl..

she is a guys girl (like alot of the girls on here) where guys are JUST FRIENDS, they talk about cars, car shows, new performance mods they're doing, new cars, sports, girlfriend issues they are having blah blah blah all that crap OR

is she a girly girl that has no common interests with guys?

in my opinion if shes a girly girl that honestly has no common interests that FRIENDS would talk about maybe you have a point to be mad (and u prolly do, girls like that crave all the attention and drama its causing) BUT if shes the kinda guys girls that just loves hobbies that mostly guys are interested in....then maybe you're being a bit ridiculious.... i talk to my guy friends all the time, and they are JUST FRIENDS completely, guys ive known for years (5+) they are like brothers to me, if thats her case then trust her, if not dump her drama sucks.

I didn't read anything after this, but just thought I'd quote it cause I definitely agree with a lot of it.

I'm a guy's girl. I have a ton of guy friends. There's nothing between me and any of them really (I mean lets be honest, occasionally there's the awkward moment when somebody gets hit on and you have to make intentions clear.. but it's pretty rare.) and I love having them around. My guy friends keep me grounded. Listening to them bitch about the shit their girlfriends pull has made me who I am today.

I know what NOT to do.

Anywho. I can't imagine giving up all my guy friends that I've known for years. Even if one or two of them is an ex. It just depends on the individual situation. I have an ex that I'm friends with that I've known for like 6 years now. We dated 3 or 4 years ago. We're just friends. And if I ever dated anybody insecure enough to tell me to cut him or any other of my guy friends completely from my life because they don't trust me, I'd be pissed. I care about him (definitely in a totally friends-only way), and he's been around to help me out more than a time or two.

You can say all you want that "it's the guy you have to worry about, even if you trust her." But that's not true. Even if her guy friend DOES have other intentions than just being friends, in the end nothing will EVER happen unless she wants it to. She probably doesn't.

**JAGUAR5822** · 05-04-2009, 02:54 AM

Originally Posted by 310stanger

Girls talk to ex's because theres underlying issues or "unfinished business", they know they have a history together and girls like convenience, so if you two have problems shes going right back to any one of these ex's she has in her bullpen. Do you think for a minute that any of her ex's are calling her because they just wanna see how she's doing? Be honest with yourselves guys, how many of you truly have girls that are ONLY friends, if you do I can guarantee you they were never real GF's. Guyfriends are just guys that are waiting in line to fuck your girlfriend.

Dude you are 100% on the money, at least with most girls my age, I can't tell you how hard it is to convince a girl that 99% of her guy friends are only her friends because they want to fuck her. You guys should all read this, it's hilarious and so much of it is true. http://www.laddertheory.com/

Originally Posted by Kjz99z28

You can say all you want that "it's the guy you have to worry about, even if you trust her." But that's not true. Even if her guy friend DOES have other intentions than just being friends, in the end nothing will EVER happen unless she wants it to. She probably doesn't.

I will never understand why guys always feel the need to blame and beat up/kill the other guy that she cheated with and stay together with her, it was her decision to cheat, and it's already been displayd in this very thread!

**cammed goat** · 05-04-2009, 04:41 AM

Originally Posted by 310stanger

dude, get rid of her. Girls talk to ex's because theres underlying issues or "unfinished business", they know they have a history together and girls like convenience, so if you two have problems shes going right back to any one of these ex's she has in her bullpen. Do you think for a minute that any of her ex's are calling her because they just wanna see how she's doing? Be honest with yourselves guys, how many of you truly have girls that are ONLY friends, if you do I can guarantee you they were never real GF's. Guyfriends are just guys that are waiting in line to fuck your girlfriend.

ps. Sleeperc5 is probably fucking her

There ya go.

But seriously, does she compare you to her exes? If so, then move on. I have heard that relationships die because of camparisons or "unfinished business". From working in a mall for a few years all the idiosyncratic ways were revealed from conversations I have heard.

GOD I LOVE CARS...problems can be fixed. Women...not so much.