Ex-boyfriend deal...

**SS02** · 04-30-2009, 11:37 PM

Originally Posted by Sweet Chops

WOW and I have 6 Mickey's in me.LOL

I love the Little Green bottle... cheap beer tonight for me! Broke, I am!
I am guessing he is well under 27... U hit the head on the nail, I am sure!

**Sweet Chops** · 04-30-2009, 11:48 PM

That is what I am thinking. I was dated my now wife for 5 years before I married her. The first 2 years I kept my options open. I am so glad I made the right choice, she FUCKING GREAT.

**Sweet Chops** · 04-30-2009, 11:51 PM

OH and the last cap on Mickey's said. Get this "STICK A SOCK IN IT."

**Sweet Chops** · 05-01-2009, 12:00 AM

Originally Posted by SS02

I love the Little Green bottle... cheap beer tonight for me! Broke, I am!
I am guessing he is well under 27... U hit the head on the nail, I am sure!

I'm sure you knew this before I could even buy a beer. But the Little Green Bottle is a Gernade.

Have you ever had MICKEY'S ICE? Now that shit will FUCK you up. The Moible gas station close to me has it in 40oz. BTW im not black. I just like MALT LIQUOR.

SWEET CHOPS

**DrMilhouse** · 05-01-2009, 12:16 AM

I haven't read the posts. uhmmmm.... lame.

Insecure much?

You've got your own trust issues to begin with and until you can deal with that, you're gonna have issues trusting anyone.

With your insecurities, your trust issues, your obnoxious need to be in control of her, you're just setting yourself up to piss her off to go back to some ex that she had that that was better than you.

It's what some people would call a self fulfilling prophesy when you start getting that way and start losing the trust. You lost trust, then you get insecure, then you get controlling, and then they start getting freaked out and they do something and the relationship is done.

There ya have it - DrMilhouse's point of view which is not necessarily "the truth", but it's one possible way to see things.

**Sweet Chops** · 05-01-2009, 12:27 AM

Originally Posted by DrMilhouse

I haven't read the posts. uhmmmm.... lame.

Insecure much?

You've got your own trust issues to begin with and until you can deal with that, you're gonna have issues trusting anyone.

With your insecurities, your trust issues, your obnoxious need to be in control of her, you're just setting yourself up to piss her off to go back to some ex that she had that that was better than you.

It's what some people would call a self fulfilling prophesy when you start getting that way and start losing the trust. You lost trust, then you get insecure, then you get controlling, and then they start getting freaked out and they do something and the relationship is done.

There ya have it - DrMilhouse's point of view which is not necessarily "the truth", but it's one possible way to see things.

This guy has the time line figured out. If thats what you you to happen. just follow the writings on the wall. Or if she is a good girl and know that. Sit her down and talk to her. There is nothing better than communication.

**ArcticZ06** · 05-01-2009, 02:06 AM

The ex's that I am still friends with I still hook up with every once in a while.

**FORD RECOVERY EXPERT** · 05-01-2009, 02:44 AM

Originally Posted by Musclefan21

this is my serious gf, serious responds only dude!

I am serious....

JoshieDoom style up in here...

**gd1996** · 05-01-2009, 03:34 AM

I deal with the same bs... and it's more than one ex. It didn't bother me til we broke up and she started dating the most recent one over a year ago. Of course I was out having my fun at the same time with a new one and still hear about that from her lol. But like mentioned if your insecure its going to cause problems, fighting, etc... She was over last night and guess who sends her a text! All I can say is either just deal with it and don't let it bother you or dump her and be done with it because it is just going to get to you. Women love attention, if its from an ex or whoever. I still hear from some of my ex's, but to me theres a reason they are ex's.

And at this point if she says shes not talking to any of them all of a sudden... shes lying!

**cammed goat** · 05-01-2009, 04:44 AM

I honestly have no clue what I would do. Never been in a serious relationship. But I tend to be cynical. I have that "be ready to walk away" mentality.

**Too Fast** · 05-01-2009, 05:05 AM

Without reading all previous posts in detail, I'd say you have some control issues. You are like, you are gonna do things only the way I say, or else. She has compromised. If you can too, and then prove to her over time you do actually trust her and you aren't controlling, things will be golden.

Ever seen controlling relationship outcomes? Not pretty....

Serious reply.

**pajeff02** · 05-01-2009, 05:21 AM

Did she delete my picture too!?

**krese** · 05-01-2009, 05:22 AM

as Chris Rock said "A platonic friend for a woman is like a dick in a glass case. In case of emergency break open glass.'"

i have nailed most of my ex GFs at one point or another... it is just easy to do!

i would take it as a sign of disrespect and would dump her. life is too short to deal with such petty things and there are many many many many others out there to pick from. when you are young and dumb it is hard to see and that is a shame because that is when you have the most fun....

**ls1blackbeauty98** · 05-01-2009, 05:32 AM

i personally think it all comes down to the type of girl..

she is a guys girl (like alot of the girls on here) where guys are JUST FRIENDS, they talk about cars, car shows, new performance mods they're doing, new cars, sports, girlfriend issues they are having blah blah blah all that crap OR

is she a girly girl that has no common interests with guys?

in my opinion if shes a girly girl that honestly has no common interests that FRIENDS would talk about maybe you have a point to be mad (and u prolly do, girls like that crave all the attention and drama its causing) BUT if shes the kinda guys girls that just loves hobbies that mostly guys are interested in....then maybe you're being a bit ridiculious.... i talk to my guy friends all the time, and they are JUST FRIENDS completely, guys ive known for years (5+) they are like brothers to me, if thats her case then trust her, if not dump her drama sucks.

**01ws6er** · 05-01-2009, 05:39 AM

Is there a reason you don't want her talking to her ex's? Maybe she ran off with one while you were together...? If not, then who gives a shit! You have to trust her or you shouldn't be together, bottom line. You have to have trust to have a non controlling, successful relationship and that trust has to be mutual. I know for damn sure the reason why my girl and I ended our 6 year relationship was because of trust issues (mostly on my part)...They ended up being correct, but it also led to us breaking up.

Choice is yours: Put your tail between your legs and say your sorry for being controlling and that you want to make up for it and really put forth an effort to trust her, OR end the relationship, because all you are doing is prolonging the inevitable.

Serious reply

**ArcticZ06** · 05-01-2009, 05:52 AM

Originally Posted by ls1blackbeauty98

i personally think it all comes down to the type of girl..

she is a guys girl (like alot of the girls on here) where guys are JUST FRIENDS, they talk about cars, car shows, new performance mods they're doing, new cars, sports, girlfriend issues they are having blah blah blah all that crap OR

is she a girly girl that has no common interests with guys?

in my opinion if shes a girly girl that honestly has no common interests that FRIENDS would talk about maybe you have a point to be mad (and u prolly do, girls like that crave all the attention and drama its causing) BUT if shes the kinda guys girls that just loves hobbies that mostly guys are interested in....then maybe you're being a bit ridiculious.... i talk to my guy friends all the time, and they are JUST FRIENDS completely, guys ive known for years (5+) they are like brothers to me, if thats her case then trust her, if not dump her drama sucks.

+1 what she said.

I have absolutely nothing to talk about with the ex's I have hooked up with after the breakup. I actually think I got along with them better after we broke things off but I still have no desire to call most of them.

On the other hand I have plenty of girls that are just friends that are like sisters to me that I talk to ALL the time. If I started dating a girl that wasn't comfortable with me talking to them I would probably try to cut down on it a bit.

**chiller2484** · 05-01-2009, 06:02 AM

i only stayed friends with my ex-girl to try and get back with her. then i met my wife and haven't talked to my ex in years. my wife talks to a guy she dated for about 6 years every few months just to see how he's doing. she never tries to hide the fact that she talks to him and tells me when she does. i know she only does it because his life is pretty screwed up and he was a big part of her life at one time, but they are friends. plus, he lives in florida.

now, i forebode her to talk to the guy that still lives here in NC mainly because he tried to get her to come over for a booty call...after we were married! if i ever meet him, i'll knock his teeth down his throat.

**01ws6er** · 05-01-2009, 06:05 AM

Originally Posted by chiller2484

i only stayed friends with my ex-girl to try and get back with her. then i met my wife and haven't talked to my ex in years. my wife talks to a guy she dated for about 6 years every few months just to see how he's doing. she never tries to hide the fact that she talks to him and tells me when she does. i know she only does it because his life is pretty screwed up and he was a big part of her life at one time, but they are friends. plus, he lives in florida.

now, i forebode her to talk to the guy that still lives here in NC mainly because he tried to get her to come over for a booty call...after we were married! if i ever meet him, i'll knock his teeth down his throat.

ahh, yes that would deserve an ass kicking!

**waldo** · 05-01-2009, 06:44 AM

Relax until she gives you a reason to be insecure. I feel it’s healthy to have a cordial relationship with an ex. Her talking to an ex doesn’t mean she has feeling other then friendship for them. If you’re truly serious about this girl don’t mess it up with petty jealousy. Some things to question (to yourself) and analyze why you feel you even needed to ask for an outside opinion……………..

Why did she split up with her ex?
Does her ex even what her back?
How have your past relationships ended and why? Have you been cheated on in the past?
Be sure you’re not holding this girl accountable for the mistakes of your past relationships.

Always remember: jealousy is a stinky cologne, and you should trust until you have a definitive reason not to trust…..and then move on quickly.

**waldo** · 05-01-2009, 06:50 AM

Originally Posted by 0rion

dump her...life is too short for the drama. You'll never trust her completely and I can see why. Start calling some of your old ex's while she's in the same room and see how she reacts.

Drama seems to be a part of society nowadays, it’s just what each individual deems drama. I disagree with the advice to call ex’s, game play is throwing fuel on the fire, nothing good can come of it.