Originally Posted by
Kjz99z28
I get that. I really do.. but part of it is vowing to work through those changes, and to change together.
I know that that doesn't work 100% of the time. I know that shit happens sometimes, and the only thing you can do is call it quits.
But that doesn't mean I have to give up on marriage as a whole, and definitely doesn't mean that if/when I find someone I am devoted to enough to make that commitment that I shouldn't, or that I should set it up for failure, or that I can't give it 100% and try my hardest to make it work.
My parents are the perfect example of all the odds stacked against them, and they still have made it work, and they are actually still happy. They got married right after HS, were young, blah blah blah, and this year was 25 years. They've had one HUGE problem that I can think of, but they worked through it. I was honestly afraid they weren't going to make it for a few days there, but they pulled through, and I can seriously say that they seem happier now than they were before.
I am an optimist. If anybody says "Why get married? X amount of marriages just end in divorce." Then I say "Well, that means X amount of people are in marriages that DO work." When it does work, I think it's a wonderful thing, and it's something that I believe in and one day will work toward.
