my best friends ex woman took her life last night.

**SexOnWheels** · 05-03-2006, 09:54 AM

Originally Posted by toneloc60

Suicide is the most horrible death to leave your loved ones to deal with. Not only does it leave everyone wondering where they failed and how they could have prevented it, but it now makes it seem just a little bit more acceptable to others that suffer from the same tendencies.

Not knowing how you feel, or even how to feel is normal too. Personally there is nothing more annoying to me than seeing those people at a wake or at a funeral who seem just dandy until they get near the body or casket and then just all of a sudden are overly sad and somber. My older sister does that. I seriously think she forces the tears at funerals because she wants to present an appearance.

So, just be yourself. If a tear comes to your eye, it's okay to let it fall. If not, it's okay to just stand there respectfully quiet. As long as it's not during the service, it's even okay to laugh and joke a little.

I just hope that 13 year old has a lot of people keeping an eye on her. Damn, that's an impressional age to have your mom off herself. Like I said before, it may not be now or in the near future, but at some point that kid is going to be having some tough times and think it's okay to kill herself. Hey, mom did it. And sadly, that and and depression is how some families have a lot of history with suicide.

Very well said tone.

Of course you do not know how to feel as this was not an accident or fatal disease, it was something she did to herself.

**Motrv8d Steve** · 05-03-2006, 09:56 AM

well if she had mental problems, she was prolly bipolar. That is really rough as my mom was also. It's quite a roller coaster ride with that.
Everything happens for a reason, you just have to accept it and move on. It's hard though.

**norm43a** · 05-03-2006, 10:01 AM

There is some truth to being genetically pre-disposed to suicide. And I agree that the child needs alot of support. I know my neice and nephew have had alot of family that cared for them, but between the two of them, their lives are on different tracks because of the suicide.

Having said that, I know for myself at least, I have never thought of ending my life. However, my youngest son (28) has told me that he thinks of it sometimes. He and Brandon we a year apart and although Brandon was the youngest, Tommy looked up to him for certain things.

**DrMilhouse** · 05-03-2006, 05:18 PM

I lost a friend a few years ago. He hung himself in his apartment. I knew he was on some meds for depression and had been having a rough time. I'd went out with him to lunch earlier that week. He actually seemed happier then than he seemed in a long time. People told me that's just how suicidal people get when they've made up their mind to do it. Things stress them out less because it'll be over soon for them. I never would have thought it. I know a close aquaintance/not so close friend of his, even I felt terrible and somewhat responsible like maybe at lunch earlier that week if I'd just asked... "How are you?" and meant it, he might have vented or whatever.

Suicide is a terrible thing.

I hope that her daughter gets the help she needs.

**Modulistic** · 05-03-2006, 05:55 PM

ill bet money she was on psychotropic medication and she quit them cold turkey. it causes pyschotic breaks and other bad things.

**1fastcamarosss11** · 05-03-2006, 11:14 PM

Originally Posted by Modulistic

ill bet money she was on psychotropic medication and she quit them cold turkey. it causes pyschotic breaks and other bad things.

if was one drugs with she could have been she's the type that wouldn't quit. maybe that was a problem, the wake is thurs night so i may find a few more things out. wish me luck guys.

after i'm sure.

**Liquifire** · 05-05-2006, 01:04 AM

good luck..........

**1fastcamarosss11** · 05-05-2006, 09:31 AM

well the wake was last night it was hard but not to bad, i saw a lot of people that were in my life when i was young. the poeple were all cool. (dora the one who took her life) looked very pale and her eyes were sonk in. other wise looked like her. i found out that a friend of mine from way back found her and not the daughter. he's 3 years older then me. i have kids so to see this womans daughter it was the hardest to have a 13 year old girl look at he mom dead, and for the only reason that she took here life is really fucked up.
so at this time i would like to thank all of you for you surport, and advice in a time for need for me. thank you all.

**myss** · 05-05-2006, 10:39 AM

Originally Posted by KyleLs1

that is so sad.. seems to be happening quite a bit lately
http://www.ls1tech.com/forums/showthread.php?t=499099

UNFORTUNATELY, YOU HEAR ALOT ABOUT SUICIDE IN THE SPRING, YOU WOULD THINK WITH ALL THE NEW BEGINNINGS (NATURE, ECT) AND BEAUTY THE SPRING BRINGS, IT WOULD BRING OUT THE BEST IN ALL OF US. I REALLY FEEL FOR THE PEOPLE SHE HAS LEFT BEHIND ESPECIALLY HER DAUGHTER. WHAT A HARD THING TO GO THROUGH AT THAT AGE, WHEN YOU ARE ASKING SOME MANY QUESTIONS ABOUT LIFE IN GENERAL.

**1fastcamarosss11** · 05-12-2006, 01:01 AM

i thank you all for the help and support. thanks again jeremy

**Liquifire** · 05-12-2006, 01:04 AM

how is her daughter doing???

BIGRED Z · 05-12-2006, 01:15 AM

Good question. Especially as it is important to dicuss the probability od hereditary mental illnesses like bipolar etc. She will need to be aware of this at the appropriate age.

Lori