Dating - A hard road to walk down

[StuntmanMike]

No worries man. I know. I'm just messing too. I think my biggest hangup on women is that now that I'm single after all this time, I still think I am 24. I don't look my age or feel my age at all (granted I know 31 isn't old). Therefore, it seems all the girls I am attracted to are a lot younger than me (22-25). In my experience, girls this age don't want anything to do with guys my age.

Haha, I'm right with you on that one! I just turned 31 (I hate admitting that, lol), and still feel the same way I did when I was 24/25. Hell, I have more fun now that when I was 21/22!

The thing I don't like about women my age is that most of them have some sort of baggage, like ex husbands or kids. Idon't have any baggage like that, so I don't want it in a mate. That's why I like 25 to say 28 y/olds, they don't have that baggage for the most part. And this may sound shallow, but hey, I look young, I want a chick who looks young. I'm starting to think of a long term ralationship, so if she looks old at 30, what's 40 going to bring?

And some girls don't mind the age...I got hit on by a 20 year old recently, I told her ho old I was, and she was shocked, and then said well, age doesn't mean anything.

Every once in a while I feel like I'm behind the curve being in my 30's and not married, when I was younger I never thought this would be the case, I never had much luck with women when I was younger, but I just figured it'd happen.

I've gotten alot better over the past 5 years or so, and I'm having fun with it now. I actually LIKE going on dates with different girls, I enjoy the first few dates and getting to know someone.

Luckily, I hate kids, so I don't have to be worried about that. If I wanted kids I'd be bummed now, as I think I'm actually a little past the age of when I think it's good to have kids.

Anyway, don't let it get you down, just go out and have fun. Hit on some girls at the bar, and don't mention your age.

Oh, and kudos on owning your own home...I'm not even anywhere close to that.

[Blackbird WS6]

the biggest porblem now adays with girls is they have there head up there ass and dont forget about those DAMMM DGs hahahaha

j/k 35th hows the car runing?

[35th-ANV-SS]

Haha, I'm right with you on that one! I just turned 31 (I hate admitting that, lol), and still feel the same way I did when I was 24/25. Hell, I have more fun now that when I was 21/22!

The thing I don't like about women my age is that most of them have some sort of baggage, like ex husbands or kids. Idon't have any baggage like that, so I don't want it in a mate. That's why I like 25 to say 28 y/olds, they don't have that baggage for the most part. And this may sound shallow, but hey, I look young, I want a chick who looks young. I'm starting to think of a long term ralationship, so if she looks old at 30, what's 40 going to bring?

And some girls don't mind the age...I got hit on by a 20 year old recently, I told her ho old I was, and she was shocked, and then said well, age doesn't mean anything.

Every once in a while I feel like I'm behind the curve being in my 30's and not married, when I was younger I never thought this would be the case, I never had much luck with women when I was younger, but I just figured it'd happen.

I've gotten alot better over the past 5 years or so, and I'm having fun with it now. I actually LIKE going on dates with different girls, I enjoy the first few dates and getting to know someone.

Luckily, I hate kids, so I don't have to be worried about that. If I wanted kids I'd be bummed now, as I think I'm actually a little past the age of when I think it's good to have kids.

Anyway, don't let it get you down, just go out and have fun. Hit on some girls at the bar, and don't mention your age.

Oh, and kudos on owning your own home...I'm not even anywhere close to that.

Are you my long lost twin? lmao. Thanks for the reply. I feel ya on that 100%. I'm finding out the same stuff with women around my age. I also have no kids and have never been married. Not that it's a complete show stopper for me if a girl does or has been, but I am kinda like you and feel like I don't want that baggage.

[35th-ANV-SS]

the biggest porblem now adays with girls is they have there head up there ass and dont forget about those DAMMM DGs hahahaha

j/k 35th hows the car runing?

Gotta love those DGs lol.

Car is NOT running at all right now lol. Hell, not even in the garage. She's at EPP getting the trans upgraded to level IV from RPM, a Spec Stage 3+ clutch, and a new Hurst performance shifter. Also having the ABS issue resolved on the Moser 9". Once all that's complete, lastly a DYNO tune. When I get her back, hopefully she'll be running better than ever.

I guess one good part about being single is I wouldn't have been able to do all of these mods over the last several months otherwise...

[Blackbird WS6]

Gotta love those DGs lol.

Car is NOT running at all right now lol. Hell, not even in the garage. She's at EPP getting the trans upgraded to level IV from RPM, a Spec Stage 3+ clutch, and a new Hurst performance shifter. Also having the ABS issue resolved on the Moser 9". Once all that's complete, lastly a DYNO tune. When I get her back, hopefully she'll be running better than ever.

I guess one good part about being single is I wouldn't have been able to do all of these mods over the last several months otherwise...

true dat sounds good lol but if all eles goes to hell you can always run over some DGs with that 9" and new trans just like i do always fun haha

but the right one is out there for you just give it some time, it took me some time but now i found her so all is good, no need to rush work on the maro then start working on the girl thing so she doesnt have to yell at you about all the money and time your spend on the car lol

[35th-ANV-SS]

Haha no doubt. Looks like I'll be single for another 2 years until after I get that supercharger on her lmao.

[doozjamann]

This should help all you single guys. J/K in advance. Study it.

The Men's Guide to What Women Really Mean By...

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At long last... The Men's Guide to what a woman really means when she says something. Pay close attention (there WILL be a quiz later).


You want
= You want

We need
= I want

It's your decision
= The correct decision should be obvious by now.

Do what you want
= You'll pay for this later.

We need to talk
= I need to complain

Sure... go ahead
= I don't want you to.

I'm not upset
= Of course I'm upset, you moron!

You're ... so manly
= You need a shave and you sweat a lot.

You're certainly attentive tonight.
= Is sex all you ever think about?

I'm not emotional! And I'm not overreacting!
= I'm on my period.

Be romantic, turn out the lights.
= I have flabby thighs.

This kitchen is so inconvenient
= I want a new house.

I want new curtains
= and carpeting, and furniture, and wallpaper.....

I need wedding shoes
= the other 40 pairs are the wrong shade of white.

Hang the picture there
= NO, I mean hang it there!

I heard a noise
= I noticed you were almost asleep.

Do you love me?
= I'm going to ask for something expensive.

How much do you love me?
= I did something today you're really not going to like.

I'll be ready in a minute.
= Kick off your shoes and find a good game on T.V.

Is my butt fat?
= Tell me I'm beautiful.

You have to learn to communicate.
= Just agree with me.

Are you listening to me!?
= [Too late, you're dead.]

Yes
= No

No
= No

Maybe
= No

I'm sorry.
= You'll be sorry.

Do you like this recipe?
= It's easy to fix, so you'd better get used to it.

Was that the baby?
= Why don't you get out of bed and walk him until he goes to sleep.

I'm not yelling!
= Yes I am yelling because I think this is important.

All we're going to buy is a soap dish
= It goes without saying that we're stopping at the cosmetics department, the shoe department, I need to look at a few new pocket books, and OMIGOD those pink sheets would look great in the bedroom and did you bring your checkbook?
(The answer to "What's wrong?")

The same old thing
= Nothing

Nothing
= Everything

Everything
= My PMS is acting up

Nothing, really
= It's just that you're such an jerk

I don't want to talk about it
= Go away, I'm still building up steam

[davered00ss]

You need to post pic's of the chick you dumped.

[infantryws6]

You need to post nude pic's of the chick you dumped.

fixed

[issues]

my advice is if u think dating is a hard road to walk down then

WALK HARD

[35th-ANV-SS]

wow longest post ever

FINALLY! I can be put down in the record books for something!!!

[86 IROC-Z]

[clovenhooves]

I've been playing around with the idea that, between the early twenties and early thirties, if you don't date much (preexisting relationships don't count) and/or don't age much, you will not get used to the look of most women your age. (Guys who drive muscle cars don't go for the notable exception of Asian women? I don't.) On the other hand, you probably will (unrealistically) expect more maturity from women. So things are made really tough, yes. Anyway, that was a great essay, man.

[35th-ANV-SS]

I've been playing around with the idea that, between the early twenties and early thirties, if you don't date much (preexisting relationships don't count) and/or don't age much, you will not get used to the look of most women your age. (Guys who drive muscle cars don't go for the notable exception of Asian women? I don't.) On the other hand, you probably will (unrealistically) expect more maturity from women. So things are made really tough, yes. Anyway, that was a great essay, man.

I really never thought of it like that. I agree. I haven't aged much at all. When I go out with my younger brothers (23 & 25), most girls think I am about 24-26. And it seems, that most bars/clubs are filled with girls that are anywhere from 21-26. As you mention, I do indeed expect more maturity, along with other qualities that come with age. Not to say though, the last girl I met and was hanging out with was 29 and she still didn't have her stuff together.

[67CamaroRSSS]

Some chicks never do get it together. My ex-wife is 52 and living at home with her mom.

[ZAPFOOL!!]

My ex-wife is 52 and living at home with her mom.

talk about easy to bring up in an agrument

[nhraformula]

Nothing much going on with this thread. I'm just venting and sharing some thoughts at the moment. This isn't exactly your macho, yeah I just kicked a WS6's ass thread or I finally got my MS3 cam installed today so feel free to write what you may. Not trying to use this site as a dating service either, not my style so keep those comments to yourself lol. I know this is a place for speaking your mind as well about cars, so here goes nothing...

So here I am at the age of 31 and single. I always thought for sure that I would have had a family started by now. I mean I started dating seriously at the age of 16 and never looked back on my life once until now. My last girlfriend I met when I was 24. She was 19. We dated for 6-1/2 years. We had everything planned to get married. I bought the rings, had the hall booked, the photographer down payment. She had the invitations, the bride's dresses picked out and paid for, my wedding band, and the cake. We were supposed to get married in May of 2008. In January of 2008 I broke it off.

All-in-all, I have no regrets what-so-ever. I know I made the right decision. But now I have been single since and I just am not understanding women at the moment. Before, I didn't go a month without being single. I always had females approaching me asking for my number or wanting to go out. That doesn't seem to be the case anymore.

Not to toot my own horn, but I think I'm a pretty damn good catch. I mean I am pretty good looking (not a model, but I rate myself about a 7-1/2 or higher), I'm intelligent, I own my own home, I am pretty outgoing, I have a great job and am career oriented, and I own a bad-ass 4th gen SS. What else does a woman need lol?

I am really starting to learn that dating gets a lot harder with age. I guess at the age of 31, I finally know what I want in a woman and maybe that is just making my choices that much more limited. Since I was involved with a girl for such a long period of time, I have to admit, my dating techniques aren't probably as sharp as they used to be. But non the less, I thought I'd share my point of view on relationships. So here it goes.

Today I want to talk about relationships, and the subjects I feel that need to be addressed to make any relationship work and become something amazing. Not just your typical boyfriend and girlfriend type relationship, but something that is more than that. Best friends, soul mates, knowing you can always count on the other person, wanting to understand everything about them, always being there for them, being a great listener, providing support in every imaginable way. I am talking about true love. The type that you know exists because every time you see that person, your heart skips a beat. Every time you talk to that person, your face brightens with such a big smile your face hurts. Not being able to wait to spend time with that person every day should be a daily feeling. I am talking about picking up the phone to talk to them just for a minute and three hours later you are saying goodnight and wishing them sweet dreams.

Maybe it is just me, but this to me is what true love entails. Maybe I’m old fashioned, maybe not, but this is my fairy tale and below are the words I want to talk about that I feel make it up.

Romance is a word that so many guys are scared of. I just want to say to all the women out there, chivalry is not dead. There are a few of us men that want to show affection, want to open doors, want to stare into your eyes, and want to hold hands as we walk together through the mall. An occasional poem written to confess the true feelings of how you feel toward one another shouldn’t be a nuisance, but something you want to do. An occasional rose to show the appreciation for being there. A candle light home cooked meal, a quiet night at home cuddling and watching a movie, a soothing bubble bath, and oil massages. Women need to feel wanted. They need to be told how beautiful they are.

Being sensitive is an important aspect to making a relationship go the distance. It is so important to understand where women are coming from when they convey their feelings and emotions to you. You have to put yourself in their shoes. Women are very emotional and by taking the time to listen to everything they have to say before you make judgment is important. Don’t be hasty and jump to conclusions. Make sure you know all the facts before you pass judgment. We, as men, can more often than not become angry and take offense. However, if you remain calm and collective and “talk” about your feelings, you’ll soon see it is a much more effective way of dealing with all the small issues that arise in a relationship and often this method curse those small issues before they become full blown fights.

Selfishness cannot exist in a relationship. It is all about being able to provide to the needs of what your significant other needs and wants. Any choice you make, you should always take into consideration the affects of that choice and the impact it might have on your significant other. Relationships are a two-way street.

Security is another important word in regard to relationships. Women need to feel secure. What does security mean? To me, it means knowing that no matter what bad luck life brings you that you never have to worry about anything because you know that your significant other will do everything in their willpower to make things right. It means knowing that your significant other will always protect you in any situation. You never have to worry about being hurt.

Communication is key. You have to always have the communication doors open. Holding in feelings is never good, whether it involves a friend, a relative, or loved one. Too many times people think something but never say it and when they finally try to convey what they want, it is too late. Great communication is very healthy. You don’t have to have a deep discussion, but a simple question like “how is your day going” shows the other person that you care about them and their feelings. Never let any issue go too long without discussing it. You would be so surprised how a simple adult conversation about any problem can have a great outcome. Notice I said “adult” conversation. This means listening to everything the other person has to say before making your comments. Don’t argue, listen and speak with considerate words.

To me, having fun is probably one of the most important aspects of any relationship. There absolutely has to be laughter for it to work. Even if all the other things are there, if laughter if not present, it won’t last. This is why I think I have always tried to bring a smile to people’s faces. I like to tell funny stories, I like to share funny moments and tell jokes. Seeing someone else laugh because of me is really a true joy. I can’t really explain it, but it makes me feel so good inside. Besides jokes, I think having fun is all about trying new things and going to new places. I am always open to try new adventures. Hiking, picnics, amusement parks, restaurants, movies, bars, clubs, nights out on the town, the beach, sports or other psychical activities, traveling, four wheeling, jet skiing, and cruising are just a few of the things I like doing. I also think chilling at home can be really fun too. I love board games and cuddling and watching movies.

Last, but not least, I think being social is really important. I love being around crowds of friends and family. Friends and family are everything in life. And this subject ties nicely into one very important word: trust. It is all about trust in a relationship. Without trust, there is no relationship. I think for the most part, a lot of people have jealousy issues. We are all guilty of it at one time or another. To me, jealousy spells immaturity and insecurity though, which cannot exist in a relationship. You have to allow your significant other to have his or her own life outside of your life together. It is healthy. This means not getting pissed off when you see that a guy friend has called your girlfriend. I have found over the years that having a person of the opposite sex as a friend is very helpful and gives you a good perspective on things. Men and women have different angles on different perspectives and being able to get feedback and advice from each sex helps with any situation you may find yourself in, good or bad. Also, hanging out with the boys or girls, whichever your case may be, is needed from time to time. You can’t just spend every waking hour of each day with your significant other. Everyone needs time to do their own thing and experience life on their own time as well as with others. If you can’t give that respect to your significant other, than you are selling them short in life.

These are just a few of the things I think are important in relationships. Whether you agree or not does not matter, as everyone is entitled to their opinion and I respect that.

In this past year and a half, I've had some terrible shit happen to me. I've lost two grandmothers (same day exactly one year apart), canceled a wedding, lost my black lab Roxy, had some shitty luck with my house, and my car continues to play havoc with me. But, I always try to keep my head high. I have a whole new perspective on life and the joys it can bring.

I hope some of the feelings and insights I’ve shared today can bring you more success and joy within your life and relationships.

Jonathon

The reason why you are single is above.

[Packy]

Wow, that is too long to read but just to add I am recently single and 32 as well. Being married were some of the best years of my life and they gave me my daughter who is the driving force in my life right now. However, I am definitely nothing special but it seems as of late I have had to turn away more ladies than I could handle. I just hope it gets keeps up...


P.S.- I think you shold memorize your post and spout that to any chick that you date in the future... LOL! That is some deep stuff or at least very descriptive.

[Packy]

You need to post pic's of the chick you dumped.

The gf, wives and ex's thread must grow exponentially!

[BdAsBrd01]

Nothing much going on with this thread. I'm just venting and sharing some thoughts at the moment. This isn't exactly your macho, yeah I just kicked a WS6's ass thread or I finally got my MS3 cam installed today so feel free to write what you may. Not trying to use this site as a dating service either, not my style so keep those comments to yourself lol. I know this is a place for speaking your mind as well about cars, so here goes nothing...

Jonathon

Man I feel for you but the best thing for you right now is to focus on building yourself up. Do what you want to do to your car, put some savings up (cause when you do meet the right one and have kids you'll need it). Focus on yourself and your interests for a while.
Chicks don't give a shit about age. Look at Strom Thurmond, his 2nd marriage- he was 66, she was 22 & Miss South Carolina, his 3rd marriage--he was 68 she was 25 and they had FOUR kids. Strom died at the age of 100, his youngest kid...was 27...and that was before the age of viagra.