Issue with my girl.....need to vent...

**Murder after Midnight** · 08-17-2015, 05:15 PM

Originally Posted by CJREX

You do realize that asking for girl advice on a car forum is like asking for camshaft/cylinder head advice on a Gardening forum, right?

I also realize this is family here i have been a member here along time.........yes this is a car forum but it is alot men here with a ton on women experience and i'm sure they don't mind, sharing some. This is one of the most supportive forums i have ever seen when it comes to personal issues........

**35th-ANV-SS** · 08-17-2015, 05:31 PM

Originally Posted by FasstChevys

I can't believe the mods are letting you off the hook without posting pics!

It is a forum rule.

**allbaugh_04** · 08-17-2015, 05:48 PM

First off, where the hell are the pics?

2nd, sounds like you've got things handled. You just need to decide what you want.

If you feel like she's using you for money, then that's one thing, but getting out of bed late? Idk, seems kind of over the top for me. A lot of people are lazy, so if that's the only concern, then I don't see it as being a big deal, but when a lot of things are bothering you, then sure, I see your point.

**Murder after Midnight** · 08-17-2015, 06:47 PM

Originally Posted by FasstChevys

It also seems like maybe she wants you to break up with her - so that she doesn't feel bad for breaking up with you after all you've done for her.

This. I really starting to think this may be the issue after giving it some thought.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 08-17-2015, 07:10 PM

Don't overthink it. Talk and see what she has to say. If she pulls the sob card and gets super-defensive, something is definitely up.

**Murder after Midnight** · 08-17-2015, 07:15 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Don't overthink it. Talk and see what she has to say. If she pulls the sob card and gets super-defensive, something is definitely up.

I just think some broads are so use to not having a good relationship....that when they get a good one they can't cope/accept/believe it and just sometimes decide to bail out for no reason.............

**CJREX** · 08-18-2015, 12:39 AM

Originally Posted by Murder after Midnight

I also realize this is family here i have been a member here along time.........yes this is a car forum but it is alot men here with a ton on women experience and i'm sure they don't mind, sharing some. This is one of the most supportive forums i have ever seen when it comes to personal issues........

That's a valid point.

I guess I've been out of the dating scene so long that I don't really think about girl issues.

Good luck getting through this one.

**5.0THIS** · 08-18-2015, 12:50 AM

Sounds like she's in panic mode a bit. Tell her you're not breaking up and don't need the car back at this point. You just need a couple of days to cool off a bit and think about what you need to talk over with her. Don't let her sit there for days on end worrying.

**FasstChevys** · 08-18-2015, 04:12 AM

Originally Posted by Murder after Midnight

Thanks for all the advice fellas. I replied to her and just told her i need some time and space to myself at the moment. SInce then she has responded with texts talking about "i will give the car back to you", "please take the car back i will not feel right driving it and we are not together." I never said anything about the car or breaking up not sure why she is spazzing......but i got a lot to think about this week...........

Now you're the one that's being dramatic - talk to her and figure it out.

**FasstChevys** · 08-18-2015, 06:01 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

It is a forum rule.

What are the consequences for such things? Isn't it locking out the OP until they post a picture?

**Spaz** · 08-18-2015, 06:37 AM

Have you tried turning her off and back on again??

**Murder after Midnight** · 08-18-2015, 06:44 AM

Originally Posted by FasstChevys

Now you're the one that's being dramatic - talk to her and figure it out.

I was open to talking to her until she started throwing the statements around about not being together and throwing the car up in my face. She crossed the line with that, in addition she had a whole day to cool down and she came back the next day and texted the same hurtful things again man. Considering all things i have did for that girl man, that is flat out disrespect. SO like i said earlier i deserve some time to myself to think about things.

**Murder after Midnight** · 08-18-2015, 06:46 AM

Originally Posted by Spaz

Have you tried turning her off and back on again??

I guess you missed the part where i stated this is a serious thread

**35th-ANV-SS** · 08-18-2015, 07:08 AM

Honestly...telling her you need space?...I'm not so sure about that line.

I'm not God's gift to women, but I've had my fair share of success with extremely attractive females over the years (and crazies that made me crazy too) and one thing that seems to be common to all females is that they love a man that takes charge. I feel like needing space is a female thing. You should be more alpha in this situation

**FasstChevys** · 08-18-2015, 07:21 AM

Originally Posted by Murder after Midnight

I guess you missed the part where i stated this is a serious thread

It's only serious if you post pics.

**FasstChevys** · 08-18-2015, 07:22 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Honestly...telling her you need space?...I'm not so sure about that line.

I'm not God's gift to women, but I've had my fair share of success with extremely attractive females over the years (and crazies that made me crazy too) and one thing that seems to be common to all females is that they love a man that takes charge. I feel like needing space is a female thing. You should be more alpha in this situation

and, it sounds like you responded that you need space via text message..........is that correct? If so - that isn't cool either.

**Kyle C** · 08-18-2015, 07:31 AM

If your just after a hot chick to bump uglies with then a 2k car, cleaning up after her and letting her use your bed to noon on the weekend isn't that high of a price. If your after a mate for the long haul and sloppiness and sleeping til noon is a problem for you I would seriously consider moving on. At 29 she's probably how she's going to be and at 33 your probably not going to learn to overlook it.

**67CamaroRSSS** · 08-18-2015, 07:46 AM

Originally Posted by Spaz

Have you tried turning her off and back on again??

Works for my computer...

**67CamaroRSSS** · 08-18-2015, 07:53 AM

Originally Posted by Kyle C

If your just after a hot chick to bump uglies with then a 2k car, cleaning up after her and letting her use your bed to noon on the weekend isn't that high of a price. If your after a mate for the long haul and sloppiness and sleeping til noon is a problem for you I would seriously consider moving on. At 29 she's probably how she's going to be and at 33 your probably not going to learn to overlook it.

Not necessarily. When I was married to the ex she'd sleep to noon while I'd be up at dawn. While we are divorced we are still friends and still talk. These days she's up at the butt crack of dawn and I sleep in til noon...

**Kyle C** · 08-18-2015, 08:47 AM

Originally Posted by 67CamaroRSSS

Not necessarily. When I was married to the ex she'd sleep to noon while I'd be up at dawn. While we are divorced we are still friends and still talk. These days she's up at the butt crack of dawn and I sleep in til noon...

Granted sometimes people can change somethings but she did turn out to be an X.