Relationship Advice...

**cammed goat** · 08-28-2011, 02:16 PM

My ex had a former mutual friend wish me a happy birthday on fb. My ex knows she is blocked, but tried to contact me anyway. I have moved on and I hope my ex has done the same. I tried to look past her issues and I stayed with her til she left. I think I am becoming shallow now. I dunno. She was ghetto and I am not. Plus she had issues with her teeth.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 08-28-2011, 05:14 PM

it's never happened lawless. It was just this one time. Timing is everything in life I've learned.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 08-28-2011, 06:25 PM

Doing one more thing tomorrow. Then I'm done.

Sending her flowers to her work with a note saying "I liked making you smile so much the other day I just wanted to do it again today".

It's all in God's hands now...

**Mr. Luos** · 08-28-2011, 08:50 PM

Best of luck with it Jon.
I am not saying she is playing games, but I couldn't handle what you are going through with her. Simply too old for this kind of thing. Either it is or isn't. If it isn't, see ya.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 08-29-2011, 06:19 AM

I understand and trust me, it's nothing short of difficult for me. The timing has never been right with us...it's just that simple. The love is there, but our hearts have never been in sync with one another.

I ended up sending daisies with yellow roses in a smiley face cup this morning. If nothing else, it will make her smile.

And for the record, I'm not putting my life on hold at all. I'm not that foolish. I've dated and met enough females in my life to know what it is I'm looking for, that's all.

She makes me want to be a better person.

Thanks everyone who has commented and gave their advice. I appreciate it.

**lawless** · 08-31-2011, 08:41 AM

It sucks that only time can really heal, but at least there are no "what ifs", as you definitely tried. You deserve someone who is ready for you, as you are them. Best of luck on your future endeavors!

**Spaz** · 08-31-2011, 09:32 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I understand and trust me, it's nothing short of difficult for me. The timing has never been right with us...it's just that simple. The love is there, but our hearts have never been in sync with one another.

I ended up sending daisies with yellow roses in a smiley face cup this morning. If nothing else, it will make her smile.

And for the record, I'm not putting my life on hold at all. I'm not that foolish. I've dated and met enough females in my life to know what it is I'm looking for, that's all.

She makes me want to be a better person.

Thanks everyone who has commented and gave their advice. I appreciate it.

get your self a defibrillator and give it another shot... you only have one life and it goes quickly... live for your self so that you can live for others... i sound like i've been watching oprah or some shit so i'll throw in the usual "pee in her butt" comment...

**Spaz'Bella** · 08-31-2011, 11:24 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I told her...if you ever come back, only do so when you know you're all-in or nothing. She told me she was all-in when she started to date me. She had no reservations about me and thought I was an amazing man.

I take full credit for this one going sour Curtis. I made a lot of mistakes. I didn't put her first in my life because I was still into another female. She finally got tired of it and walked out.

She never played games with me though. She was always honest and up front about her feelings. Always. As much animosity as I have sometimes had with women, I can't fault this one for leaving me. I was mean to her. She's one of the kindest (if not the kindest) person I've ever met. Even when things were bad between us (again, because of me), she never once said anything hurtful to me. Not once. That's just not something you find in a person these days.

I'm devoting this time to me now. I'm going to get motivated and pick up my workout routine.

This is sad but what most touched my heart is that you are taking responsibility. Too many do not. If I can speak up as a woman, and I am always weary not really knowing much about his, be the best you you can be. She taught you how to recognize the kind of person that would add to your life. It might be her or not, but you should be able to look back and smile. Just let go gently and live well. If she comes to you great...if not remember this and use it when you find the one that will walk by your side for life. A woman should never ever play second fiddle in a man's heart, not to another woman, not even to his car (/ducks)... I was telling Spaz about something I noticed about the women in his family (you all who have met them know this to be true) They are beautiful and confident, ..they walk as if they own the space they walk in... I believe that is only possible when the men in their lives make it so... he creates that environment. And the secret is that when he does, and she shines, she usually shines for him. Many men miss that point. You will be fine. /Hugs.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 08-31-2011, 07:35 PM

I really hope she does come back, but I have a feeling she won't. She hasn't contacted me at all, as I asked her to. She will respect that wish. It's just the person she is. She did get my flowers though.

I did try. Probably too hard. I think to some degree many women see this as an act of desperation. A sign of weakness. It's possible she did too. Only she knows what she thinks of me.

I have a feeling that we will talk again at some point in our lives. The connection between us was just too strong when it was at its best. And if she decides not to, I fully respect that decision of hers.

She really has opened up a new way of thinking for me about people and life in general. She was always a lot stronger of a person than I was. Because of that, it made me stronger.

I'm a little sad of course, but I am happy I got to see her one last time and got to feel her in my arms again.

You're right, you only live one life so you have to take chances and hope for the best.

I gave her the letter. So, I know she knows my situation and where I stand with everything. I wish I could just be her friend because I'd love for anything for her to be in my life...but it really is just too tough for me right now and I need to get past this feeling of being madly in love with this woman.

Yeah, I sound like a queer...I know fellas. I'm a sensitive guy. It's how I was raised. To care about others. I just wish I would have cared about her more when I had the chance to. The timing was just terrible.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 03-25-2013, 09:27 AM

Old thread...

Guess who contacted me today?

It's been 5 months since I've made contact or heard from her. She's single again, or on the fence with the current bf.

Advice?

She's the only woman in my entire life I've ever loved, but I am done being the guy who is always there for her and getting nothing in return from it.

The last time we spoke was around Thanksgiving. After our text conversation I asked her if she wanted to go shooting and never received a response.

***SMWS6TA*** · 03-25-2013, 09:31 AM

ignore her, it will fester and drive her nuts, next thing you know she'll be asking to move in with you.

**0rion** · 03-25-2013, 10:14 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Old thread...

Guess who contacted me today?

It's been 5 months since I've made contact or heard from her. She's single again, or on the fence with the current bf.

Advice?

She's the only woman in my entire life I've ever loved, but I am done being the guy who is always there for her and getting nothing in return from it.

The last time we spoke was around Thanksgiving. After our text conversation I asked her if she wanted to go shooting and never received a response.

I know what I would do......can't really post it here though.

**67CamaroRSSS** · 03-25-2013, 10:17 AM

I was wondering why this thread came out of the woods...

**FasstChevys** · 03-25-2013, 10:36 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Old thread...

Guess who contacted me today?

It's been 5 months since I've made contact or heard from her. She's single again, or on the fence with the current bf.

Advice?

She's the only woman in my entire life I've ever loved, but I am done being the guy who is always there for her and getting nothing in return from it.

The last time we spoke was around Thanksgiving. After our text conversation I asked her if she wanted to go shooting and never received a response.

I'm not surprised - same ol', same ol' with this deal. You've laid it on the line how many times now?

**35th-ANV-SS** · 03-25-2013, 11:54 AM

A few. I didn't respond yet. She asked how my new job was going. I don't know what her intentions are, if any. I feel there are some though being it's been so long since we talked. I like knowing I'm in her head still.

I really feel it's just for an ego boost though....

If she is single again, it couldn't be for too long. She's been dating the same guy awhile now.

**SiggyZ** · 03-25-2013, 12:01 PM

Originally Posted by 0rion

I know what I would do......can't really post it here though.

You'd buy her a sucking machine?

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 03-25-2013, 01:59 PM

Women like to know that they can still have you if they so choose....don't give her that choice. Let her go bro, you've lived without her this long it'll only get easier unless you let her pull at the scab.

**suede** · 03-25-2013, 02:51 PM

Originally Posted by severedistortion

women like to know that they can still have you if they so choose....don't give her that choice. Let her go bro, you've lived without her this long it'll only get easier unless you let her pull at the scab.

this...... Fucking this^^^^^

**0rion** · 03-25-2013, 03:08 PM

Originally Posted by SiggyZ

You'd buy her a sucking machine?

why would she need 2?

**0rion** · 03-25-2013, 03:09 PM

seriously though....your only option here is to just delete the text and not respond at all. Love or no love....this just has bad situation written all over it.