For those with kids would you have done this.....

[98TransAmWs-6]

I don't have kids, so my comments are probably going to go to the waste side.

However, I would have to agree about fighting in front of your children. You are giving them the impression that being violent is OK. Truth be told, it's not OK. Yes, you want your son to learn to protect himself in the event he is ever attacked, but to fight over such a minute thing is uncalled for.

Your brother told your son to not do something. I don't think those are rules for throwing punches, regardless of what words were said.

You're going to find out one day that you will confront the wrong person, and you might not be as fortunate and be able to walk away from it. There are some real nut jobs out there. People who carry knives, guns, and other weapons for the pure fact to harm others, not just self-defend.

While you say this incident did not upset your kid and he has already forgotten about it, I will disagree. He has not, nor will he ever. I remember my father getting into 2 fights before; one was with his brother. I was only 9 years old. I am now 34 and remember it very well. Did it make me want to be a violent person? Of course not, but in general, I do not like to confront people. I've sat back and watched people fight many times and have even seen someone get shot and died as a result. That isn't something that you forget and sticks with you in the back of your mind, even though you try to forget about it.

You and your brother need to sit down and have a man to man talk. Avoiding the root problem isn't going to solve anything.

First of all I don't just get into fights, this is the only fight I have been in my entire life. You make it sound like I just get into fights and am a bully, which in this case I was defending my self after he came after me because I slightly pushed him to get out of my face. So me confronting a nut job and possibly dying is a moot point because I won't be the cause of that, mainly because I won't try and get into a fight, like I said before I am not violent but I am not a push over either. I pulled my son a side to tell him it wasn't right what I did and that it is never okay to hit someone. I know that doesn't solve it but any indication he develops of thinking it is okay to hit or anything I will solve before it becomes a real problem.

Having a man to man talk won't do any good. My brother thinks he is superior to everyone, knows everything , and in a discussion you are always wrong because he knows better. You can't have a civil discussion with him, he immediately snaps your head off and tries to show how he is in the right. I have tried and tried and tried and now I am done for better or for worse I am done trying with him. It is sort of like having an argument with Sheldon from big bang to a degree.

Maybe when I get my own house things will get better, only time will tell.

[35th-ANV-SS]

In that case, I revert to my previous post

[98TransAmWs-6]

In that case, I revert to my previous post

thanks for the advice though.

[SeVeReDiStOrTiOn]

Have you tried going to night school and working that job during the day? It'll be hard and take longer to get that degree but you'll be under your own roof. Even if it's a low paying job it should be enough to get an apartment somewhere. You'll be surprised how much closer you'll be to your family once you don't live together...might even patch things up with your bro.

[98TransAmWs-6]

Have you tried going to night school and working that job during the day? It'll be hard and take longer to get that degree but you'll be under your own roof. Even if it's a low paying job it should be enough to get an apartment somewhere. You'll be surprised how much closer you'll be to your family once you don't live together...might even patch things up with your bro.

My school is online and I currently work full time but for some reason there is nothing in my area in my price range. I live close to DC so prices are sky high even for apartments. I am considering a second job but my school work might suffer so Idk if I want to risk that. I only have a year left. So I think I can stick it out if nothing else. Also the problem is for me to get the GI bill benefits I must be full time so its not like I could take a few classes so my school work won't suffer. Thanks though. I have some thinking to do.

[wileyCoyote]

<trying to read between the lines>....huh, ...are you living under his roof?

[35th-ANV-SS]

Pretty sure they both live in their parents' house

[Hi-Po]

Jerry Springer, only if there is no doubt the kid is your's and not your brothers. In that case, Maury helps all kinds of nice folks out. Either way, we would love to have a big TV star here at LS1com.

[wileyCoyote]

Jerry Springer, only if there is no doubt the kid is your's and not your brothers. In that case, Maury helps all kinds of nice folks out. Either way, we would love to have a big TV star here at LS1com.

i see what you did there...

[98TransAmWs-6]

Jerry Springer, only if there is no doubt the kid is your's and not your brothers. In that case, Maury helps all kinds of nice folks out. Either way, we would love to have a big TV star here at LS1com.

Hmm I am not the sort of person they put on Jerry Springer or Maury. At least your post was worth a laugh.

[Hi-Po]

Hmm I am not the sort of person they put on Jerry Springer or Maury. At least your post was worth a laugh.

That's really all I'm here for Just good forum fun!

I think shit happens. My brother and I have gotten in some really stupid fights over the years, regardless; he's my best friend. You guys will get over it, that's what is so hilariously awesome about the brother relationship

[98TransAmWs-6]

Hmm I am not the sort of person they put on Jerry Springer or Maury. At least your post was worth a laugh.

That's really all I'm here for Just good forum fun!

I think shit happens. My brother and I have gotten in some really stupid fights over the years, regardless; he's my best friend. You guys will get over it, that's what is so hilariously awesome about the brother relationship

Or the lack their of atm

[Hi-Po]

Whoever said that you two need to get out from the under the same roof is right. That + period of time = calmer situation.

[35th-ANV-SS]

Will disagrees with everyone's input. I think he is the stubborn one who knows everything

[98TransAmWs-6]

Will disagrees with everyone's input. I think he is the stubborn one who knows everything

I never disagreed with everyone ?

I did agree that I need to get out but I only disagreed with the talking it out, at least while I still live here since there is so much anger towards each other.

Whoever said that you two need to get out from the under the same roof is right. That + period of time = calmer situation.

Yep I know, it sucks living so close to DC though. I may look apartments further out to see if I can afford them and just commute further to work.

[35th-ANV-SS]

I'm just messing bud. Hope it works out for you. Drama sucks.

[chuckie669]

never argue with an idiot. they'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.

[98TransAmWs-6]

never argue with an idiot. they'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.

Very true.

I'm just messing bud. Hope it works out for you. Drama sucks.

Yes it does. Anyways thanks everyone for the advice.

[KahanaReef]

I feel bad for your Mother. I think she ought to knock both your heads together

[0rion]

I feel bad for your Mother. I think she ought to knock both your heads together

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