Relationship Advice...

[jiveass]

She is active on a dating site I'm on. When I log in to it and do random searches her profile always comes up and it shows when she's been online, which has been almost everyday, multiple times a day..

plentyoffish.com? lol

[stolenthunder]

shallowbrainedslutzombies.com? lol

You said it, not me.

[Mr. Luos]

You said it, not me.

Sounds okay to me.

[stolenthunder]

Sounds okay to me.

Sure I can find all of my ex girlfriends on there...

[jiveass]

i find all my one night stands on that site.

[stolenthunder]

i find all my one night stands on that site.

what is it, like match.com?

[35th-ANV-SS]

I've met 3 girls from one site and 2 girls from another site. Most of the girls I write are in Chicago and don't want a b/f from IN so I don't hear back from them.

I've been wanting to move to the city for some time now. Funds are a concern though.

I love being able to do what I want when I want...which IN allows for that.

I'm an hour away from downtown...which for most girls, is too far away.

[jiveass]

what is it, like match.com?

its better....its free...and very rarely did i not hit on the first date...and most have been willing to come straight to my house without a date....

[86 IROC-Z]

Would anyone be so kind as to post a short cliff notes of the thread thus far?

[35th-ANV-SS]

Would anyone be so kind as to post a short cliff notes of the thread thus far?

I like girl...she hates me. The end

[Blackbird WS6]

I like girl...she hates me. The end

well said...

[35th-ANV-SS]

It really hasn't been bothering me as much the last day or two...

I dated several girls for 6 months, a year, another for 7 years. I walked away from those and never looked back. Only 1 other girl ever had an affect on me.

I dated this one only 3 months...and it was probably the funnest girl I ever dated. I think that's why she's missed. She pretty much had it all...looks, job, sex appeal, personality, loved to travel, caring, etc. Nothing was really wrong with her from my eyes.

I think stolen said it earlier...if she realizes what we had was something special, she'll be back...and if not, nothing lost.

[Aetos]

Would anyone be so kind as to post a short cliff notes of the thread thus far?

Just think of all your past(well, to continue the essence of this thread, continue thinking of past) relationships

[Mr. Luos]

Would anyone be so kind as to post a short cliff notes of the thread thus far?

Stop acting like you don't have the time to catch up....

[86 IROC-Z]

I like girl...she hates me. The end

Dr. Phil mode ENGAGE! (I haven't read the thread so sorry if something has already been said.)

Wait, so do you like her, or do you like like her?? Not srs. I assume you want some sort of romantic relationship.

Why does she hate you? If it's something irreconcilable, like leaving the toilet seat up, she's never gonna get over it, and you might as well forget about her and start shopping around for a new girl. If it's something forgivable, like taking 10 minutes to text her back instead of doing it immediately, then you might be able to salvage something.

So she currently hates you. In all honesty that's not a bad thing. If you were looking to be friends with her, then her personal opinion of you would matter. But what we're worried about isn't whether she loves you or hates you, we're interested in whether she's sexually attracted to you. Hell, one of my former fuck-buddies thought I was a completely dickhead. I didn't give a fuck, and it sure didn't stop her from having a fuck, n'om sayin'?

Anyway, so sexual attractiveness. There are loads of things to do to make yourself more physically attractive. To be honest, as long as you smell good and aren't a complete slob, anything else doesn't make much of a difference, because the two major things females are attracted to aren't physical. They are mostly attracted to 1) Status and 2) Money.

Status & money. The one that a girl favors over the other is largely dependent on her age:

Younger women tend to value status first and money second.
Older women tend to value money first and status second.

I don't know how old you are OP but for shits and giggles I'll just pretend you're my age.

In high school, girls date football stars and guys who are older than them. These guys are of higher status or "social value" vs their unathletic, younger peers. Money doesn't much matter as their parents pay for mostly everything anyway.

In college, they date D1 sports stars and frat guys who are the highest pecking order on campus (Frat guys generally have a lot of money, but it doesn't really count since it's their parents). Again, highest status is most attractive, but living on their own is starting to give the girls an idea of the value of money (even though everything is still paid by dad).

Post-college, the average female will want to disregard whatever useless degree she graduated with and start a family. This means living in a 500k house, driving a luxury SUV, having kids and dressing them up in designer clothing, and other things. All of a sudden money shoots to the top of the priority list and status falls to second place.

You may be thinking, by why, IROC? Why do these girls like men who have status and power so much?

Simple answer: Validation.

Most girls are vapid and nearly everything they do, they do to show off to others. Mostly to their friends, but also to everyone else as well. All girls compete with one other like this. They all want a nicer car, bigger house, bigger rock on their finger, than the next girl.

And no, they don't do it because they want their friends to be happy for them. They want their friends to be outright jealous of them. Yeah, in a negative way. Girls are fucked up, amirite?


Anyway, the point I'm getting at is regardless of her current feelings toward you, raising your social value will raise her sexual attractiveness toward you.

Raising your social value obviously depends on what type of chick she is of course.

If she's a gold-digging divorcee, you gotta be CEOing, $10k/day.
If she's a struggling actor (read: waitress), you should at least have produced a few daytime soaps.
If she's a hipster, you sure as shit should be playing synth in a band no one's ever heard of.

It's important for her to know your social value is increasing, however never directly. If you facebook message her "hey, look what I've been doing", she'll see right through you and you'll look like a chump. Never initiate contact with her, and when she initiates contact with you, be very cordial, but at the same time, be distant and vague about what you're up to. Mystery is good. Anything that will intrigue her about you is good. And hearing people she knows sing your praises is gold, especially if they're her close friends.

After a few weeks/months of hearing your name dropped and how well you're doing for yourself, her contact with you should be increased and much more flirty/direct.

Unless of course she just outright unconditionally hates you. In which case you can just start gaming hotter chicks so that 1) you're better off and 2) she gets ultimately pissed when she see's "So-and-so is in a relationship with hotbabeDD" on her facebook newsfeed.

Or you could just print out some pictures of her and tape them to your pillow. I dunno, whatever you're into, man.

[86 IROC-Z]

Stop acting like you don't have the time to catch up....

Hey I have a job now!















I fold clothes hahaha lmao

[nhraformula]

but she isn't with anyone as far as an actual relationship goes.
.

Honestly you cant say shes not. Who knows whats shes doing or not.
Question, why are not you going after local girls?

[Mr. Luos]

Question, why are not you going after local girls?

This should be an easy one.....

[35th-ANV-SS]

You really need to read the thread IROC lol.

This is a girl I was already dating...and now I want back.

She was EXTREMELY sexually attracted to me...it was me being the asshole and saying sarcastic, hurting comments often that strayed her away.

[86 IROC-Z]

Question, why are not you going after local girls?

If he's like me, he surely can go without having a sobbing girl banging on his window at fuckin 3am during finals week ever again.