Relationship Advice...

[35th-ANV-SS]

That would be great...except right now there is about 4" of snow on the ground (and still snowing) and the SS is parked until April, weather depending.

I could drive the Impala around...just no radio since EVERY fucking song that comes on reminds me of her

Alright my brother just called and we are going to go xmas shopping. Maybe I'll run into a hottie at the god forsaken mall...hate that place with a true passion.

[Packy]

Here's a little formula that works for me:

Put on your bad boy face and go for a drive in the meanest, loudest car you own. Go for a long drive, far away and in whatever direction opposite from her that pulls you the hardest.

Force your mind elsewhere. Every time those thoughts come back, reject them. The ability to reject thoughts and memories is a learned skill. Perfect it. Focus on the road (watch out for idiots) and put everything that is going on around you in your peripheral. Driving gives you a sense of control over at least something in your life. Do what it takes to re-absorb confidence in yourself and your future. Let your subconscious mind work this situation out for you and re-assign your conscious mind to better things.

Damn padwan san! That is some serious shit there.

On a much more serious note the Procharger will help you accomplish this a lot easier! Trust me it will make you only think of your car! I still do that and it has been on my car for 7 years... I guess I am pathetic though.

[Blackbird WS6]

I could drive the Impala around...just no radio since EVERY fucking song that comes on reminds me of her

heres an idea...dont put the radio on......but open the window and start saying just random stupid shit hahaha

[nhraformula]

Take that puppy out for more walks. To dog parks. Any parks. They're chick magnets

He lives in Indiana, lol. Dog walks work much better by Wrigley.
Another thing you need to remember that she lives in teh heart of singles central, she very well may have found somebody

[35th-ANV-SS]

He lives in Indiana, lol. Dog walks work much better by Wrigley.
Another thing you need to remember that she lives in teh heart of singles central, she very well may have found somebody

She's on the dating sites and is active on there. I'm sure she's already "dated" other guys since we haven't spent any time with one another for the last several months.

Few days ago she told me that she doesn't have anyone "in her life", but she's content/happy in her own skin aka being single. She hopes to be able to share her happiness with someone some day, but she rather be single than to be with the wrong person. That was one of the last messages I got from her.

She has only had 2 actual "boyfriends" in her life...one of 4 yrs and the other one was 2 yrs...she ended it with both of them. The 2 yr one was ended b/c of her moving out to Chicago. Everyone else she has never actually "committed" to in a relationship sense, just dated. From what I know, most of the guys she's dated has been a short period of time...month, or two.

She was ready to commit to me until I kept opening my dumbass mouth and making snide comments all of the time.

I have a very sarcastic side...and it got the best of me this time around.

[SeVeReDiStOrTiOn]

Sounds like you were just a fuck buddy bro. And you know what you do when a fuck buddy brings up emotions right? Sucks but you can tell from the start she had no plans for it to be otherwise.

[67CamaroRSSS]

What's the best way to get a girl back you fucked up with?

We broke up a few months back and now I want her back.

We are at a point now where we don't even talk anymore...well she ignores my texts and any work e-mails, etc I send to her, which happened recently.

We were talking/texting almost daily until about a week or 2 ago.

Basic background info is we had a VERY intense relationship.

I have a sarcastic side and it got the best of me and because of my frequent comments and questioning of shit, she bailed.

Any advice?

If it didn't work the 1st time what makes you think it'll work the 2nd time?

My advice is to move on...

[Blackbird WS6]

If it didn't work the 1st time what makes you think it'll work the 2nd time?

My advice is to move on...

[67CamaroRSSS]

My friends I've talked to about this agree with you. I know it's the best and only way that she will ever "miss" me is to not contact her anymore. It's just difficult to do when you've talked to someone every day for the last 7 months.

She won't ever "see" me. I live in IN and she lives in IL (about an hr apart).

I know this sounds "odd"...but do you think that she would "look" at my FB even though we aren't friends? That would be the only way for her to know what was going on with me.

East Chicago?

[35th-ANV-SS]

Not too far from EC...about 20 min.

[35th-ANV-SS]

Sounds like you were just a fuck buddy bro. And you know what you do when a fuck buddy brings up emotions right? Sucks but you can tell from the start she had no plans for it to be otherwise.

Disagree. She cried many times about shit. She was definitely emotionally attached to me.

[67CamaroRSSS]

If you post her nudes on ls1 I bet she would be at your place tonight giving you a BJ.

If he posted nudes on here I bet you'd be at home fapping to them...

[Nhra Firebird]

If he posted nudes on here I bet you'd be at home fapping to them...

damn right and so would you. lol

[Jays00ss]

Run away.. fast and dont look back!!!!!

[35th-ANV-SS]

When we first met, she was into me 100%...contacting me all the time...she fell hard for me.

At the same token I was still into a different girl and wasn't concentrating really on this new relationship at all.

2 months of that went by and the new girl finally backed off...that's when I realized I wanted her and she was the right one for me. It took her not being there for me for me to realize all of the great qualities she possessed.

So, with that said, I tried getting her back for several weeks. Finally I gave up and walked away. That's when I wrote her a nice goodbye and stopped contacting her. After a few weeks went back she told me she knew what she wanted and was coming for it.

She spent that weekend with me and things were awesome, but on the last day we talked about the same shit (I brought it up). Because of that, she walked again.

Things were never the same since then. I always wanted to "talk" and she was tired of talking about the same shit over and over until finally recently she stopped contacting me all together.

That's the sum of it all. So, really, I can't or anyone for that matter can't really put the blame on her. It mostly started with me, and between both of us not being emotionally attached to one another at the same time, this is why this never worked for the long run.

I've learned my lesson and have begun to learn to control my snide, rude comments when I get frustrated. That was the only thing ever keeping her from wanting to be with me. Now I'd like to show her I have changed...but I guess the chance is gone.

[stolenthunder]

I've learned my lesson and have begun to learn to control my snide, rude comments when I get frustrated. That was the only thing ever keeping her from wanting to be with me. Now I'd like to show her I have changed...but I guess the chance is gone.

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Stop blaming yourself, man. What she has done to you- while claiming to love you- is far worse than any rude/snide comments that you could have made to her. What bothers me is that she had it the hottest for you when you were already involved with another chick and not interested in her- while you were still a "challenge". That's a warning sign.

If she is capable of any depth and knows how much you love her, she'll be back. If not, no loss- maybe she never really was who she pretended to be anyway.

Both male and female players are incredible masters of disguise and manipulation. They do what they can to fool your heart in to believing that there's "more" to them. They get what they want, suck you dry, then leave you. If they get bored a few months later, they come back with the whole "Oh I really love you, I'm sorry that I'm such a bad boy/girl...no one can save me from myself...boo hoo..." speel. Rinse and repeat.

Reminds me of something. Down here in the south we have a species of lightning bug that cannibalizes another, smaller species. It works like this: the female cannibal fireflies mimick the exact flashing pattern of the victim species, waiting for a helpless little male to come along and try to mate with what he thinks is a female of his own kind. Even up close, their color markings and shapes look very similar- so sooner or later, a sucker falls for it. The female cannibal then kills him and steals his biochemical properties to use for herself. All the time, the victim species male firefly is thinking "WTH? WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME? WHY DOES THIS HURT SO MUCH?"

Moral of the story is, if you're ready for something serious, make sure that this girl is your own species.



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[DrMilhouse]

I understand what you're saying...

I told her I wanted to just be friends right now (even though I know that will be extremely difficult).

We've just been through a lot of SHIT over the last several months and I think she finally just gave up all together.

The last comment she made to me was "some time just needs to pass right now".

Don't you hate it when you answer your own questions?

Just give her the time or whatever. Ignore her... women seem to be attracted to the ignoring thing... it's a stupid and childish game I guess.

So just learn from it... don't be whatever way it was that didn't work in your relationship with her when she comes around again.

[35th-ANV-SS]

stolen - that's a great story...and really weird too...I gave her a nickname after a month of knowing her.....it was "Firefly". She had red hair and got really excited when she was over one night and we were outside when she saw a lightning bug light up. Apparently they don't have lightning bugs in California where she was from...hence the nickname I gave her. haha

Milhouse - Yes I do. I can give great advice to others about anything...yet I never take my own advice. It's a curse I have.

[35th-ANV-SS]

I wasn't really involved with another chick when we met. I had a crush on this other girl that I had some history with. She was cheating on her bf with me...then when she broke up with her bf...she didn't want anything to do with me. I guess it was the thrill of it all.

Well right after that happened I was pretty pissed and wanting to be with said girl...that is when the new one came along. I was so wrapped up on this other hottie that I didn't pay much attention to the new girl.

The other girl was super hot, but full of drama. This new girl I wasn't as attracted to, but had all of the "qualities" I wanted....caring, considerate, never was rude to me, passionate, down to earth, etc. She had a good heart and was genuine.

[SeVeReDiStOrTiOn]

Don't you hate it when you answer your own questions?

Just give her the time or whatever. Ignore her... women seem to be attracted to the ignoring thing... it's a stupid and childish game I guess.

So just learn from it... don't be whatever way it was that didn't work in your relationship with her when she comes around again.

I dunno about you guys but I can't take a girl back if she's slept with another guy since we dated and broke up. Little gross factor there but in general just turns me off.