Thinking of dating a friend's ex

**310stanger** · 05-26-2009, 12:38 AM

Originally Posted by 0rion

guns don't kill people........husbands, boyfriends, and ex's kill people.

This is the type of shit that gets you killed if you're not careful. As far as "this one being the one".......they're all "the one" at first.

My point of view was just dont make decisions for yourself on what will please the "group" do what will make you happy even if they do only date 3 days and decide they dont like each other. Lifes to short to turn down opportunities for even temporary happiness. They aint talkin marriage. But so what if the "group" aint happy. Realistically each and every one would do the same thing in the same position, so its just bullshit. In 2 yrs none of you will be friends anyways

**joewarner** · 05-26-2009, 12:43 AM

^^ha

dude if this guy is gonna get butt hurt kick him out of your group. Didnt you say he started to follow your cousin into you and your cousins group?

anyways your lucky if you find one true friend in life. Unless you can see him being a friend 20 years from now its not that hard to think about.

you say you can see yourself with her but without the gayness what about him being a friend?

your answer should tell you what to do.

**joewarner** · 05-26-2009, 12:46 AM

kramer is right tho i can guarantee he would fuck her if he was in your shoes.

I can say without a doubt i would definately hit it without a worry on his part.

You didnt cause the break up he did, 8 months later its definately on the table. your gonna grow up someday and realize you need to get out of the import scene anyway as those are little kids.

**waldo** · 05-26-2009, 12:07 PM

show me a picture and I'll tell you just how to handle this situation.

**SexOnWheels** · 05-26-2009, 12:10 PM

Originally Posted by BadBlueBird*

this wont turn out well

Agreed, this is a no-no for 'real' friends...

**waldo** · 05-26-2009, 12:13 PM

just do it.

**Stevie** · 05-26-2009, 05:08 PM

go for it

**1SSWFO** · 05-26-2009, 06:59 PM

I agree with over half these guys the dude seems to be more of an aquaintance than a friend? But on the other hand how close is he to your brother? The whole short fuse stuff hell with him my ex screwed one of my so called "friends" and i havnt killed him YET! Hell go out with her first before you talk marriage. I agree they are all that one at first then the new wares off and they get on your nerves again! Just spend the money that you would on dates on your car in the end it won't let you down!

**gjb** · 05-26-2009, 07:23 PM

what did your friend say when you talked to him about it?

**mrwdjv** · 05-26-2009, 08:48 PM

Originally Posted by anniversary30

If your still friends with this guy and you want to be stand up about it, ask him if he's got a problem with it. If he say's yes ...back off, If he says go for it your in and nobody can say shit. Not that you need his permission but it could ruin a friendship. Just my 2 cents. And remember , she may be beautiful but no matter how beautiful ...some other guy got sick of her shit. Beauty is skin deep , if she's a nut .....look out

Doberman is right though there are a million out there.

**Mieux97** · 05-27-2009, 05:53 AM

Originally Posted by Goldmember

So we only hung out maybe once a week or once every other week. He split up with his ex 5 months ago.

Ya'll barely hung out anyway....does sound like more of an aquaintance. Date her!!

***SMWS6TA*** · 05-27-2009, 07:23 AM

We want some closer OP! Can't post something like this and not close it out.

**mrwdjv** · 05-29-2009, 06:03 PM

Originally Posted by SMWS6TA

We want some closer OP! Can't post something like this and not close it out.

Agreed!!!

**jamessr** · 06-01-2009, 11:05 AM

Seems I'm late to reply but heres my 2 cents. It all depends on how he broke things off with her. If it was good terms and thier friends (not too close) I'd say go for it but, let yur buddy know.

If things didn't turn out so well and everytime he see's her he mumbles "that bitch" I'd run it by him 1st.

**SleeperC5** · 06-01-2009, 11:47 AM

Originally Posted by Goldmember

for the past 8 months we havent really hung out, me and this friend.

They've been apart for almost a year. You haven't seen this guy for 8 months.... I see no reason why you shouldn't date her.

**Goldmember** · 07-26-2009, 01:30 AM

I forgot I had this thread ..sorry
We went on 2 dates... then I started feeling very stressed...friends were giving me a hard time
About it so I just let it go. We talked and decided to keep it as friends.
Once we let it go it felt like the weight of the world was off my shoulder.
And to make it fucked up now... now my friends are telling me that I should date her. Since this guy basicly cut himself off the group.
So now that they want me with her...I just found out she has been dating some guy for bout a month. She told me that this guy isn't working out for her.

I now know what I'm gonna do if I get the chance.
I'm gonna date her and not worry bout anyone else.
Whoever isn't down with it, maybe they shouldn't be around me and not a real friend.
So I'm gonna keep in touch with her. Thanks everyone for ur 2 cents.
Maybe ill get my chance again

**tnthub** · 07-26-2009, 01:07 PM

Originally Posted by Goldmember

I forgot I had this thread ..sorry
We went on 2 dates... then I started feeling very stressed...friends were giving me a hard time
About it so I just let it go. We talked and decided to keep it as friends.
Once we let it go it felt like the weight of the world was off my shoulder.
And to make it fucked up now... now my friends are telling me that I should date her. Since this guy basicly cut himself off the group.
So now that they want me with her...I just found out she has been dating some guy for bout a month. She told me that this guy isn't working out for her.

I now know what I'm gonna do if I get the chance.
I'm gonna date her and not worry bout anyone else.
Whoever isn't down with it, maybe they shouldn't be around me and not a real friend.
So I'm gonna keep in touch with her. Thanks everyone for ur 2 cents.
Maybe ill get my chance again

I recommend you follow your heart and do what you want. BS on allowing "friends" to make decisions like this for you. You need to have some self confidence and stand up for what you want instead of what is acceptable to your friends.

Call the gal up, meet for lunch or coffee somewhere, and talk it over. It is a choice you can both make and has nothing to do with what friends think.