Thinking of dating a friend's ex

**310stanger** · 04-27-2009, 07:13 PM

I say go for it. If you dont hit it, someone else will first off. Second, hes a friend of a friend of a cousin who met said friend on a bus. Ok not really but you get my point. This is NOT the same scenario as fucking the ex gf of a buddy you had since the third grade. The kid doesnt own this girl, tough shit to him honestly. Hes a tag along for you anyways right? Pussy is enough of a pain in the ass to get as is, dont turn pussy down.

**ezwip** · 04-27-2009, 07:51 PM

Originally Posted by Goldmember

I met a guy friend about a year ago. for the past 8 months we havent really hung out, me and this friend. and she's beautiful.

I hope you have her number. Don't see any problem with this.

**KyleLs1** · 04-27-2009, 08:04 PM

as long as you are ok with losing this friend then go for it... most likely he will be pissed but its been 5 months so fuck it- fuck her like you hate her

**Goldmember** · 04-27-2009, 10:24 PM

Im sure its not one of those deals were she is trying to get back at him with me. She isnt that type of chick. she is a down to earth family oriented type chick. I think that if I do go for it, I'll talk to him first. And no, I didnt fuck my self over by posting this up. This guy, like most people I actualy hang out with are actualy import car people, so no worries about this getting back to him.

**SS02** · 04-27-2009, 10:42 PM

Originally Posted by anniversary30

If your still friends with this guy and you want to be stand up about it, ask him if he's got a problem with it. If he say's yes ...back off, If he says go for it your in and nobody can say shit. Not that you need his permission but it could ruin a friendship. Just my 2 cents. And remember , she may be beautiful but no matter how beautiful ...some other guy got sick of her shit. Beauty is skin deep , if she's a nut .....look out

Doberman is right though there are a million out there.

That sounds fair... or just drop it all togethere!

**El Toro Loco** · 04-27-2009, 11:12 PM

if this guy is ur BOY, it would be a definite no at least not with tellin him somthin like hey saw whats her face the other day, she gave ,me her number mind if i call her. but then again they dated for two years and that aint no little deal. thats a good while. more than likely hes gonna say no. i been with my girl for almost three years and if we broke up i know i wouldnt want one of my boys datin her. but me and these guys are like brothers known each other since we was four and five, grew up like brothers

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 04-28-2009, 03:47 PM

Originally Posted by 310stanger

I say go for it. If you dont hit it, someone else will first off. Second, hes a friend of a friend of a cousin who met said friend on a bus. Ok not really but you get my point. This is NOT the same scenario as fucking the ex gf of a buddy you had since the third grade. The kid doesnt own this girl, tough shit to him honestly. Hes a tag along for you anyways right? Pussy is enough of a pain in the ass to get as is, dont turn pussy down.

Definitely..

But if it was me I wouldn't be able to do it...it has nothing to do with the guy being a friend of a friend either. I have this thing about not screwing chics if i've seen/hung around with one of their ex's or just a guy that's fucked her. Can't do it...grosses me out

**Goldmember** · 05-25-2009, 12:34 AM

sorry for resurrecting this thread, but I had kinda blown her off since I last posted, but a few days ago she came looking for me at work. we talked and we both wanna start hanging for it to lead to something real. since my first post, i've talked to some of the friends about this and they all say thats its messed up cause he thinks of me as a friend. and that its gonna bring to much bull shit to the group. it might even be to where the crew kinda splits up. I feel like there answers are the way they are cause they have gf. we both know what problems it will bring since this guy is known for having a short fuse, not to where someone will get shot, but more like a fist fight. If any of you people here have gone through this type of situation what was the out come and what happened when the friend found out.

**tnthub** · 05-25-2009, 03:46 AM

What this ladies "ex" feels is not her business any more and neither is it yours. It has been almost half a year since they broke up and you and this guy are not close or long term friends. If he has a problem with it he will need to get over it.

People who are edgy enough to even remotely consider a fist fight over an ex girlfriend are not worth the effort to even think about.

You like the lady and she likes you. I see no problem with you being mature enough to date her and it sounds like you are a significant upgrade from the dingbat who wants a fist fight. Either he will get over it or he won't. In either case it is not your problem.

I hear all the bros before hoes stuff but the bottom line is when people start to grow up we usually find a lady with whom to settle down rather than an apartment full of dudes. It is just how life works... A mature guy would tell you "good luck" rather than get all pissy.

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 05-25-2009, 09:06 AM

Originally Posted by Goldmember

sorry for resurrecting this thread, but I had kinda blown her off since I last posted, but a few days ago she came looking for me at work. we talked and we both wanna start hanging for it to lead to something real. since my first post, i've talked to some of the friends about this and they all say thats its messed up cause he thinks of me as a friend. and that its gonna bring to much bull shit to the group. it might even be to where the crew kinda splits up. I feel like there answers are the way they are cause they have gf. we both know what problems it will bring since this guy is known for having a short fuse, not to where someone will get shot, but more like a fist fight. If any of you people here have gone through this type of situation what was the out come and what happened when the friend found out.

Look man...go on a few dates with her and see if you really feel that she is wife potential. If she is then let no man stand between you...friend or not. But if she's just some ass then leave it alone...no need to stir some shit up over poon that you can get anywhere.

**bandit95** · 05-25-2009, 09:16 AM

Originally Posted by tnthub

What this ladies "ex" feels is not her business any more and neither is it yours. It has been almost half a year since they broke up and you and this guy are not close or long term friends. If he has a problem with it he will need to get over it.

People who are edgy enough to even remotely consider a fist fight over an ex girlfriend are not worth the effort to even think about.

You like the lady and she likes you. I see no problem with you being mature enough to date her and it sounds like you are a significant upgrade from the dingbat who wants a fist fight. Either he will get over it or he won't. In either case it is not your problem.

I hear all the bros before hoes stuff but the bottom line is when people start to grow up we usually find a lady with whom to settle down rather than an apartment full of dudes. It is just how life works... A mature guy would tell you "good luck" rather than get all pissy.

logic in its simplest form. i agree completely

**zero_proto** · 05-25-2009, 10:46 AM

Originally Posted by toityme

If this is potentially the girl of your dreams you gotta do it. There arent many that stun you like that, so you have to go for it.. Play your cards... just gamble it i guess!

Dont look or think about the what ifs, but just if you dont do it and you regret it.. wrong decision. So just do it.. shoot the gun and go for it!!
GOOD LUCK TO YA

don't fucking listen to this non-signaling mofo, she is full of it, shit!!!!

j/k

i agree with her.

**sirenformula350** · 05-25-2009, 12:37 PM

Originally Posted by Goldmember

sorry for resurrecting this thread, but I had kinda blown her off since I last posted, but a few days ago she came looking for me at work. we talked and we both wanna start hanging for it to lead to something real. since my first post, i've talked to some of the friends about this and they all say thats its messed up cause he thinks of me as a friend. and that its gonna bring to much bull shit to the group. it might even be to where the crew kinda splits up. I feel like there answers are the way they are cause they have gf. we both know what problems it will bring since this guy is known for having a short fuse, not to where someone will get shot, but more like a fist fight. If any of you people here have gone through this type of situation what was the out come and what happened when the friend found out.

I have been through this almost exact same situation. I decided to date a friend's ex. Long story short we had a lot in common and I had a great time with her but it didn't work out in the end. He and I are no where near as close. I wouldn't consider him a friend at this point. He is more someone I see here and there. We aren't on bad terms anymore but we both realize we wont be close friends again. The big question is if presented with the same situation again would I do it again and I would in a heartbeat. I really liked her and I could lie to myself all day and say I regretted doing that but it would be exactly that... a lie. I say if you really like her then go for it. Just be prepared to potentially lose a friend.

**Smittro** · 05-25-2009, 12:46 PM

**310stanger** · 05-25-2009, 12:50 PM

said it once and ill say it again, if he was your friend since elementary school/best friend/ like a brother to ya, dont do it. Some punk that is gonna just say he's your friend because he doesnt want you fuckin his ex, do it. Realistically he doesnt want anyone nailing his ex, nevermind you. What ex bf do you know that ever likes the "new guy"? Another thing with the upset of the "group" thing. Fuck the group. Huge groups of friends create and have more drama then you can shake a stick at. Date this girl and the 2 of you can just hangout and fuck alone. Its easy for the people in the "group" to talk like they do if they all arent single.

my 2 cents

**yellowv** · 05-25-2009, 02:51 PM

Sounds like this guys not even really your friend. More just like a dude you see at car meets and such. I mean if it was like one of your best buddies I would say no, but I would just go for it in this situation.

**sirenformula350** · 05-25-2009, 10:15 PM

Originally Posted by 310stanger

said it once and ill say it again, if he was your friend since elementary school/best friend/ like a brother to ya, dont do it. Some punk that is gonna just say he's your friend because he doesnt want you fuckin his ex, do it. Realistically he doesnt want anyone nailing his ex, nevermind you. What ex bf do you know that ever likes the "new guy"? Another thing with the upset of the "group" thing. Fuck the group. Huge groups of friends create and have more drama then you can shake a stick at. Date this girl and the 2 of you can just hangout and fuck alone. Its easy for the people in the "group" to talk like they do if they all arent single.

my 2 cents

this is exactly how i see it also. The way you phrased it makes it seem like he is more of an acquaintance. I just figured I'd share my experience with a very similar situation. Make your choice and get on with life. Its not worth stressing over.

**pecha** · 05-25-2009, 10:25 PM

I've done it before, I still date her, best time of my life.
Do it.

**0rion** · 05-25-2009, 11:05 PM

guns don't kill people........husbands, boyfriends, and ex's kill people.

This is the type of shit that gets you killed if you're not careful. As far as "this one being the one".......they're all "the one" at first.