Performance Anxiety

**86 IROC-Z** · 01-02-2008, 12:58 PM

Originally Posted by CaptainCaveMan

a vid of some chick squatting on a cactus to get my boner going.

Should send that to the guys who made 2girls1cup and shakethabear

**JwMonE99** · 01-02-2008, 02:00 PM

Shakethabear? havent seen that one yet. but did you see "pain olympics" it literally made me cry.

**ibanez7** · 01-02-2008, 02:07 PM

buy the rainbow sticker for the car now.... cause your gay!!!!

j/k

honestly yeah it can be stress and you could be worrying to damn much about it.

you might eat healthy and work out healthy but are you taking any herbs, vitamins or meds that could cause this type of side effect.

next time take an aspirin and thin out you blood.

also dont beat off for awhile, let that shit build up inside and see what happens then.

**Too Fast** · 01-02-2008, 03:47 PM

Lots of good advice here, read and do what fits you most. Mostly quit whackin' it more than 6x per week LOL!

**Spaz** · 01-02-2008, 03:49 PM

Originally Posted by ibanez7

also dont beat off for awhile, let that shit build up inside and see what happens then.

hell yeah.... you go fucking ape shit on the poor victim... i mean woman... they end up as stalkers...

**bandit95** · 01-02-2008, 03:51 PM

how about minute man syndrome? what helps with that? i went through my divorce a couple years ago and she cheated on me so since then i either have trouble gettin it up sometimes and then when i do it only last about 3-5 minutes it seems. pisses me off.

**basballny2** · 01-02-2008, 04:01 PM

when ur bangin dont think about getting off, switch positions alot

**AKIRA** · 01-04-2008, 09:42 AM

Thanks guys. Lots of good advice in here, even the jokes cuz there is some truth to it. The aspirin was an interesting idea.

Couple things Ill touch base about, no pun intended.

1. Yeah, I watch a lot of porn, can get hard, and cum within 5 minutes. Its actually quite wonderful.

And no..Spaz, its not gay porn. I like Jenna Jameson and Rocki Roads the best.

2. Around this Christmas break, I hardly jerked off cuz.. Now that I was visiting mom, I hardly ever could do it!

3. I also wasnt working out which really fucks with me. I feel like I am not doing what I am supposed to be doing, so there is extra stress going in rather than going out.

Now..a little more on the story..Youre gonna love this shit..

The first night I came to town (first failure?), I came to her house and we drank a LOT. It was the first time we got to touch each other in 7 years, so it was a little nerve racking. I think some alcohol could break the ice, but we mustve broken a glacier cuz when she volunteered to suck my dick (atta girl!) and I coudlnt feel anything that NIGHT. Now in the morning...she just touched it and boom it was hard. I DID end up fucking her in the morning...but, whatdoyaknow, she just got her period.

Yuck. We jumped in the shower and I tried fucking her in there (cuz I dont give a shit about that period shit), I was in her, she did feel good, but it was too uncomfortable and I just said forget it.

Now, while you wipe your mouth off from vomit, heres night 2 (days later, no period

). I came to meet her and her friend from outta town, made her feel very welcome (in case you guys dont know, when you meet your girlfriends friend(s), be VERY friendly to them), and got invited back to her house again. Her friend left and I know I scored points. It was still early, so my girl wanted to go out. She got ready in front of me and looked better than ever. We went to Fridays where we got very tipsy. We started some goooood talk. You know the kind. She asked me what do I want to do now and I said I wanted to rip her clothes off and fuck her right there on the bar. This really turned her on. But first she wanted to keep a promise to her brother about stopping by! UGH Ok, fine, I met him at a party, he was pretty cool, but hes gonna make us drink more and the mood might get spoiled. Both situations occured! I drank 2 beers and funneled another one. Ah well, cant be too bad right? So we finally got back to her place.

She got on top and I was soft as Bill Cosbys pudding. God dammit, I knew this would happen if we sidetracked! But she sucked it (this is kind of the same story as before) and I got hard and fucked her successfully. Came all over her (she jerked it..cool gesture, but well lets face it, 'we' know how to jerk our shit better than anyone else) and told her Ill wake her in an hour (or less) to fuck again.

Well, she passed out! Should I have fondled her? Should I have just woke her up? Eh...that just didnt strike me as a good thing, so eventually I fell asleep too. The next morning she just wasnt in the mood cuz of her hang over (gee, didnt see that coming) and so she wasnt persistent. I was half hard the entire time and I was just waiting for an invite. I prolly wouldve been fine so this is where I stand in retrospect..

I did successfully fuck her twice (well 1 and a half). I was ready to roll the next day, kinda, but her not being in the mood didnt exactly turn me on..so the trip home is not a complete failure.

In any case, I shouldnt had needed the BJs, thats been explained to death, but now I am at peace knowing that I got her not once but twice, so I shouldnt beat myself up about it. Had I had more time at home, I am sure I couldve gotten her again and again.

Currently, I was given advice from a guy on another board to download a David DeAngelo seminar on how to gets girls. This person that sent this to me has the same problems as I do (well, he has mental issues, but that asshole can get hard

) and he swore by it. So far, the material isnt exactly how to get women, but how we look at shit when it comes to making decisions. The focus IS on women, but it could be applied to all aspects of life and anyone could watch it, even women. I am only on clip 2 though (out of 7)...

Its really uplifting and its hard for me to admit that cuz I dont believe in these "Self-help" vids, but every scenario that is discussed I have been in.

Long post I know, but Ill come back and add in any other improvements so if others have this problem in the future, theyll know they are not alone.

**tnthub** · 01-04-2008, 11:33 AM

Dude...

Life is not this complex. You straighten out your stress and anxiety and see a doctor about your junk. you are way too young to not have wood at the drop of a skirt.

**KyleLs1** · 01-04-2008, 12:16 PM

glad you were succesful at getting your rocks off

**MagicMan** · 01-04-2008, 01:12 PM

20 doing 16 yr olds
can't get it up

LOSER

**JwMonE99** · 01-04-2008, 02:00 PM

I heard that beating it too much can actually make ur thing get smaller?
I always thought it would be the other way around. Which one is true?

**bandit95** · 01-04-2008, 02:06 PM

Originally Posted by JwMonE99

I heard that beating it too much can actually make ur thing get smaller?
I always thought it would be the other way around. Which one is true?

Sarge? Care to answer?

**ArcticZ06** · 01-04-2008, 02:51 PM

Originally Posted by JwMonE99

I heard that beating it too much can actually make ur thing get smaller?
I always thought it would be the other way around. Which one is true?

If you're "exercising" a muscle it should get bigger.

**JwMonE99** · 01-04-2008, 03:30 PM

Yea thats what I thought, but recently I heard something about letting out too much isnt that good

**AKIRA** · 01-04-2008, 05:50 PM

Originally Posted by MagicMan

20 doing 16 yr olds
can't get it up

LOSER

Welcome to 7 years ago.

Originally Posted by tnthub

Life is not this complex. You straighten out your stress and anxiety and see a doctor about your junk. you are way too young to not have wood at the drop of a skirt

To tell you the truth, Ive seen and had hands on experience with a lot of tits and ass, so just seeing a naked woman wont do shit for me. Its when I touch her, thats when things get exciting.

Ill also go along with the possibilty that seeing porn may in fact de-sensitize a person. Youre 49 (as it says), so you gotta take in the fact, that at your age, you didnt have the fast access to such things at almost any time.

There is no biological reason I should see a doctor about having an erection if I can get one naturally in the morning or at work while thinking about ramming the Sephora girls against the registers. Of course, at these times I am calm. Now I have to just relate the two when its time to pull the trigger.

**basballny2** · 01-04-2008, 07:53 PM

Originally Posted by JwMonE99

I heard that beating it too much can actually make ur thing get smaller?
I always thought it would be the other way around. Which one is true?

no, jerking off does NOT make your dick bigger, there are certian things that people claim to but we wont go there, the reason some might say jerking off makes it smaller is because the longer you wait to go the more excited you will become and get a "fuller" erection

**JwMonE99** · 01-04-2008, 08:20 PM

Ok I see what ur saying

**basballny2** · 01-04-2008, 10:12 PM

watching too much porn is your problem, your expecting what your seeing in porn to relate to bed, when you watch porn you watch exactly wut turns you on, sometimes if a grl is doing something 2 u and it feels good but its not up to par on what you just watched the night before, theres your problem

**tnthub** · 01-05-2008, 05:31 AM

Originally Posted by AKIRA

Welcome to 7 years ago.

To tell you the truth, Ive seen and had hands on experience with a lot of tits and ass, so just seeing a naked woman wont do shit for me. Its when I touch her, thats when things get exciting.

Ill also go along with the possibilty that seeing porn may in fact de-sensitize a person. Youre 49 (as it says), so you gotta take in the fact, that at your age, you didnt have the fast access to such things at almost any time.

There is no biological reason I should see a doctor about having an erection if I can get one naturally in the morning or at work while thinking about ramming the Sephora girls against the registers. Of course, at these times I am calm. Now I have to just relate the two when its time to pull the trigger.

Well... I am 49.... But my wife turn 40 tomorrow.

We are going to a family wedding in Boston and she is wearing the same dress she wore for my brother's wedding 10 years ago. Without too much detail (we have no kids by choice), we orobably have sex 5-6 times per week, every week, and that is a little bit down from when we were first married 17 years ago.

The only things that seem to bother my little soldier are medications (pain killers/downers) and when it is very hot (that is what air conditioning is for).

Sure it takes a little longer for me now than it used to, but bear in mind I have no shortage of pron as I work out of my home office with nobody looking over my shoulder.

I am a 70s throwback to the days of strip twister, free love, and all that crap. I got around far more than most people for a great many years (pre-aids), and even travelled as a travelling musician and worked as a ski instructor if that gives you an idea of my getting around... Being in the IT industry I have seen more pron than most people and have even worked with our local police to help bust some of the illegal stuff out there. I don't care what people watch in their own home but if itinvolves hurting kids it is wrong. I could care less about other stuff.

When I was a teenager my right hand was my best friend. Once I started getting laid I pretty much had a full time supply of ladies from my classmates to my teachers to anyone I could find in a bar.

de-sensitizing has made me more tolerant and better able to control myself but even at age 49 I have no problem performing on demand.

Many things can work against the little soldier. High blood pressure, poor blood flow, thick blood, rough handling.... There is a lot that can go on and usually it isa combination of factors, (any one of which is not a problem by itself).

If you don't use it you lose it. Certain minerals/vitamins are known to help a bit and zinc is a good supplement to use on a regular basis (for example).

Certain things, like steroid type supplements are known to be generally bad for performance. Alcohol is a depressant and although one glass of wine may be good for you three or four can contibute to a dropoff in ability. Caffeine may create a temporary boost in performance but only if you have thin blood
(plenty of fluids).

The single biggest factor is in a person's head. I remember one night in college announcing to several ladies that I was going to drink so much my tallywacker would not work. Although I do not personally remember the outcome of my effort, the pictures the girls took proved that even while passed out and wasted beyond recognition, my little soldier did it's job the way it was intended. I only wish I could actually remember the evening.