Relationship Advice...

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-04-2010, 10:34 AM

Originally Posted by Packy

The being cordial but still trying to ignore thing works very well. Trust me! She will come around eventually and want to talk to you. By being cordail means if you see her just smile or say hello but that is all. No emails, calls, or texts.

Hey Packy. Got my D1SC quote

She will never see me. We live too far away from one another, unless I happen to hang out near where she lives, which is a really popular area in Chicago with a lot of bars and such.

**Nhra Firebird** · 12-04-2010, 10:36 AM

If you post her nudes on ls1 I bet she would be at your place tonight giving you a BJ.

**stolenthunder** · 12-04-2010, 10:36 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

In the past, she distanced herself from me like this and I stopped texting her and ignored her texts. In 2 weeks she was all about me again.

You just answered your own question! You two have gone longer than this without contact...at least give it two weeks. I totally missed in your opening post that it had only been a week and got the impression that you suspected her of cheating. I need to brush up on my reading comprehension skills.

If you want her, hang in there. Use the exact same fricken formula that you fricken did before. She will still consider any relations with other women as infidelity at this point, so keep that in mind. Don't let your emotions get the best of you...and unless you have proof that she's unfaithful to you, then just consider it a week's vacation.

All of mine did eventually come back and want to start things over after a month or two. But I knew it wasn't because they loved me- they just didn't want to give up what they considered to be their property to another chick. Females are intensely competitive creatures.

**stolenthunder** · 12-04-2010, 10:38 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Hey Packy. Got my D1SC quote

... unless I happen to hang out near where she lives, which is a really popular area in Chicago with a lot of bars and such.

She'll think you're weird. I doubt she would perceive it as evidence of your loyalty to her.

***doberman 152*** · 12-04-2010, 10:40 AM

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-04-2010, 10:43 AM

We were never "officially" a couple from day one. We were dating and spent a great amount of time with one another and talked all the time the entire time we dated.

Not sure if this matters or not either, but we both have a very high sex drive with one another and were very intimate all the time; several times a day whenever we were together.

I don't know if that changes anything or not...but I'm not going to contact her anymore and see where that gets me. Can't hurt I guess.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-04-2010, 10:47 AM

http://www.ls1.com/forums/showthread...17112&page=110

This is all you're getting for now...

**KahanaReef** · 12-04-2010, 10:53 AM

I'm just going to add to this that a high sex drive and a long distance relationship, isn't the best pairing.

What I do know, is that when we're done. We're done. And constant contact attempts are only going to make her wish she lived even further away...

Give her space and live your life in the meantime. Don't put it on hold. If she's going to come back around, she's going to have to have time to miss you a little bit

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-04-2010, 10:56 AM

I know. Going without all week was tough for us.

I had planned on moving up to the city if we continued seeing one another.

**Packy** · 12-04-2010, 11:03 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Hey Packy. Got my D1SC quote

She will never see me. We live too far away from one another, unless I happen to hang out near where she lives, which is a really popular area in Chicago with a lot of bars and such.

Forget about her for a while and devote yourself to getting that D1SC and its components on and tuned!

Women come second to a blown LS1 F-body

**Nhra Firebird** · 12-04-2010, 11:07 AM

Originally Posted by KahanaReef

I'm just going to add to this that a high sex drive and a long distance relationship, isn't the best pairing.

What I do know, is that when we're done. We're done. And constant contact attempts are only going to make her wish she lived even further away...

Give her space and live your life in the meantime. Don't put it on hold. If she's going to come back around, she's going to have to have time to miss you a little bit

That's why it would have never worked out with us.... With you being in CA and me being in PA.

**Y2KPewterSS** · 12-04-2010, 11:11 AM

Here is my "wise" advice. Relationships fail about 92% of the time now, which leaves a success rate of 8%. Divorces are what keep Jeff's income going

The shit is not worth it, go find another chick. There are tons out there, from what I know about you, you aren't having any trouble reeling in the hot ones. You may find one you like more. Agonizing over this isn't worth it, I would forget about her existence and discontinue hope of revival.

**Packy** · 12-04-2010, 11:15 AM

Originally Posted by Y2KPewterSS

Here is my "wise" advice. Relationships fail about 92% of the time now, which leaves a success rate of 8%. Divorces are what keep Jeff's income going

The shit is not worth it, go find another chick. There are tons out there, from what I know about you, you aren't having any trouble reeling in the hot ones. You may find one you like more. Agonizing over this isn't worth it, I would forget about her existence and discontinue hope of revival.

Well said. Now get that Procharger and

**KahanaReef** · 12-04-2010, 11:18 AM

Originally Posted by Nhra Firebird

That's why it would have never worked out with us.... With you being in CA and me being in PA.

I do believe you are correct

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-04-2010, 11:19 AM

Originally Posted by stolenthunder

She'll think you're weird. I doubt she would perceive it as evidence of your loyalty to her.

I kind of agree. She lives right by the Cubs stadium so I know I'm going to be in that area regardless in time.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-04-2010, 11:23 AM

Originally Posted by Y2KPewterSS

Here is my "wise" advice. Relationships fail about 92% of the time now, which leaves a success rate of 8%. Divorces are what keep Jeff's income going

The shit is not worth it, go find another chick. There are tons out there, from what I know about you, you aren't having any trouble reeling in the hot ones. You may find one you like more. Agonizing over this isn't worth it, I would forget about her existence and discontinue hope of revival.

In all honesty, most of the girls I've reeled in are pretty hot. I don't consider myself a model by any means, but I am a good looking guy with a good job, my own house, 2 nice cars, and now a puppy...

I really think this is affecting more than any other girl because she was the 1st girl I had "dated" in about 2 years after leaving the girl I dated for 7 years.

Having the feeling of a g/f again was great to me, and now that it's gone, I am feeling a little down.

I have no doubts that I'll be back in the swing of things before too long, it's just going to need some time and possibly meeting another girl to get my mind off of this one.

I have realized though that the older you get, the more difficult it is to meet people, good people, that you connect with. The bar scene is getting a little played out for me.

**KahanaReef** · 12-04-2010, 11:27 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

In all honesty, most of the girls I've reeled in are pretty hot. I don't consider myself a model by any means, but I am a good looking guy with a good job, my own house, 2 nice cars, and now a puppy...

Take that puppy out for more walks. To dog parks. Any parks. They're chick magnets

**Blackbird WS6** · 12-04-2010, 11:29 AM

Originally Posted by KahanaReef

Take that puppy out for more walks. To dog parks. Any parks. They're chick magnets

yea, i think your better off doing this ^^^ then finding a girl in a bar lol not saying you wont but....

**stolenthunder** · 12-04-2010, 11:37 AM

Here's a little formula that works for me:

Put on your bad boy face and go for a drive in the meanest, loudest car you own. Go for a long drive, far away and in whatever direction opposite from her that pulls you the hardest.

Force your mind elsewhere. Every time those thoughts come back, reject them. The ability to reject thoughts and memories is a learned skill. Perfect it. Focus on the road (watch out for idiots) and put everything that is going on around you in your peripheral. Driving gives you a sense of control over at least something in your life. Do what it takes to re-absorb confidence in yourself and your future. Let your subconscious mind work this situation out for you and re-assign your conscious mind to better things.

**Blackbird WS6** · 12-04-2010, 11:40 AM

Originally Posted by stolenthunder

Force your mind elsewhere. Every time those thoughts come back, reject them. The ability to reject thoughts and memories is a learned skill. Perfect it. Focus on the road (watch out for idiots) and put everything that is going on around you in your peripheral. Driving gives you a sense of control over at least something in your life. Do what it takes to re-absorb confidence in yourself and your future. Let your subconscious mind work this situation out for you and re-assign your conscious mind to better things.

well said...i do the same from time to time