Is there anything out there that can help me?

[blackSS01]

This is the best advice in this thread!! Sometimes a doctor can prescribe a different pill, most times it is about the hormones!

Ignore all the other bullshit some of the others have posted!

Great advice. And most people I guess are misguided. I don't ask her all the time, because I don't need to. I just asked her if I get it done for her to try to rule out some possiblilies (spell?) But its all good. Thanks to the few that gave serious answers

[Lutzfire24]

Once a month is quite low, even for women who by nature have a low sex drive. She should check with her doctor... Quite often a birth control prescription can create a very low sex drive and changing that might help (if she is on the pill or the patch). With women it is often all about the hormones...

X2 some types of birth control prescriptions do cause the sex drive to decrease, have her talk to her doctor about switching. Worked for my wife now back up to at least 5 times a week! Good luck!