Oppinions on loaning stuff out

[allbaugh_04]

i could go on and on about this subject. usually if it's not too big i'll loan out a thing or two, but if you don't do me any favors it won't last long. i know some guys that like to eat off me and now i guess i am a dick cuz i won't give them things any more. owell, they are not much of a friend anyways.

i always give people a chance if it's not too expensive, even family can be really bad about loaning things to

i'm sure we've all had that experience where someone fucked something up...i use to loan out movie and one came back all sticky and scratched...frickin syrup on it. so i stopped doing that

[Smittro]

Also hate to say, but it tends to be friends and family that screws you. I love my family members but I would'nt loan them damn thing. Been burned more by my family and friends than total strangers. In my oppinion the reason friends and family do these things is because they know you the best. They know exactly how to get over on or just get to you. They know all the tricks for getting you to do what they wont.
Years ago a family member was "desperate" and needed to borrow some money to pay thier rent. I agreed to help but knew deep down the money was'nt really going to help.
Well because of thier personal issues. Sure enough at the end of the next month...
I get that call "I'm in trouble", "can't make rent this month". They said they were going to lose their apartment and maybe have to live in a homeless shelter. So I helped them again. You see where this is going? Here they are end of next month asking for money. Fed up I said, "I guess you'll just have to live in a shelter sorry, but I'm not a bank"! To this day they would'nt even dare ask me for a damn thing. That expirience made me lean towards not lending anything to anyone. Sometimes I think people gotta do what they need to do for themselves, without help from others.

[Smittro]

Sorry if I sound like a dick to some. But I'm the most accomplished in my family by the age 0f 28. Worked my way to have my own company. Now at 35 I have my own family and they come first. I don't have time for "middle aged" family members and "friends" who never really wanted to do what it takes to get up and out of thier situations.

[FasstChevys]

i know some guys that like to eat off me and now i guess i am a dick cuz i won't give them things any more.

I have this 'friend' that is a good guy but about the only time he'll call is when he needs something.

So, the last time he called and asked to borrow my car trailer I pretty much turned him down and said, "you know, my trailer isn't a 'community car trailer'." He wasn't happy about it, but he knows where I stand. I told my best friend about it and this friend of mine also asks my best friend for favors like this too.......so now it's a running joke. He borrowed my best friends 'community shop saw' last week.

In most instances all you'd have to do is ask me to haul the car for you and help me load it up and unload it, and that'd be enough for me. I've learned that I just want to be in control of my own property.

[Zapper2003]

Its funny you mention this. I just helped a friend with a kitchen remodel. I was brought in for the kitchen sink and to install the dishwasher. 11 hours over the course of 2 days. They had no plan, and I had shit to do. 11 hours. His bill was just over 120$, for the parts. Some at cost, others a bit over, and tax. Friggin' rediculous.

[Poppn]

You charged your own fucking brother to fix his computer? Unless you had to buy hardware, that was total bullshit. You know how many times I've had to drop and reinstall windows on my brothers computer, install new graphics cards, or just fix bugs. I've never charged him anything.

As a side question, is is prostitution if I lend a chick money for promise of sex, and I don't expect to get the money back? How does that work?

it was just for the hardware. I paid out of my pocket to get the hardware and install for free, he agreed to pay me back for the hardware.

[gonzo99ta]

Also hate to say, but it tends to be friends and family that screws you.

althought money can come between a family, i would still help out a family member that was TRULY in need. It may not be the help they were asking for, but i would still help them.
after my father had a stroke, we helped him financially to pay his mortgage for a few months until he got disability to kick in and help. Once the disability kicked in he started complaining he did not have enough money... we told him he needed to adjust his lifestyle to his new lower income as we were not there to support him the rest of his life, just to help when he needed it. He got pissed that no one was helping him, because we would not help the way he wanted us to.

i would do it again because you always stand behind family, although it's always on my terms... beggers can't be choosers!

[LS1Jason]

All depends on the situation for me. Normally dont loan anything out thanks to bad luck I've had.
Loaned an '03 R6 to a buddy to ride, 16yr old chick cut a corner and hit him head on. Luckily it was slow speeds, but needless to say bike was total'd.

Right before christmas, cousin was driving my 07 RX8. 95yr old woman turned into him. Car--Total'd.
Granted neither of these were the fault of friend and cousin. But, its just not worth it to loan anything out much anymore.

[bigrondownhiller]

I depends on who. If I get burned once from someone then I won't help them or lend them anything again.

[LS1Jason]

Ones i know i can depend on i'll help out. Though, after I moved (first time in 6 years) and only one friend helped out, the list shrunk drastically. This, after I've moved more than a dozen friends/relatives over the years. Sometime multiple times. Ever want to know whose really there for you, move to a new house and see who actually helps you with it.

[0rion]

I have been screwed by a few people. I have never payed. I would say 5k worth of screw.

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[DrMilhouse]

I had a friend ask me to borrow money yesterday. This was a larger amount of money than I think I should loan out. I gave a few alternatives and offerred to help out some and even basically gave her $150, offerred to help her sell off some of her stuff that she has stored.

Other than that, I'm pretty cool about loaning whatever I have if someone needs it. If I loan you something and I don't get it back, don't bother asking for something else.

[Smittro]

althought money can come between a family, i would still help out a family member that was TRULY in need. It may not be the help they were asking for, but i would still help them.
after my father had a stroke, we helped him financially to pay his mortgage for a few months until he got disability to kick in and help. Once the disability kicked in he started complaining he did not have enough money... we told him he needed to adjust his lifestyle to his new lower income as we were not there to support him the rest of his life, just to help when he needed it. He got pissed that no one was helping him, because we would not help the way he wanted us to.

i would do it again because you always stand behind family, although it's always on my terms... beggers can't be choosers!

Yeah that makes total sence to me. I agree about helping family too. However, I had to draw the line when I was seeing that they were not doing what was needed to help themselves. I feel you did the right thing helping cause your Dad had health troubles. In my case they were just begining to rely on me to bail them out. Because I have it like that. They had jobs but dont know how to manage their money. Aswell as other personal issues they were not dealing with. If they had health problems I'd gladly help them. But They dont and were starting to think I'd give them money when ever they asked for it.

[DrMilhouse]

Sorry if I sound like a dick to some. But I'm the most accomplished in my family by the age 0f 28. Worked my way to have my oun company. Now at 35 I have my oun family and they come first. I don't have time for "middle aged" family members and "friends" who never really wanted to do what it takes to get up and out of thier situations.

Eh, you don't sound like a dick. It's "own" I think that you're trying to say though.

[DrMilhouse]

Yep cant spell to save my life.LOL Thanx I was excellent math student but a terible grammer student!LOL!

It's possible that you were a terrible grammar student too.



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[Nhra Firebird]

Does anybody have a sister they want to lend me?