For the guys that got a divorce.............

**astyles** · 04-20-2009, 04:03 AM

witht the 1st wife we just grew apart and she deciced to have fun else where.......my 2nd wife is a totally different person........

**astyles** · 04-20-2009, 04:05 AM

Originally Posted by rbob93

I've married 4 times.....I don't have ANY good advice on marriage except DON'T.....especially strippers!!

but i bet they are fun to play with

**ccusum** · 04-20-2009, 05:23 AM

Marrage is what YOU and SHE make of it. I have been Married for 16 yrs. never broke up, speerated, or any of that. If any of you really think that being married is NOT a job, your wrong. You need to work at it to keep it healthy. Just my opinion though and it has worked for me and the wife!

**Murder after Midnight** · 04-20-2009, 06:07 AM

Damn this thread exploded lol, thanks for all the advice guys..................

**ls1blackbeauty98** · 04-20-2009, 06:36 AM

Originally Posted by bandit95

people in general don't seem to be as genuine or committed anymore. i've been divorced from a chick who cheated on me after we were together 3 years. it's a crappy feeling but it opened the doors for me to meet someone who although we've been through more shit as a couple than probably 98% of other couple's will ever go through, we are still together and love each other and have a little girl together now. it's been an awesome experience. i think society has been demoralized so much that people just don't know how to truly handle the responsibilities it takes to make a true loving relationship last now. the older generations really didn't have as much to cloud their lives and i believe that's why they last a lot longer than the newer ones. guys are just as guilty as girls in newer relationships. there isn't a worse trend to either sex i don't think. bros do stupid stuff as much as the hoes do. you can be an ass or treat someone like royalty and there's no guarantee that it will last now. people just get too selfish in their own evil desires and let it tear their lives apart. it's sad but true.

Agree

**irishpenguin13** · 04-20-2009, 06:41 AM

i never understand it. this kinda thing happens too often. why is it people do this kinda thing after getting married, its kinda missing the point of getting married in the first place. its almost like getting married is just something to do. and it pisses me the fuck off, if someone isnt happy with a person, than talk to that person about it. dont go off and royally screw things up when it coulda been resolved better.

**knightryda01** · 04-20-2009, 07:53 AM

Ill wait however long cuz im not ever getting a divorce.. not an option!! Do it right, make it right the first and only time!

That ideal is true until you realise how many people that have gotten divorced said that same exact thing. Which is basically the whole problem with marriage. if your husband/wife no longer wants to be in a relationship you for whatever reason... you have no choice in the matter. It's over bottomline.

**408WS6** · 04-20-2009, 08:05 AM

I think todays society in America is all screwed up, for many reasons. You have Hollywood constantly telling america that life should be glamorous, and should get instant gratification without having to work for it. You also have moral issues (as already pointed out) that are at an all-time high. You also have womens lib that has shrunk the penis of every american male. I could go on, but I won't. In short, make damn sure its the right thing to do. If you are not sure, don't do it. And you really can never be 100% sure...

**Jays00ss** · 04-20-2009, 08:15 AM

My first wife was for all the wrong reasons. I was in the military, needed more money, young, and did it way to soon to really see what she was REALLY like. Got out of the Military beacuse of her and ended up divorced a year later. BIG BIG Learning curve. 3.5 years from meeting till divorce

My wife I have now, Is simply amazing. Wonderfull woman. Loves all the stuff I like to do (Cars, drag racing, Cruises, football, camping, fishing, going to titty bars, hooters) We never fight. We each have our own seperate bank accounts so My fun money is mine, hers is hers. Took me about 5 years after my divorce to find her but I am glad I took the plunge again. Just celebrated our 5th year being married (Got married 04/04/04 Ya I wont forget that date LOL) and have been together for 8 years.

**KahanaReef** · 04-20-2009, 08:29 AM

Originally Posted by toityme

If you consider divorce as an option in your relationship you are more likely to get in a divorce. When you marry, you have to have the perception of you only marry once, so its gotta be the right girl.. cuz divorce really isnt an option....

Thats we discussed in my psyc/soci class.. I completely agree...

Ill wait however long cuz im not ever getting a divorce.. not an option!! Do it right, make it right the first and only time! Belong to one person in that way for the rest of your life.

Sounds pretty good on paper (or monitor) doesn't it... As a matter of fact, I've a feeling we all feel that way when we take the marriage plunge.

Unfortunately, it doesn't always work that way even with the best of intentions

The only advice I can give is don't give up too soon. Examine all avenues before signing those final papers. Counseling or whatever else. Especially if you have children.

Originally Posted by ccusum

Marrage is what YOU and SHE make of it. I have been Married for 16 yrs. never broke up, speerated, or any of that. If any of you really think that being married is NOT a job, your wrong. You need to work at it to keep it healthy. Just my opinion though and it has worked for me and the wife!

17 yrs here on my second. Hardest job I've ever had! And, not always very rewarding either

**snaggeltooth** · 04-20-2009, 08:45 AM

Dont marry a woman that already has her OWN kids .. You think regular marriage is hard , just add that to it ..

**86 IROC-Z** · 04-20-2009, 09:34 AM

I believe one of the leading causes of divorce is financial problems.

Confirm/deny?

**snaggeltooth** · 04-20-2009, 10:25 AM

Originally Posted by 86 IROC-Z

I believe one of the leading causes of divorce is financial problems.

Confirm/deny?

I would say negative .. sure its easy to blame financial problems , but its already deeper than that .. Everyone know divorce destroys your credit ...

**KahanaReef** · 04-20-2009, 11:17 AM

Originally Posted by snaggeltooth

Dont marry a woman that already has her OWN kids .. You think regular marriage is hard , just add that to it ..

That is what I always tell my son!

**Nhra Firebird** · 04-20-2009, 11:47 AM

Originally Posted by KahanaReef

That is what I always tell my son!

you have a son... I guess it wont work out for us.

**transamprincess98** · 04-20-2009, 11:54 AM

Originally Posted by Nhra Firebird

you have a son... I guess it wont work out for us.

You're BF is gonna beat your ass for flirting with a chick

**c5z28** · 04-20-2009, 12:01 PM

Originally Posted by astyles

witht the 1st wife we just grew apart and she deciced to have fun else where.......my 2nd wife is a totally different person........

that pic

**Nhra Firebird** · 04-20-2009, 12:30 PM

Originally Posted by transamprincess98

You're BF is gonna beat your ass for flirting with a chick

we he doesn't know wont hurt him

**KahanaReef** · 04-20-2009, 12:48 PM

Originally Posted by Nhra Firebird

you have a son... I guess it wont work out for us.

Originally Posted by transamprincess98

You're BF is gonna beat your ass for flirting with a chick

**toi tyme** · 04-20-2009, 01:00 PM

If you fight or argue and get caught up in little things, little fights,, little walk outs but always come back, what are you gonna do when a actual big issue comes along? Youre not gonna make it, and youre gonna tear apart. If you cant make it through the little shit, youll never make it through the actual hard shit.

Therefore, little stupid meaningless fights that happen quite often mean youre dooooomeddd!!! haha

Originally Posted by ArcticZ06

ditto. Im exactly the same. Sometimes I think I'll never get married! I want it to be a one time thing so I may be waiting forever! lol

haha on the same boat. Ive been close to marriage before,, and THANK GOD it didnt happen... looking back im like wtf was i thinking. But now, i have whole new perspective and out look about it..... No rush! Ill let the chips fall, if it happens, and it feels right, thats the best I can do.

if im 40 and getting married then ill be 40. I dont wanna be married just to be married.