Girlfriend help

**whoa guy** · 03-28-2006, 07:17 PM

BIGRED Z · 03-28-2006, 07:31 PM

Ok, female prespective here.

Ignore all that "Be a man and play it cool" crap,

she won't think you're a man in control, she'll think you are just fuck buddies and will act accordingly. If I think a guy is just in it for the sex, I'm sure as hell not going to act all googly eyed, I have an ego too

So all you get is 2 people pretending to not care, and playing it cool.

If she wants more, this "manly" attitude will drive any self respecting woman away,

because she has her pride too, she's not going to throw herself out there if she thinks you just want to be fuck buddies. Forget the male/female crap, we're all human. We all feel, and we all fear rejection.

How about a truley honest approach? "Hey, I like you, I'm glad we're hanging out again...are you ready to take this further or are we just bumping uglies?" This in no way will emasculate you, it will just be a uniquely honest approach instead of all the head games suggested in just about every post in this thread.

And guys say females play mind games.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. In my opinion, it takes bigger balls and makes you more of a man to just throw it out there. Not saying you have to cry or be all mushy about it. Just say it. Honest, blunt, put it out there and then the ball is in her court.

Good Luck,
Lori

**Hi-Po** · 03-28-2006, 08:34 PM

Originally Posted by pecha

dating shmating, you guys never had f_ckbuddies?

i agree 100 %.

**BillyT** · 03-28-2006, 08:43 PM

Originally Posted by BIGRED Z

Ok, female prespective here.

Ignore all that "Be a man and play it cool" crap,

she won't think you're a man in control, she'll think you are just fuck buddies and will act accordingly. If I think a guy is just in it for the sex, I'm sure as hell not going to act all googly eyed, I have an ego too

So all you get is 2 people pretending to not care, and playing it cool.

If she wants more, this "manly" attitude will drive any self respecting woman away,

because she has her pride too, she's not going to throw herself out there if she thinks you just want to be fuck buddies. Forget the male/female crap, we're all human. We all feel, and we all fear rejection.

How about a truley honest approach? "Hey, I like you, I'm glad we're hanging out again...are you ready to take this further or are we just bumping uglies?" This in no way will emasculate you, it will just be a uniquely honest approach instead of all the head games suggested in just about every post in this thread.

And guys say females play mind games.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. In my opinion, it takes bigger balls and makes you more of a man to just throw it out there. Not saying you have to cry or be all mushy about it. Just say it. Honest, blunt, put it out there and then the ball is in her court.

Good Luck,
Lori

Never take advice from the enemy.

**Hi-Po** · 03-28-2006, 08:45 PM

Originally Posted by BillyT

Never take advice from the enemy.

BIGRED Z · 03-28-2006, 08:53 PM

Originally Posted by BillyT

Never take advice from the enemy.

Yes, very true, I forgot to mention, we're all out to get you!

Of course, I'd know better to give advice with your anti marrying self.

**tornado** · 03-29-2006, 05:44 AM

Well Im still reading all the threads here and I am to meet her tonight for a drink near her house. I may bring it up after a couple drinks,I dunno. i like Lori's approach tho, The I really like you and glad we are hanging out again. I may start there and see where that goes??

**tboysen00** · 03-29-2006, 12:51 PM

fuck, just ask, are we dating, if not oh well least you get ass for a while

**Bigrus** · 03-29-2006, 01:05 PM

Originally Posted by tornado

Well Im still reading all the threads here and I am to meet her tonight for a drink near her house. I may bring it up after a couple drinks,I dunno. i like Lori's approach tho, The I really like you and glad we are hanging out again. I may start there and see where that goes??

I do not know if that is the right approach. Ever notice most girls say they want honesty and then when you are they either get upset or say "lets just see how this goes" or "i just want some fun maybe i dont want to rush it" kinda shit.

Woman are so hot/cold. You would know her best and if you think honesty is the best way to go with her then go for it, but if you know she gets skiddish then just enjoy the free sex.

**tornado** · 03-29-2006, 01:36 PM

well we met for a few drinks and we had quite a walk to our car and I just said you know I really like you and glad we are hanging out again. She said me2. lol