another rant about women

**Y2KPewterSS** · 06-09-2011, 10:22 AM

Originally Posted by basballny2

its just frustrating, treated her real good, i have a career, buyin a house this summer, i just dont understand how you go from sleeping at my house last week and telling me how happy you are and all this other bullshit to....i need my time.....i know its another guy but it just sux.

I stated it earlier, but will do so again, she is not ready for what you want. She might have realized by staying at your place what you are ready for. She probably doesn't have her life together enough to make a strong commitment and she realized it.

**allbaugh_04** · 06-09-2011, 11:00 AM

Originally Posted by suede

there is another guy.... all i needed to read was "i need to figure things out" 9 outa 10 times that means "Im not sure which guy i want, thought something new would be good but i miss the old one"

trust me i have them down to an art...

Spot on

**CJREX** · 06-09-2011, 11:22 AM

Originally Posted by Spaz

text her something like "you only live once... i tihnk i was more than good to you but you seem to have another agenda... i don't want to sound mean, rude or cruel but don't expect me to wait around for you while you try to figure out if you want to be with me or not because you've already made up your mind..."

then don't ever talk to her again...

Listen to Dr. Spaz.

She does have her agenda even if she doesn't yet know what it is.

And if you do get back with her you're only going to be postponing the inevitable to a future date, when it may have more dire consequences.

Time to find another.

**SiggyZ** · 06-09-2011, 11:29 AM

Everyone does that shit. Women and men. Like Jody said, it's human nature to be indecisive.

**basballny2** · 06-09-2011, 11:36 AM

i dont know if i would take her back if she calls down the road.....my guess is shell call when schools starting up again because shell be going to school right by my house. i just dont know if i could take a girl back that left me for another guy

**TLS_Addict** · 06-09-2011, 11:38 AM

My friend. Spaz is on the right path though I am not a text kind of guy to tell someone something like that. I would ask her to meet you somewhere for a cup of coffee. Then tell her how you feel and that you dont have time for b.s. and that you had a good time with her but you wont be waiting around for her. Tell her that you fear she is stuck between you and her ex and that you realize its a tough decision to make and that you dont want to push her in to something she doesnt really want. Then tell her that she has your number if she wants to get in touch with you but that you are not going to sit around waiting for her. Then get up and stick her with the tab....

**TLS_Addict** · 06-09-2011, 11:41 AM

Originally Posted by basballny2

i dont know if i would take her back if she calls down the road.....my guess is shell call when schools starting up again because shell be going to school right by my house. i just dont know if i could take a girl back that left me for another guy

If you dont think you can.................you cant. Easy. I dont like being someones 2nd choice either.

**Spaz** · 06-09-2011, 11:46 AM

Originally Posted by basballny2

i dont know if i would take her back if she calls down the road.....my guess is shell call when schools starting up again because shell be going to school right by my house. i just dont know if i could take a girl back that left me for another guy

of course you'll be good enough when the other guy pee's in her butt then leaves her to rot... like TLS said don't be #2 cause in her eyes you won't be #1....

**suede** · 06-09-2011, 02:35 PM

Originally Posted by allbaugh_04

Spot on

lol a second even from somone who has seen me work

Originally Posted by Spaz

of course you'll be good enough when the other guy pee's in her butt then leaves her to rot... like TLS said don't be #2 cause in her eyes you won't be #1....

trick to finding a good one is not only make them make you number 1 but even make it hard for them to make you number one... then if she does, you know shes hooked, and b your in alot control of things

two quotes come to mind... one chicks use all the time but guys need to know how to apply it too....

"If you cant handle me at my worst you dont deserve me at my best"
9 outa 10 times this also works into the "everyone wants what they can have" if you play it right

also

"The person who cares the least holds the power in the relationship..."
example, one of the lady friends was pissed at me for something i said while drunk that i dont even remember, wanted to fight about it, but wouldnt even tell me what i said (pretty sure just wanted to fight, wether for make up sex or just to fight), I just looked at her and said "if your that pissed leave me..." granted she came back with "i fuckin hate it when you do that" but if shes a good girl, shes not gonna leave over something like that, and if she is well she evidently wasnt that into it

**310stanger** · 06-09-2011, 06:02 PM

Originally Posted by basballny2

soooo ive been talking to this girl for about 6 months and in those 6 months theres been alot from her past ive accepted because i thought shed be worth it. i decided to forget about how i usually look at things and look past it because of how it was between the two of us. so everythings been fine, she slept over last week, we went to dinner, went to the beach etc. and there hasnt even been a hint of anything wrong. well last night i get a txt from her saying ....its not you its me i need time to figure things out etc etc......i was like huh? wheres this coming from. she says its something she has to do and all this bs. i have 2 ideas, 2 days after she slept over she went to a party her x was at (they dated for 2 years) but told me she saw him and left....didnt seem to upset about it so i payed it no attention. the 2nd idea is she just started a new job and the night before she told me all this she was telling me how well the 2 of them get along. again i trusted her and didnt even question it. now im sitting here telling myself i never should have accepted her past because eventually all women are the same. my question to you guys is........is it the new guy? is it the x? or does she just need some time and will call in a week or 2........ill try to get a pic up in a min/rant

game over jack. not even worth making the effort. the ball is in her court. you are wasting time and energy if you were to try and "fix" anything. She made these decisions.

She fucked her ex the night of that party

**310stanger** · 06-09-2011, 06:03 PM

Originally Posted by 67CamaroRSSS

Unless it's been more than 1 year (sometimes longer) since the last relationship then they are not over it.

Trust me I've been in your shoes...

And I'm with P on this: Less headaches without them...

Truth.

**310stanger** · 06-09-2011, 06:05 PM

Originally Posted by suede

there is another guy.... all i needed to read was "i need to figure things out" 9 outa 10 times that means "Im not sure which guy i want, thought something new would be good but i miss the old one"

trust me i have them down to an art...

yup. the girl has been granted options, and leave it to a girl to go after the "bigger better deal". at least in her perception. that means SOMEBODY is left holding their own dick and a beer in the other hand. in this case its the OP.

**Y2KPewterSS** · 06-09-2011, 07:03 PM

Originally Posted by 310stanger

game over jack. not even worth making the effort. the ball is in her court. you are wasting time and energy if you were to try and "fix" anything. She made these decisions.

She fucked her ex the night of that party

Bingo^

**StuntmanMike** · 06-09-2011, 07:58 PM

Bitches be crazy!

**67CamaroRSSS** · 06-09-2011, 08:17 PM

Originally Posted by StuntmanMike

Bitches be crazy!

QFTroof!

**cammed goat** · 06-09-2011, 08:33 PM

Originally Posted by Spaz

text her something like "you only live once... i tihnk i was more than good to you but you seem to have another agenda... i don't want to sound mean, rude or cruel but don't expect me to wait around for you while you try to figure out if you want to be with me or not because you've already made up your mind..."

then don't ever talk to her again...

^^This. Mine left me, but not for her ex. She left me for the "family" who abandoned her at 13 and left her homeless and caused unnecessary stress. I was supportive, and when I told her how I felt about her situation, she blew up at me and broke things off after almost 6 months. Oh well. I was the supportive one. Good riddance to her. She is another reason why I like "ME" time.

**basballny2** · 06-09-2011, 08:38 PM

it just seems like every girl i meet and want to get serious with isnt ready to get serious and every girl i cant wait to get rid of i can never get rid of

**StuntmanMike** · 06-09-2011, 08:39 PM

Originally Posted by basballny2

it just seems like every girl i meet and want to get serious with isnt ready to get serious and every girl i cant wait to get rid of i can never get rid of

LOL, the story of my life!

**suede** · 06-09-2011, 08:49 PM

thats why you try to get rid of them all even if ya do want to keep them, then when the one that sticks around and is one you want it works beautifully lol

**cammed goat** · 06-09-2011, 08:56 PM

Look at it this way,

You can save your money, as today's relationships are based on your income, looks, how you are in bed, how immature you can act, the size of your pen0r, if you own your own business, own your own place, etc.

I have listened to this shit at work, when I am out and about, seen the discussions on TV. Man...it's like society has become so FAKE now. A reality show hits the airwaves and the women emulate what they see on TV. Hair, dress, speech...it is sooooo mind-numbing. I don't think there are many down-to-earth women anymore. It's better to just look after yourself and spoil yourself rotten. And if there are those women who want to bitch about your selfishness...then it is your god-given right to ask them what they want...and most likely...they won't tell you much...because they have a hidden agenda. I listen to the hens cackle at work and it is SO annoying.