Relationship Advice...

**SiggyZ** · 06-06-2011, 08:35 AM

She misses you and wants you back. I've been there before, so I know. With that said, I'd still play it cool and let her come to you. Women are generally turned off by that overly pushing stuff.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 06-06-2011, 08:41 AM

She just e-mailed me again...

She sounds super excited once again...

**FasstChevys** · 06-06-2011, 08:43 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

She just e-mailed me again...

She sounds super excited once again...

To me, that's another sign. I believe she's single, and really doesn't want to be, and probably still cares about you.

She's all bubbly, excited, upbeat, etc.........but I bet she's hiding the fact she doesn't want to be single. Operation Smoke Screen

Take it slow -

**jiveass** · 06-06-2011, 08:44 AM

getting back together sex FTW!!

**35th-ANV-SS** · 06-06-2011, 08:53 AM

Alright guys. Inside I am uber excited as this girl I believe "is the one"....and I've met and dated probably close to 50 girls now...none even come close to comparing.

I have ZERO expectations though...

I am just going to stay upbeat, chill, and let her come to me.

I will not ask her to do anything and if she wants to make plans, I plan on making her come my way.

I will take it slow this time around.

The 1st time around it was SUPER intense from the get go. It was a lot of fun and sex right from the get go. I don't want the relationship to be ALL about sex this time, but I'm not going to turn it down either

**KMdef9** · 06-06-2011, 09:33 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I have ZERO expectations though...

= zero disappointment

This would be my recommendation.

**allbaugh_04** · 06-06-2011, 10:27 AM

50 girls jeez. I think i've only met one worth dating since then.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 06-06-2011, 10:58 AM

Tried an online dating site. 100's of girls hit me up over the course of a year. I met quite a few of those, etc.

None were long-term material really.

**allbaugh_04** · 06-06-2011, 11:55 AM

That's why I'd be reluctant to try it. I'd rather meet people through friends, but even that isn't common anymore. People don't socialize publicly as much as they use to, like having friends over etc. When that does happen though, they are all usually couples.

**Mr. Luos** · 06-06-2011, 12:06 PM

Originally Posted by jrbonds

Stay away. Do not talk to her much at all. She's lonely and pulling the black book out. Period.

Jon, I agree with this.
Obviously I don't know her, but it has that feel.....

**35th-ANV-SS** · 06-06-2011, 12:36 PM

She really has nothing to gain though from talking to me I feel. She has a ton of friends, she knows tons of guys, she has dated a lot of guys...

Why me? That's my point.

At one point in time when things were really good between us she told me I had everything she was looking for in a guy and that I was the best thing to ever walk into her life since she moved here.

Like I said, I'm not totally just going to buy into anything...and I don't even know for sure that her contacting me is her wanting to get back together.

She has not mentioned anything about hanging out at all. Maybe she is testing the waters...to see if I have changed.

I hear what everyone is saying and looking in from the outside I'd give the same advice...but I really feel I am the one who fucked this up the first go around...not her. I wanted to blame her for not wanting to try to work it out...but that was WAY AFTER things had already got to a point of no return.

If she was just looking for a summer fling...I really don't think she'd be contacting me. I live over an hr away from her.

This girl used to be into me like no other girl...ever.

Ugh...FUCK!!! Hahaha.

**SiggyZ** · 06-06-2011, 12:42 PM

Such is the life.

Just take it one day at a time. That's always been my motto.

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

She really has nothing to gain though from talking to me I feel. She has a ton of friends, she knows tons of guys, she has dated a lot of guys...

Why me? That's my point.

At one point in time when things were really good between us she told me I had everything she was looking for in a guy and that I was the best thing to ever walk into her life since she moved here.

Like I said, I'm not totally just going to buy into anything...and I don't even know for sure that her contacting me is her wanting to get back together.

She has not mentioned anything about hanging out at all. Maybe she is testing the waters...to see if I have changed.

I hear what everyone is saying and looking in from the outside I'd give the same advice...but I really feel I am the one who fucked this up the first go around...not her. I wanted to blame her for not wanting to try to work it out...but that was WAY AFTER things had already got to a point of no return.

If she was just looking for a summer fling...I really don't think she'd be contacting me. I live over an hr away from her.

This girl used to be into me like no other girl...ever.

Ugh...FUCK!!! Hahaha.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 06-06-2011, 12:50 PM

I really feel this is her feeling me out again.

She is interested in me again. Me not contacting her gave her time to miss me and start remembering all the fun shit we did together and that connection we used to have.

I have no doubt in my mind she is single again.

I'm not getting my hopes up. We were supposed to go to Sushi a few months back and that never happened.

This is the very 1st time she has initiated contact with me though over the last 8 months. I was always the one contacting her and she would just reply.

That is what makes this time different...at least IMO.

**allbaugh_04** · 06-06-2011, 01:06 PM

If you love her, I wouldn't fuck around.

**Mr. Luos** · 06-06-2011, 01:16 PM

You are going about it right.

Expecting anything out of it may hurt down the road. Ride it out, see what happens.
I just fear it is the "black book" type thing.

I am no relationship expert though....I fail all the time.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 06-06-2011, 01:58 PM

Hell C I aint either lol. I give great advice, but when it comes to me, I never know what to do! All I know is our feelings for one another were very intense. I compare every girl to her that I meet. She's always been on my mind this whole time and no female has ever had that effect on me...ever.

**Mr. Luos** · 06-06-2011, 02:02 PM

Well good luck with it!
At least you aren't expecting much, which will help if it is indeed the "black book" thing....

**tremiles** · 06-06-2011, 11:11 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Why me? That's my point.

Why not you?

She probably thinks you were a good guy who f'd up and she wants to give you another chance. Ask her to meet for lunch, evaluate the situation and go from there. Don't play games.

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**importhater81** · 06-07-2011, 02:41 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

Hell C I aint either lol. I give great advice, but when it comes to me, I never know what to do! All I know is our feelings for one another were very intense. I compare every girl to her that I meet. She's always been on my mind this whole time and no female has ever had that effect on me...ever.

Sounds about like the same thing I'm going through. I'd say go for it.Try and get back together with her.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 06-07-2011, 04:11 AM

Quite a few e-mails back n forth yesterday. I only am hearing from her during work hours right now though, which seems a bit odd to me.

So far the conversations are just like they use to be back when we first met. It's kind of like we're starting from square one, even though the history is there between us.

She might just be wanting to be friends, so I am prepared for that.

Just going to go with the flow at this point.