Relationship Advice...

**Sarge** · 12-13-2010, 05:19 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

What's the best way to get a girl back you fucked up with?

We broke up a few months back and now I want her back.

We are at a point now where we don't even talk anymore...well she ignores my texts and any work e-mails, etc I send to her, which happened recently.

We were talking/texting almost daily until about a week or 2 ago.

Basic background info is we had a VERY intense relationship.

I have a sarcastic side and it got the best of me and because of my frequent comments and questioning of shit, she bailed.

Any advice?

Tell her you have matured and did not realize how stupid and wrong you have been in life until she was no longer a part of yours.

**0rion** · 12-13-2010, 06:09 PM

Originally Posted by Sarge

Tell her you have matured and did not realize how stupid and wrong you have been in life until she was no longer a part of yours.

in other words......LIE.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-13-2010, 06:11 PM

Me and the ex held down a very nice normal conversation today. It's the first time this has happened in several weeks.

I am not getting any hopes up, but I will continue to be nice, funny, and upbeat...basically myself, who was the person she first fell for.

I told the other "new" girl the bad news today. She didn't take it too well, but at least I was honest and I can move on from that now.

**allbaugh_04** · 12-13-2010, 09:05 PM

You can thank me later.

**justinmc978** · 12-13-2010, 11:50 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I am not getting any hopes up, but I will continue to be nice, funny, and upbeat...basically myself, who was the person she first fell for.

and ran away from too, remember this?:

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I have a sarcastic side and it got the best of me and because of my frequent comments and questioning of shit, she bailed.

Originally Posted by 0rion

in other words......LIE.

in other workds....don't be yourself, it has a much higher success rate.

**Sarge** · 12-14-2010, 02:58 AM

Originally Posted by 0rion

in other words......LIE.

Big Times!

**Smittro** · 12-14-2010, 03:46 AM

Originally Posted by justinmc978

and ran away from too, remember this?:

in other workds....don't be yourself, it has a much higher success rate.

Ahhh to be young again..

Some day my young friend you'll find keeping the peace and staying out of the dog house is a good thing..

**SiggyZ** · 12-14-2010, 06:41 AM

You'll learn the ways of the force as you get older.

Originally Posted by justinmc978

and ran away from too, remember this?:

in other workds....don't be yourself, it has a much higher success rate.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-14-2010, 06:51 AM

I think at this point I need to show my ex that I can just be her friend right now and this way she can learn to like me again as a person first.

That's my thinking at least.

**0rion** · 12-14-2010, 08:57 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I think at this point I need to show my ex that I can just be her friend right now and this way she can learn to like me again as a person first.

That's my thinking at least.

is this girl at least rich? I'll tell you my philosophy. I've seen many of my friends get married and comletely change who they are to keep her happy. I on the other hand am who I am. If you don't like me then hit the road but I'm not changing anything to make someone else happy. My wife knew how I was when we were dating and she decided to marry me anyhow.....if she has any complaints now she only has herself to blame.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-14-2010, 09:39 AM

Originally Posted by justinmc978

and ran away from too, remember this?

She didn't run away from that guy...she ran away from the sarcastic asshole I became.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-14-2010, 09:41 AM

Originally Posted by 0rion

is this girl at least rich? I'll tell you my philosophy. I've seen many of my friends get married and comletely change who they are to keep her happy. I on the other hand am who I am. If you don't like me then hit the road but I'm not changing anything to make someone else happy. My wife knew how I was when we were dating and she decided to marry me anyhow.....if she has any complaints now she only has herself to blame.

I agree totally. The problem was I became someone who I am not during the relationship. When that happened, that is when things went sour.

**justinmc978** · 12-14-2010, 10:17 AM

Originally Posted by Smittro

Ahhh to be young again..

Some day my young friend you'll find keeping the peace and staying out of the dog house is a good thing..

Originally Posted by SiggyZ

You'll learn the ways of the force as you get older.

but until then i'll continue to enjoy myself as a manipulative little bastard

**KahanaReef** · 12-14-2010, 10:27 AM

Originally Posted by 0rion

is this girl at least rich? I'll tell you my philosophy. I've seen many of my friends get married and comletely change who they are to keep her happy. I on the other hand am who I am. If you don't like me then hit the road but I'm not changing anything to make someone else happy. My wife knew how I was when we were dating and she decided to marry me anyhow.....if she has any complaints now she only has herself to blame.

That's pretty much the way it is

**stolenthunder** · 12-14-2010, 07:56 PM

Originally Posted by KahanaReef

That's pretty much the way it is

I mean this as no slant against women, but I figured out early on that in many instances where you folks are very vocal about how much you hate something... what it really means is how much you like it. In other cases, not so much.

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 12-14-2010, 08:25 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

I agree totally. The problem was I became someone who I am not during the relationship. When that happened, that is when things went sour.

It'll just repeat unless you fix yourself before jumping back in bro...or find someone you're more compatible with.

**KahanaReef** · 12-14-2010, 09:02 PM

Originally Posted by stolenthunder

I mean this as no slant against women, but I figured out early on that in many instances where you folks are very vocal about how much you hate something... what it really means is how much you like it. In other cases, not so much.

That goes both ways

**stolenthunder** · 12-14-2010, 09:03 PM

Originally Posted by KahanaReef

That goes both ways

Heck yeah. Especially when I know I can use it to get out of trouble.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-15-2010, 07:19 AM

Originally Posted by SeVeReDiStOrTiOn

It'll just repeat unless you fix yourself before jumping back in bro...or find someone you're more compatible with.

I know exactly what you mean. I DO NOT want to make the same mistakes again. Right now I am totally cool with just becoming her friend again and getting her to like me again. That is step number 1.

We are back to being in contact with one another almost daily again. It isn't much as far as the length or context of the conversation, but it is a start.

What I don't want to do is overwhelm her. She is EXTREMELY independent. I have just been waiting for her to initiate contact and then I'll reply to keep the conversation going a little bit. It's always fun, upbeat talk right now.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 12-16-2010, 02:57 PM

So we talked some over the weekend and again today...

She agreed to arrange a date to come have a movie marathon with me

It will probably just be friends, but I don't care. I fucking love this girl more than any other girl I've ever met or dated. It's a start. Let's hope it happens.