Does your spouse work? Rant

**INMY01TA** · 01-19-2015, 04:25 AM

Originally Posted by 98TransAmWs-6

I personally would rather have my wife stay at home with the kids and take care of them than have another income and dump them in daycare or the grandparents because I want them to be with us and have us raise them not other people. I don't have to work 80 hours to keep afloat though but I would in order to have my wife able to stay home with the kids. Then again she doesn't just sit at home and do nothing she takes care of the kids and all of the household stuff. Another thing what is with all this my money and her money if I did that my wife and kids would have nothing but live off of and that is selfish as we are a family and so are you.

+1. My wife doesn't work. Ours is 2 and a half and she should be at home with him.

**35th-ANV-SS** · 01-19-2015, 05:40 AM

This thread makes me realize how glad I am I busted my ass growing up to make shit happen for myself while a lot of my friends fucked off lol.

**knightryda01** · 01-19-2015, 03:40 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

This thread makes me realize how glad I am I busted my ass growing up to make shit happen for myself while a lot of my friends fucked off lol.

Your welcome!... lol

**Murder after Midnight** · 01-19-2015, 04:08 PM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

This thread makes me realize how glad I am I busted my ass growing up to make shit happen for myself while a lot of my friends fucked off lol.

+111111111111

**Naaman** · 01-21-2015, 02:58 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

This thread makes me realize how glad I am I busted my ass growing up to make shit happen for myself while a lot of my friends fucked off lol.

Haha!!! Hindsight is 20/20, right?

Youth is wasted on the young... and all that. :P I didn't really bust my ass when I was young, but I'm busting my ass now, and the light at the end of the tunnel is close, thank goodness.

**allbaugh_04** · 01-21-2015, 05:42 PM

Do you have cable, internet, netflix? Cancel those. You're never home to enjoy them anyway, and you'll save money. Then she'll get a job.

**0rion** · 01-21-2015, 06:07 PM

Originally Posted by allbaugh_04

Do you have cable, internet, netflix? Cancel those. You're never home to enjoy them anyway, and you'll save money. Then she'll get a job.

yeah....I wanna hear how this one works out also

**theorangeguy** · 01-22-2015, 06:09 AM

Originally Posted by allbaugh_04

Do you have cable, internet, netflix? Cancel those. You're never home to enjoy them anyway, and you'll save money. Then she'll get a job.

thats a damn good idea...

**0rion** · 01-22-2015, 09:04 AM

Originally Posted by 35th-ANV-SS

This thread makes me realize how glad I am I busted my ass growing up to make shit happen for myself while a lot of my friends fucked off lol.

this thread makes me realize why the divorce rate is so high

**theorangeguy** · 01-22-2015, 09:07 AM

Originally Posted by 0rion

this thread makes me realize why the divorce rate is so high

Money is the root of all evil...you can apply that saying to just about any situation involving money "like divorce for instance".

**0rion** · 01-22-2015, 09:12 AM

Originally Posted by theorangeguy

Money is the root of all evil...you can apply that saying to just about any situation involving money "like divorce for instance".

well.....when it comes to marriage nothing is ever as simple as shutting off the cable

In his first post he said she's working part time so she is contributing. One of my questions would be then how is the house work divided? If he's working 70 hours a week then I'd gamble to say that he's not doing a ton of the housework......and shouldn't be.....but if she's working part time and doing all the house work that tells me she's working a shit ton more hours than he is and most of her hours are shitty unpaid hours.

**theorangeguy** · 01-22-2015, 10:01 AM

Originally Posted by 0rion

well.....when it comes to marriage nothing is ever as simple as shutting off the cable

In his first post he said she's working part time so she is contributing. One of my questions would be then how is the house work divided? If he's working 70 hours a week then I'd gamble to say that he's not doing a ton of the housework......and shouldn't be.....but if she's working part time and doing all the house work that tells me she's working a shit ton more hours than he is and most of her hours are shitty unpaid hours.

I work and clean house

hell I even cook too...

**Zinergy** · 01-22-2015, 11:59 AM

Since my wife got laid off last week I haven't cooked or done dishes once. I have said it many times before if I made enough to support our life style while also putting money in the bank I would rather she didn't work. I can definately afford the house, cars etc by myself but then she gets cabin fever when she can't just go on shopping sprees and belong to wine clubs, gyms, eyebrow places etc.

**67CamaroRSSS** · 01-22-2015, 04:39 PM

Originally Posted by theorangeguy

I work and clean house

hell I even cook too...

Yeah, but 0rion is a PRO at it...

**0rion** · 01-22-2015, 04:45 PM

Originally Posted by 67CamaroRSSS

Yeah, but 0rion is a PRO at it...

Right....boiling some hotdogs and picking your socks up off the floor aren't "cooking and cleaning".

**0rion** · 01-22-2015, 04:56 PM

Originally Posted by Zinergy

Since my wife got laid off last week I haven't cooked or done dishes once. I have said it many times before if I made enough to support our life style while also putting money in the bank I would rather she didn't work. I can definately afford the house, cars etc by myself but then she gets cabin fever when she can't just go on shopping sprees and belong to wine clubs, gyms, eyebrow places etc.

there's adjustments and sacrifices made for sure.......still though.....not as much as you think. We rarely are left "wanting" for anything but we are realistic about things. We're not buying any yachts in the near future but we have enough to live on and still have savings. Very few people on their death bed wish they would've worked more and even less want to see how much they have in their savings account. I've been thinking about going back to work the last month or so. We've talked about it a few times and we always decide it's better for me to be at home. We'll see......I will probably end up back at work at some point. Just not sure when or in what capacity. We both want a new house and it would be faster/easier to get this one fixed up to sell if I was working. Shit gets expensive in a hurry when you start doing real work to a house.

**theorangeguy** · 01-22-2015, 05:46 PM

Originally Posted by 0rion

Originally Posted by 67CamaroRSSS

Yeah, but 0rion is a PRO at it...

Right....boiling some hotdogs and picking your socks up off the floor aren't "cooking and cleaning".

Men know how to cook if you come from my neck of the woods lol if you're from Louisiana and can't cook you're an ugly duckling.

**0rion** · 01-22-2015, 06:16 PM

Originally Posted by theorangeguy

Men know how to cook if you come from my neck of the woods lol if you're from Louisiana and can't cook you're an ugly duckling.

There's been a huge shift in cooking.....on this site alone there's a lot of guys that cook and do it well. The kitchen thread we have proves that. There's some good cooks on this site.

**Zinergy** · 01-23-2015, 05:20 AM

Originally Posted by 0rion

there's adjustments and sacrifices made for sure.......still though.....not as much as you think. We rarely are left "wanting" for anything but we are realistic about things. We're not buying any yachts in the near future but we have enough to live on and still have savings. Very few people on their death bed wish they would've worked more and even less want to see how much they have in their savings account. I've been thinking about going back to work the last month or so. We've talked about it a few times and we always decide it's better for me to be at home. We'll see......I will probably end up back at work at some point. Just not sure when or in what capacity. We both want a new house and it would be faster/easier to get this one fixed up to sell if I was working. Shit gets expensive in a hurry when you start doing real work to a house.

It would have been easier if she made as much as me and I got laid off. All I would do is reload bullets and shoot my bow lol. And yes shit does get expensive. We were about to order up all new siding, some windows and a new garage door. That is going to be put off until after the new baby now.

**0rion** · 01-23-2015, 05:30 AM

Originally Posted by Zinergy

It would have been easier if she made as much as me and I got laid off. All I would do is reload bullets and shoot my bow lol. And yes shit does get expensive. We were about to order up all new siding, some windows and a new garage door. That is going to be put off until after the new baby now.

I still have about 5768 things that were put off until after the new baby......he's 2 now

Congrats on the new baby....not sure I was aware you guys were expecting. When is it due?

I would also say that if at all possible make sure YOU'RE the one that quits working......hell of a lot more fun than letting them be the one that stops working.

You really do get over being made fun of by your friends pretty quickly. When I first quit working it was slightly embarrassing when someone would ask me what I did for a living. I would tell them "stay at home" then always felt like I needed to explain I wasn't some piece of shit that lost their job and never got another one.....it was a decision we made to stop working. That went away....now when they ask I just say "nothing" and smile my ass off.