So what are ladies responsible for in a dating....

**cammed goat** · 07-15-2009, 03:00 PM

Originally Posted by cuervo25_1

Then perhaps you should keep you legs together and guys should keep their dicks in their pants until they are married. You know the risks and if you don't want to marry the guy why the hell are you fucking anyway. what you said about a kid not figuring into it is just all out plain fucked up.That kid deserves both parents around as much as possible. if you are putting yourself before your child you should never have kids ,sex or even a relationship ever. You are just showing your selfisnhness in all this.

For someone that don't need a man why don't you just buy effen toys and leave us the hell alone. that way you don't have kids,you don't desttroy a kids or a mans life, and you get what the hell you want.

This is why I am so cynical Tony. You know me quite well.

**Spaz** · 07-15-2009, 03:12 PM

Originally Posted by cuervo25_1

Then perhaps you should keep you legs together and guys should keep their dicks in their pants until they are married. You know the risks and if you don't want to marry the guy why the hell are you fucking anyway. what you said about a kid not figuring into it is just all out plain fucked up.That kid deserves both parents around as much as possible. if you are putting yourself before your child you should never have kids ,sex or even a relationship ever. You are just showing your selfisnhness in all this.

For someone that don't need a man why don't you just buy effen toys and leave us the hell alone. that way you don't have kids,you don't destroy a kids or a mans life, and you get what the hell you want.

/end thread...

that sums it up... while fucking is fun if you can't to the time don't do the crime...

**cammed goat** · 07-15-2009, 03:14 PM

Originally Posted by Spaz

/end thread...

that sums it up... while fucking is fun if you can't to the time don't do the crime...

Life is NOT about taking advantage of someone else, but finding one who will help you in life.

**rideon1200** · 07-15-2009, 03:41 PM

Hey, who is taking advantage of who. Maybe the girl just want sex and is just using YOU. I was in a relationship one time, the girl ask me if we could just have a sexual relationship. I was dating another girl who was a lawyer, she let me live in her upstairs and I came down once or twice a week. She was a Ms Tropicana. Just because you get laid doesnt mean you took advantage of anyone.

**cammed goat** · 07-15-2009, 03:52 PM

That's not my thing. I want a woman to actually LOVE me. NOT use me for sex. It happened to me once, will NEVER happen to me again.

**mrwdjv** · 07-15-2009, 06:19 PM

You guys are hilarious as all get out! I did not say that I slept with everybody comin and going. (no pun intended) I just said you should not get married just b/c you have a kid. A good friend of mine had been with the chick 5 years, they got married, and within 14 months were separated. They are both GREAT parents but they are better parents separate than together. A kid should not have to grow up in a house where the parents are arguing and fighting. It sounds as if you guys are living in a fantasy. Life is not ideal under the best circumstances!

***You know the risks and if you don't want to marry the guy why the hell are you fucking anyway***

I did not say I didn't want to ever be married. I said I did not want to get married b/c I got pregnant.

***that sums it up... while fucking is fun if you can't to the time don't do the crime...****

As previously stated....30 years old and never been pregnant.

There is no need to be so defensive. This is not personal nor is it meant to be. This is a board of opinions and people talking and sharing views not personal attacks on anyone or their lifestyle.

**basballny2** · 07-15-2009, 06:42 PM

dont get married just cause u have a kid, enough said

**cuervo25_1** · 07-15-2009, 07:15 PM

Originally Posted by mrwdjv

You guys are hilarious as all get out! I did not say that I slept with everybody comin and going. (no pun intended) I just said you should not get married just b/c you have a kid. A good friend of mine had been with the chick 5 years, they got married, and within 14 months were separated. They are both GREAT parents but they are better parents separate than together. A kid should not have to grow up in a house where the parents are arguing and fighting. It sounds as if you guys are living in a fantasy. Life is not ideal under the best circumstances!

***You know the risks and if you don't want to marry the guy why the hell are you fucking anyway***

I did not say I didn't want to ever be married. I said I did not want to get married b/c I got pregnant.

***that sums it up... while fucking is fun if you can't to the time don't do the crime...****

As previously stated....30 years old and never been pregnant.

There is no need to be so defensive. This is not personal nor is it meant to be. This is a board of opinions and people talking and sharing views not personally attacks on anyone or their lifestyle.

As I said before and I will say it again, if you have no intention of marrying a guy why would you put yourself in a spot where you could get preganant.A child shouldn't live in a house void of a parent because of the parents lack of control.Do you realize that is just as detrimental to a child as being in a house with constant arguing. Lets say a parent has full custody and the other gets visitation every other week. well when that time comes the parent with visitation is ill. that child that has probably been looking foward to seeing their other parent is crushed and in pain due to not being able to. Personally I never want to see a child go through that. and for you to say it is ok to put them through those possible conditions is wrong. I can't even stand it when I have to cancel plans with my son when it rains and we had a fishing,hiking or other outdoor activity planned,Even though I see him everyday and spend time with him everyday he loves the " alone with daddy time"

You are right about one thing though,I am living a fantasy. I met my wife on the net over 7 years ago.
she is 10 years older than I am and divorced(ex beat her)
she came down to visit me,I said screw it and moved to NJ
planned on getting married aug of 2003
found out she was pregnant(after DR.s said she was sterile)
moved wedding up to aug of 2002(same year)

we are approaching our 7th anniversary and no major arguments yet, yea a few minor ones here and there but we have overcame them.that is part of any relationship, if you want to just take and not give no marrage will work for you.

You may be 30 but you are acting like a teen without a care or responsibiliy in the world. You say this isn't about personal attacks but yet it is. you replied to Rich's post about him wanting to marry the girl he gets pregnant if that happens with 2 wrongs don't make a right.I know Rich well enough that he won't put himself in a sexual relationship without knowing him and the lady he is with are planning on being married anyway,or at least have the same values. It is called being responsible for your actions,something that has been lost over the years.

As I said before if you lack the responsibility to raise a child as a married couple forever keep you junk to yourself.

**axxdet** · 07-15-2009, 07:27 PM

Originally Posted by 95camaroZNC

This is just about the biggest reason ive not had a problem with it lately if she dumps you or vice versa you both take a hit instead of your wallet being super empty and hers being full. The last gf i had i payed for everything and even when i was broke she bitched and moaned when she wanted to go out and do something and she had to pay. That relationship ended because she was a cheater, and i bought the car.

yea i'd tell her to suck a big one and put my foot down.... that's bull shit guys got to pay for everything says who and the woman supposed to stay home and take care of the kids too right... please come on plain and simple were both people you do what you can and i'll do what i can , that's how it will last.. and thats why so many dont

**cammed goat** · 07-15-2009, 07:40 PM

Yup. I'm keepin my fly zipped for a long @$$ time. Like I always tell friends/family, I can always adopt later on in life. I'd rather give my all to my child than give to "her" and be used over and over again.

I WILL add this: This thread has left me verifiably DISGUSTED.

**Murder after Midnight** · 07-16-2009, 06:26 PM

Originally Posted by cammed goat

I WILL add this: This thread has left me verifiably DISGUSTED.

Then I know I have succeded.......................

**35th-ANV-SS** · 07-16-2009, 07:53 PM

Originally Posted by basballny2

ya there pretty ridiculous, its just the culture out here, and when u got 18 year old kids driving around in $100,000 cars and never worked a day in there life for it it gets old after a while

I would move lol.

**ls1blackbeauty98** · 07-17-2009, 05:44 AM

Originally Posted by mrwdjv

You guys are hilarious as all get out! I did not say that I slept with everybody comin and going. (no pun intended) I just said you should not get married just b/c you have a kid. A good friend of mine had been with the chick 5 years, they got married, and within 14 months were separated. They are both GREAT parents but they are better parents separate than together. A kid should not have to grow up in a house where the parents are arguing and fighting. It sounds as if you guys are living in a fantasy. Life is not ideal under the best circumstances!

***You know the risks and if you don't want to marry the guy why the hell are you fucking anyway***

I did not say I didn't want to ever be married. I said I did not want to get married b/c I got pregnant.

***that sums it up... while fucking is fun if you can't to the time don't do the crime...****

As previously stated....30 years old and never been pregnant.

There is no need to be so defensive. This is not personal nor is it meant to be. This is a board of opinions and people talking and sharing views not personal attacks on anyone or their lifestyle.

I completely agree, i would never get married just because i were to get pregnant thats such an old idea

I'm 25 years old, never pregnant, never even close to being and do not plan on it, never would more then likely. Thats the last thing i want a child.
i agree that the whole if you cant do the crime blah blah blah is bullshit, how many MEN do the crime but dont pay for it? that leave, no child support nothing? what about that? oohhh thats right...its completely on the woman if she gets pregnant, afterall it was all her fault

(and im not man hating but come on guys, this guy is acting like its all on the woman if she gets pregnant, no responsibility for the guy?)

Originally Posted by cuervo25_1

As I said before and I will say it again, if you have no intention of marrying a guy why would you put yourself in a spot where you could get preganant.A child shouldn't live in a house void of a parent because of the parents lack of control.Do you realize that is just as detrimental to a child as being in a house with constant arguing. Lets say a parent has full custody and the other gets visitation every other week. well when that time comes the parent with visitation is ill. that child that has probably been looking foward to seeing their other parent is crushed and in pain due to not being able to. Personally I never want to see a child go through that. and for you to say it is ok to put them through those possible conditions is wrong. I can't even stand it when I have to cancel plans with my son when it rains and we had a fishing,hiking or other outdoor activity planned,Even though I see him everyday and spend time with him everyday he loves the " alone with daddy time"

You are right about one thing though,I am living a fantasy. I met my wife on the net over 7 years ago.
she is 10 years older than I am and divorced(ex beat her)
she came down to visit me,I said screw it and moved to NJ
planned on getting married aug of 2003
found out she was pregnant(after DR.s said she was sterile)
moved wedding up to aug of 2002(same year)

we are approaching our 7th anniversary and no major arguments yet, yea a few minor ones here and there but we have overcame them.that is part of any relationship, if you want to just take and not give no marrage will work for you.

You may be 30 but you are acting like a teen without a care or responsibiliy in the world. You say this isn't about personal attacks but yet it is. you replied to Rich's post about him wanting to marry the girl he gets pregnant if that happens with 2 wrongs don't make a right.I know Rich well enough that he won't put himself in a sexual relationship without knowing him and the lady he is with are planning on being married anyway,or at least have the same values. It is called being responsible for your actions,something that has been lost over the years.

As I said before if you lack the responsibility to raise a child as a married couple forever keep you junk to yourself.

I just think you should back off, or if you two personally know each other take it off the boards. Stop attacking this member because she's thinking the way people think these days, women can have sex without marriage, they can have babies without marriage or men if they choose to. You're living in 1920, i wouldnt even give you a decade higher that's how outdated your ideas are.

Stop attacking our members or

everyone has a right to their opinion but you've already stated your opinion

**ls1blackbeauty98** · 07-17-2009, 05:49 AM

Originally Posted by cammed goat

Yup. I'm keepin my fly zipped for a long @$$ time. Like I always tell friends/family, I can always adopt later on in life. I'd rather give my all to my child than give to "her" and be used over and over again.

I WILL add this: This thread has left me verifiably DISGUSTED.

I will give you some credit, for being 32? years old you're pretty optomistic about love and life, that's pretty impressive.

**rideon1200** · 07-17-2009, 06:03 AM

Coervo, if you could come down from your pedestal a min. So, you do not believe in premarital sex, yet your wife was pregnant so you had to move the date up??????? HMMMMMM ok, how did that happen

She has NEVER BEEN pregnant, yet YOU got your girlfriend pregnant. BUT SHE is acting immature????????? She was acting like a teen for ......... but you acted like a adult because...you didnt use protection and knocked your girlfriend up???? Now I am confused.

**waldo** · 07-17-2009, 06:06 AM

Originally Posted by rideon1200

Coervo, if you could come down from your pedestal a min. So, you do not believe in presex marriage, yet your wife was pregnant so you had to move the date up??????? HMMMMMM ok, how did that happen

It was me, I did it.

**gd1996** · 07-17-2009, 07:38 AM

I gotta take a test ride before I buy... bad sex will ruin a relationship, while great sex can keep it going. Theres alot more to it, but it's a big thing. I'm the kind of guy if I did get a girl pregnant I would do whatever it took to make it work, but doesn't mean it would. I have no plans to have kids but I'm not against it either.

**rideon1200** · 07-17-2009, 07:58 AM

Imagine what its like when you waiting for a haircut, a old girlfriend you havent seen in 12 years, walks up with a 11 yo and says, "what do you think of your daddy".

**Spaz** · 07-17-2009, 08:30 AM

Originally Posted by rideon1200

Imagine what its like when you waiting for a haircut, a old girlfriend you havent seen in 12 years, walks up with a 11 yo and says, "what do you think of your daddy".

i'd imagine my lawyer would be contacting her...

**waldo** · 07-17-2009, 08:37 AM

Originally Posted by rideon1200

Imagine what its like when you waiting for a haircut, a old girlfriend you havent seen in 12 years, walks up with a 11 yo and says, "what do you think of your daddy".

Well, I would handle it as best possible for the child’s sake. Inside I would be crushed that I missed out on seeing my own child grow to the age of 11. Then I’d do whatever possible to get to know him/her and try to develop the best possible relationship. It would be hard to forgive the mother for holding out like that! The entire thought is sad.