So a friend of was traveling for work and didn't have an apartment or a real place to stay so he was having to rent hotel rooms when he was in town. I have an extra room and since he was only in town for a couple of weekends a month, I told him he could just stay with me. (FREE by the way)
Well, shortly after that, his job ended and he wasn't traveling any more. This was 3 months ago. I've been pretty okay with him being there. He's getting established again. He's gotten another job. He was supposed to move out at the end of the month. All the while he's had a bit of a drinking problem. Part of living with me for free means you don't drink unless we're out drinking SOCIALLY. That means you don't drink at the house, you don't go somewhere else and get drunk and come home, you don't grab a beer on the way home and drink it on the way. It means, pretty simply, if you want free rent from me, you don't drink. I didn't set that up with him when he first moved in because I didn't think his drinking was as much of a deal as it is and I don't mind someone drinking a beer here and there after work. After I realized it was an every day need that he has, I told him no more drinking. After that, he started trying to cheat the system, like drinking on the patio and then coming in... so I got very clear about what the rule is. After that, I came home in my wifes car one day (mine makes enough noise you can hear me coming). I opened the door and it was like catching a school boy with porn. He tried to hide it and it was pathetic. I asked him who he was kidding? "What, I'm not doing anything wrong, I'm old enough to make my own choices..." "I had a good day at work, I needed a beer." (He also needs one after a bad day at work). blah blah blah. Anyway, I said that it's not his choice to make while he's staying for free with me (and I'm not taking money to have a room mate).
he said okay and he wouldn't drink any more and he was leaving in a month anyway, so that's that.
I went to WY to spend some time with the in-laws. We came back early in the morning and there was a crapload of alcohol. The house stunk of it. There were 3 of the small jeager bottles (empty), a 5th of vodka (empty), 3 24 ounce beers (2 of them empty - 3rd was just too much I guess).
Well, I was tired and it was too early in the morning for me to want to bother with waking him up to get him out. The wife wanted him out then and there, but I didn't feel like it, plus I expect (to be disappointed) him to clean his room/bathroom the way that it was when he started living there which would take a day. I'm a pretty nice guy so for me to kick someone out with no warning at all is not something I'd do. I gave him till wednesday (this was Monday morning). I left him a note telling him to get out and to leave gas money (I let him drive my car) and to clean up his room/bathroom and to get help.
He left me the nastiest note that I'm an unrealistic punk and a judgemental asshole. He also said I was more interested in making money than spending time with my wife. (I work a full time job with overtime a couple of times a month). I checked with my wife just to make sure that she wasn't at all feeling that way or that she didn't say anything to him that could be taken that way and she said no. She was pissed about the whole thing.
I'm looking forward to having the place back to ourselves. Woo hoo! :nana:
