sex question

meanZ97 · 05-31-2006, 09:53 PM

soo..im just curious. i have come to the conclusion that my girlfriend hates sex. ive had it once in a month and a half

and even then she didnt wanna have it. now is it just me or is sex an important part of a healty relationship? all opinions are welcome!

**Bigrus** · 05-31-2006, 09:56 PM

Originally Posted by meanZ97

soo..im just curious. i have come to the conclusion that my girlfriend hates sex. ive had it once in a month and a half

and even then she didnt wanna have it. now is it just me or is sex an important part of a healty relationship? all opinions are welcome!

Before it gets immature in all seriousness you need to leave. Sex is a important part of the relationship and if its already this badbefore getting married imagine after.

Either she has lost all of her sex drive or she is fucking someone else.

Not trying to sound like im bragging, but i have only been denied by my girlfriend once and that was when she was sick.

meanZ97 · 05-31-2006, 10:00 PM

i tried to talk to her about it earlier and she said that if it was that big a deal then we dont need to be togther. i dont know about you other guys but this is the most frustratign thing in the world.

**Toadman** · 05-31-2006, 10:02 PM

That does sound odd that she isn't giving it to you. Sex is an inportant part of the relationship but not the most important. Maybe you should ask her why she doesn't want to do it and see what kind of response she gives you. Is she on any birth control because that can kill the sex aspect? One thing is women are so confusing at times then other times they aren't.

**Toadman** · 05-31-2006, 10:07 PM

i tried to talk to her about it earlier and she said that if it was that big a deal then we dont need to be togther. i dont know about you other guys but this is the most frustratign thing in the world.

She definetly needs to be more open on this subject with you. Tell her I don't think your making a deal out of it. Just ask her why she isn't interested in sex. It could be so many things though (problems from previous relaltionships or childhood problems).

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 05-31-2006, 10:13 PM

Originally Posted by meanZ97

she said that if it was that big a deal then we dont need to be togther.

I'd dump her ass if she said that to me...she's basically saying she doesn't give a fuck if you're with her or not. But besides that fact...IMO she's either screwing someone else or was sexually abused when she was younger. If you any kind of a relationship with her you'd know if she was abused...

**SSwt00SS** · 06-01-2006, 02:11 AM

Originally Posted by meanZ97

i tried to talk to her about it earlier and she said that if it was that big a deal then we dont need to be togther. i dont know about you other guys but this is the most frustratign thing in the world.

hit the road jack. if this red flag is already raised and not your manhood, walk away. sex is very healthy in any relationship to bring about a stronger, deeper, more sustained and meaningful emotional and physical connection between the two people. if shes playing that card, forget her and find a woman thats right for you. for her to say a line such as that, she has to have a backdoor man shes giving it too, or she has major issues that will only mess you up in the long run as well. women want it just as much as men do. IMO hit it one more time and and say 'see ya'!

**myss** · 06-01-2006, 03:28 AM

Do you all have any kids (or does she from a previous marriage)? Just asking because sometimes when you have little ones hanging on you all day, you don't feel like having anyone touch you at night. Another possibility, did she start taking any kind of anti depressants? They can do it too. OR, you might just be getting on her freakin' nerves buggin' her about it

**myss** · 06-01-2006, 03:30 AM

New thought..... Have you tried getting her drunk and taking advantage of her? That seems to be the way a lot of guys on this board get lucky

**FasstChevys** · 06-01-2006, 03:50 AM

Originally Posted by meanZ97

i tried to talk to her about it earlier and she said that if it was that big a deal then we dont need to be togther. i dont know about you other guys but this is the most frustratign thing in the world.

Her response seems very defensive. I would watch for signs of her messing around. Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

**yellowscremer** · 06-01-2006, 03:50 AM

If it's a problem now, it will always be............time for a change................either in her or in you...................."HIT THE ROAD"

Time for an "away game"................

**ss~zoso~ss** · 06-01-2006, 04:05 AM

....you just can hide those lying eyes........

**Zboner** · 06-01-2006, 04:10 AM

leave her

**ss~zoso~ss** · 06-01-2006, 04:12 AM

peace out on that bitch

meanZ97 · 06-01-2006, 04:26 AM

im gonna talk to her ass again because this is ridiculous. a guy should not have to go this long without sex!

**rbob93** · 06-01-2006, 04:26 AM

Originally Posted by meanZ97

now is it just me or is sex an important part of a healty relationship?

Not to all females, but obviously more to you than her at this point.

If you have to talk her into it, well, you may as well do your hand for as good as it will be.
There are many women who find sex unpleasant.
Some have been raped as children.
Some may not be ready for that type of commitment.
Pregnancy and STD's may be a factor.
Your technique could be all wrong.

For most males however, it is a #1 priority to have sex with as many females as possible. I think it stems from the primal urge to procreate, or just because most of us are horndogs.

Women want love, not sex. Remember that one little difference.

If she won't give it up without alot of talking her into it, or she's not into it when you have sex with her, her mind tells her that you have raped her and that is all you want from her.
She will only be more turned off each and every time you try.

If you decide to marry any woman, be forwarned that after menopause, you may never have sex with your wife again.

meanZ97 · 06-01-2006, 04:35 AM

Originally Posted by FasstChevys

Her response seems very defensive. I would watch for signs of her messing around. Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

thats what i thought to. weve been together for over a year and a half and she says she'd never cheat on me. if she is, somebodys gettin his ass handed to him

**CaptainCaveMan** · 06-01-2006, 04:49 AM

Check what birth control she is on. My wife was taking a new pill that killed her sex drive. Got off of that shit quick.

**tnthub** · 06-01-2006, 04:59 AM

Actually, one in a month in a half is really really low. She needs to see a doctor as that just isn't normal.

I know people have diffreent levels of sex drive but that is extreme. Married guys like to joke about never getting any but after 15 years I can confirm that in my case it simply isn't true.

Now I also have an ex wife and she was a hornball all the time too.

I had a long term gal in college who didn't get horny that much but she still did at least 2-3 times a week and her problem were the hormone effects from birth control pills. Every time she changed her pill prescription she got horny for about a week straight and then it would gradually fade away until she was never horny so she would go to the doctor and change her prescription and the cycle would start all over.