Performance Anxiety

[AKIRA]

God Dammit

Ive had this since my 3rd girlfriend. Sometimes, I cant get it up! Not to save my fucking life! Blow jobs usually work, but enough is enough...heres my lil story..

Over the Christmas Vacation, I met up with an old flame that I used to have sex with 7 years ago. Even back then, (I was 20 she was 16), I had a hard time getting hard. She really though I wasnt attracted to her. In any case, when she sucked me off, I was ok.

However, we met again and she looked better than before! We got drunk at her house and...nope, there was no luck fucking that night, but in the morning, I was No blowjob needed!

Then there was the last night I was in town, I was back to square fucking one! A blowjob did the trick, but in the morning, I tried thinking happy thoughts, get half, hard then it went away.

She really thinks I am not attracted to her.

But this has happened before! Theres nothing physically wrong with me. I can get hard with pornos instantly and you can set your clock to one almost every morning (not the one in the 2nd half of the story though )

When this happens, physically, I have a warm feeling on the back of my head and the pit of my stomach. It actually hurts a lil bit sometimes and creates pressure. Almost like it sucks the blood from my dick, back into the torso. This physical change serves as a major distraction and boom, I am flacid.


Methods to counter act it?

-Breathing, relaxing, concentrate on sex thoughts..temporary though

-Blowjobs. They do the trick, but even though its bliss, it shouldnt be NEEDED.

-Alcohol. Yeah, it does work sometimes and at others, it makes it worse, e.g. "whiskey dick"


Since ive had experience with anxiety before, I know that the first question on the path to health is to ask 'what was I thinking before these physical changes occur?' Really, I am thinking "please dont happen again."

Now, if I had a girlfriend, its usually never a problem, but I like this girl..a LOT. I consider her "the one that got away," so its not just some bang.

HOWEVER..

It happens with "Bangs" and sometimes it doesnt...


Guys...I seriously need some spiritual healing. Ive taken pills too and theyve helped, but again, I shouldnt need them.

If anyone and I mean ANYONE has had this shit happen as much as it has happened to me and has cured (or almost) it, please tell me how.


Thanks and have fun with the embarrassment!

[AKIRA]

Follow up..

This thread is an exact copy of another thread I created on another forum. A person directed me towards some torrent that has David DeAngelo clips that are actually quite uplifting. I havent finished the first vid cuz of new years...

However, i still want to hear from anyone that has this problem cuz I feel I might get better stories here after seeing the results of the Are you piss shy? thread.

Ill tell ya one thing, today i can fuck almost anything...being hung over has some interesting side effects with me sometimes..

[Speedy_Gonzales]

[KyleLs1]

it keeps happening because you are constantly worrying about it... subconsciously you are worried that you will not be able to perform and thus you have a hard time getting a hard on... has nothing to do with impotence or E.D, it's all in your head...

[rbob93]

Don't drink or smoke

[SexOnWheels]

... has nothing to do with impotence or E.D, it's all in your head...

QFT bingo!

Something must of happened in your youth and you need to let it go!

[bene]

Just let it work itself dude. Foreplay is the key.

[blue02Z]

start eating healthier and exercising, i bet it can help with blood flow

[AKIRA]

Hah I am a personal trainer, so its not my nutrition!

I really do think of it a LOT. I havent had any girl make fun of me, but its coming, I know it. However, i can always fire right back and say I cant get hard cuz of stench, discharge, hair, skin, fatness, etc.

It seriously is some wicked shit, but trying to relax sometimes just isnt as easy as saying it.

[blue02Z]

well then it is prolly cuz you do think about it so much man. i see how it could stay on your mind

[0rion]

Ever wondered if you could know too much about a person????? Yep, you can.



It's in your head dude and gonna be a bitch to get rid of. It's become a confidence thing now so you're gonna focus on it. At least you get a blowjob out of it so it ain't ALL bad.

[310stanger]

one thing to think about is maybe you put the girls on too high a pedestal. Put them on your level and jus have at it. If you are comfortable with them and feel you are an equal, it will be better for you. I hate to say it but maybe even lower your standards for a short period of time with girls that dont intimidate you and bang the hell out of a girl that is only like a 5 or a 6. still bangable but not as intimidating as the 7-10s are.

[SeVeReDiStOrTiOn]

It's all nerves, you said yourself that it doesn't happen when you're in a long relationship. I doesn't happen because you feel relaxed and comfortable with her.

[redls1]

I have no problem getting hard. Im just a minute man though! LOL!!

[Too Fast]

Ramdom thoughts: Too much alcohol will do that, too much thinking about it in your head, too much porn.

[JwMonE99]

Too much porn can do that to you? I thought if anything it would help you?

Well sence you manned up and stated your problem, I will too.
No matter what i am doing either banging or getting a blow job after I let out I loose my hard so I have to chill for a minute till it gets hard again then I can keep going without any interuptions. I think its kinda annoying, what can i do to stop that?

[smilin assassin]

1. seek professional counsel on this one...

2. also, maybe try talking with the girl(s) before hand to let them know about your 'condition'...easier said than done probably...

3. don't jerk off or anything between periods of sex, you should be rock hard when a girl shakes your hand or hugs you..lol

[michaelinchains]

`aight playboy heres what ya do..tape,not staple,a popscicle stick to your schlong & remember to use lots `o lube to prevent splinters..nah,just relax man..ya gotta be able to be comfortable w/ the chick

[smilin assassin]

I think its kinda annoying, what can i do to stop that?

get older...lol

[redls1]

get older...lol

Im 39 and it hasnt helped me! Smack off sometimes 3 a day!