Long Distance Relationships

**AKIRA** · 07-16-2008, 01:41 PM

This is NOT a continuation of the girl with a black guy thread, but I have to resort to some details from it.

That girl I described from the other thread has gone away for the summer. I met her at the end of the school year, we hit it off, and then she up and leaves. Nothing was established long enough to invoke a mutually understood monogomous relationship. So, I asked if we were bfriend and gfriend. She said she didnt want that. Along with a lot of other increbilities that made me think she was a liar (plus the token), I decided that Ill just go out with someone else that was interested.

With that, lets start THIS thread.

This new girl is amazing. No games, no lies, and no defense to soft stuff. Meaning, I can say nice/sweet things to her and she never, ever gets creeped out nor does she think something negative about it. Sex is great

and she thinks I am the hottest thing since Satan took a shit on his own grill.

However, she got promoted and had to move ~5 hours away from me. It was established...ugh....that we love each other. Ok yeah, I am in love.

Not to explain in detail how I feel, lets just say I dont want to lose her nor do I ever want this to fade. I am in college at UF and I have another year to go. I am 28 so I started college late. If I leave college, even in love, I feel like I will fucking hate myself later.

My question is, 5 hours isnt that long, but its not short, so has anyone had situations like this and had success? How about failures?

**1 TRANS AM** · 07-16-2008, 01:51 PM

Hope it works out. I will be 28 in Dec. and I have never been married or engaged. One year will fly by. 5 hrs. is not that far. Leave on fri. and return mon. morning.

Do not drop out of school, you will regret it. Good Luck

**gwballin** · 07-16-2008, 02:06 PM

The furthest any one of my girlfriends lived was 1.5 hours away.

Just long enough that it was not convenient to see each other during the week so we only got together every weekend. That relationship lasted 3.5 years and the only reason it lasted that long is because we only saw each other on the weekends.

Now, 5 hours is significantly longer, but not impossible.

**Bobby97SS** · 07-16-2008, 02:49 PM

^^^ 1.5 isnt bad. I drove that far every wed night for a yr. to bang my buddies wife on his "pool night".

**Crimson Sin** · 07-16-2008, 03:18 PM

I can say that I have had Two long distance relationships.. One went bad, the other.. Well I am married to her now and have been for eight fantastic years.
First was a girl going to college in Maine, I lived in NH. we had dated for two years before she went off. College life can be * detrimental* to a casual relationship. Other guys I know are still with their college sweethearts, some married.
The other was a bit farther.
I lived in NH and found a girl in Seattle, WA. That's 3171.5 miles from my old home. Long story, but I met her in an online game. Not a chat room. Hell I *played* with her and some others for almost a year before I knew she was a girl. Just never asked, found out who and what she looked like at a convention.. Heh. We went back and forth to visit for a couple of years and did a lot of emails and phone calls ( damn the bills alone would have paid for Sooo many mods

). In the end, I packed all I could into my old 97 Z28 Vert and drove out to Seattle. Found a job, a year later... I was married.
It's NOT easy... I would have to say that if you want it. You can make it happen. Some women are worth it..

**Spaz** · 07-16-2008, 03:30 PM

here is a little something about spaz...

in high school i met a girl from italy (exchange student duh...) and for that year we dated and fell in love...

she went home and moved to england... she paid fro me to visit her there... and also for her to come back with me for two weeks...

i haven't seen her in 10 years up untill my sisters wedding... when i seen her again with me being a little older and mature i seen her in a different light and was far more attracted to her than i have ever been... i got an e-mail from her saying the same thing... i'd marry her right now if she was here...

the distance meant nothing... the time meant nothing... when we seen each other again we both knew how we felt about each other... i can only wonder if i was in a relation with another woman if i would be able to say the same now... i'm damned sure i could...

**AKIRA** · 07-16-2008, 03:31 PM

Solid advice thus far.

With my major & work schedule, it may be hard to see her every weekend. And with HER work schedule, it may be hard to see her every OTHER weekend as well..

Oh, did any of you guys/gals mess around with other people while you were away from you S/O?

**Crimson Sin** · 07-16-2008, 03:40 PM

First one... sadly yes.
Second time (current) Not even vaguely considered it.

**AKIRA** · 07-16-2008, 03:41 PM

You never said why the first one failed.

**Crimson Sin** · 07-16-2008, 03:42 PM

Originally Posted by Bobby97SS

^^^ 1.5 isnt bad. I drove that far every wed night for a yr. to bang my buddies wife on his "pool night".

Good thing your not my buddy... You would have a Desert Eagle sized hole to breathe out of in your chest and testicles.

P.S.
A wise man once told me. Son there are NO women worth dying for. There's Lots worth killing for, You got to see the difference.

**Crimson Sin** · 07-16-2008, 03:43 PM

Originally Posted by AKIRA

You never said why the first one failed.

We both cheated. Her first, then me to * retaliate* The relationship degraded from there.

**Silver Streak** · 07-16-2008, 03:53 PM

5 hours will be a little bit of a strain.. You will want to see eachother all the time.. as I did that in college.. mine was just over 5 hours away.. went home almost every weekend.. and almost failed out...

But if you guys communicate, and make sure you illiminate all doubt and show you love eachother.. distance isn't much of an obsticle... but if you don't work at it.. the relationship will fail.. mostly due to doubt and lonliness. Good luck, and hope it all works out!

**AKIRA** · 07-16-2008, 03:54 PM

Now thats a good reply.

Originally Posted by 01T-TopToy

We both cheated. Her first, then me to * retaliate* The relationship degraded from there.

Damn. How did you find out?

**ReBop** · 07-16-2008, 03:56 PM

5 hours is too far away unless one or both of you move to the other city. I tried it for 6 months once and it eventually failed. Local GFs are much more desirable.

**Silver Streak** · 07-16-2008, 03:58 PM

Originally Posted by ReBop

5 hours is too far away unless one or both of you move to the other city. I tried it for 6 months once and it eventually failed. Local GFs are much more desirable.

Maybe more desirable, but if you truely love that person.. you will do anything to make it work. Those feelings don't just die because you may not be able to see them everyday... yes it's hard that way.. but life isn't easy.. and if you can make it being several hours away.. then the time toghether will be that much better.. and will show you guys can overcome hard obsticles together.

**67CamaroRSSS** · 07-16-2008, 04:01 PM

Originally Posted by Bobby97SS

^^^ 1.5 isnt bad. I drove that far every wed night for a yr. to bang my buddies wife on his "pool night".

I don't think....hell, I know I couldn't do that to somebodies wife if I knew the guy. I've had the opportunity and turned her down. After they got divorced, different story. A married chick where I don't know the guy no problem. A married chick and she doesn't tell me til after (hey, it's happened), well, I've got no control over that situation.

I prefer single/divorced women as it's no fun staring at (you name the weapon).

A long distance relationship can be made to work if both of you are honest with each other. If you're serious it can be made to work. Either one of you starts lying or BS'ing the other (about what you're doing between times) then it'll most likely go down hill from there.

**FasstChevys** · 07-16-2008, 04:22 PM

Originally Posted by Bobby97SS

^^^ 1.5 isnt bad. I drove that far every wed night for a yr. to bang my buddies wife on his "pool night".

Your honesty is noted - but your statement says a lot as well.

My long distance relationship failed horribly - as SilverStreak said - lonliness finally prevailed. It really sucked.

**Hi-Po** · 07-16-2008, 04:54 PM

Originally Posted by 67CamaroRSSS

I don't think....hell, I know I couldn't do that to somebodies wife if I knew the guy. I've had the opportunity and turned her down. After they got divorced, different story. A married chick where I don't know the guy no problem. A married chick and she doesn't tell me til after (hey, it's happened), well, I've got no control over that situation.

I prefer single/divorced women as it's no fun staring at (you name the weapon).

A long distance relationship can be made to work if both of you are honest with each other. If you're serious it can be made to work. Either one of you starts lying or BS'ing the other (about what you're doing between times) then it'll most likely go down hill from there.

Originally Posted by Bobby97SS

^^^ 1.5 isnt bad. I drove that far every wed night for a yr. to bang my buddies wife on his "pool night".

You said you banged your buddies wife every wed. night.... But then again you say you couldn't do that do that if you knew the guy?

Did you just cross yourself, or am I not understanding you?

Ether way, 5 hours seems way to far apart. I couldn't do it when I lived in Nashville, TN. My girl lived in SE MI. I came home often, then we finally just decided it was way to much. So we ended up just regular fuck buddies when I came home. It worked out very well actually. Maybe this could work for you, Anyway, god luck with the LD relation's!

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 07-16-2008, 05:07 PM

I was overseas for a year...yea that one tanked. We stopped talking about 6 months into it....she sucked in bed anyways.

I started dating my current g/f when I was on leave from that overseas trip^^^ and inbetween units. I drove home every other weekend to see her for over a year (before gas was $5/gal and some butt secks)...it's about 6-7 hours each way from southern to northern cali. We've been together over 6 years.....it's a PITA at times and expensive but it'll work if ya want it to.