Life sucks!!!!!!

**Zboner** · 08-22-2008, 02:35 PM

life is shitty, just wanted to get that out there and off my chest.

just lost grandfather 3 weeks ago to cancer, and just found out today my gf has terminal cancer and has maybe at most 6 months left to live. had to get that out.

**2000 SS Beast** · 08-22-2008, 02:37 PM

Dude that sucks. sorry to hear that

**Smurfvette05** · 08-22-2008, 02:37 PM

Sorry to hear that. Life does suck, but I have some more bad news. Things happen in 3's so you still have one more bad thing to happen to you. Hope your girl doesn't suffer too much.

**Zboner** · 08-22-2008, 02:47 PM

yea its just hard cause I sat there and watched my grandfather die and was there with him at the end. I know it might sound shelfish but I cant go through that or watch that happen again to anyone

**Sarge** · 08-22-2008, 02:49 PM

I'm sorry Boner....Good Lord only puts on us what we can handle.....I'm really sorry...

**Smurfvette05** · 08-22-2008, 02:50 PM

Originally Posted by Zboner

yea its just hard cause I sat there and watched my grandfather die and was there with him at the end. I know it might sound shelfish but I cant go through that or watch that happen again to anyone

you might think right now that you can't, but your girl needs you now more than ever. It will make you a stronger person in the end.

**VenomZ** · 08-22-2008, 02:50 PM

sorry to hear that bro...everyone is here for ya if ya need to get things out.

**Zboner** · 08-22-2008, 02:54 PM

yea some tough times are deffinately ahead

**KahanaReef** · 08-22-2008, 02:57 PM

Life sure does beat us up sometimes.

Sorry for your loss. And, it's true, your GF is going to need you to be strong for her. It'll be hard, but you'll get through it.

I do believe that these experiences make us stronger...

Sucks just the same though, I know.

**Smurfvette05** · 08-22-2008, 02:57 PM

once you get through the tough times, it should be smooth sailing from there. Things might get better. Atleast, I hope they do.

**Zboner** · 08-22-2008, 02:58 PM

u never know maybe it will turn around,

doubt it

its in her lungs, liver, and kidneys

**Hi-Po** · 08-22-2008, 03:02 PM

Damn, sorry dude. Thats seriously tough to deal with. You need to just spend quality time with her if its that serious. It will be extra tough being with her during these times though. I dont think I could handle that.

Things always have a way of figuring themselves out.

**Zboner** · 08-22-2008, 03:05 PM

im pretty much used to it by now though, watching someone die is hard though

**SeVeReDiStOrTiOn** · 08-22-2008, 03:08 PM

Originally Posted by Zboner

life is shitty, just wanted to get that out there and off my chest.

just lost grandfather 3 weeks ago to cancer, and just found out today my gf has terminal cancer and has maybe at most 6 months left to live. had to get that out.

Originally Posted by Zboner

yea its just hard cause I sat there and watched my grandfather die and was there with him at the end. I know it might sound shelfish but I cant go through that or watch that happen again to anyone

Damn man...that's horrible. I've never been through that so I can't give any advice but hopefully you don't leave her until she's gone. She must be scared out of her mind right now...and you're the only one she'll ever love or be with again.

How did the docs find out? Did she go in for pain or something?

**Smurfvette05** · 08-22-2008, 03:08 PM

Originally Posted by Zboner

im pretty much used to it by now though, watching someone die is hard though

I agree. I have done it more than once in my life, but you will feel better if you are with her to the end. You will feel more completed. Her family will be able to lean on you as well and you lean on them.

The best way to deal with all this is to talk about it. Glad most of the people here are helpful.

**Zboner** · 08-22-2008, 03:17 PM

she had a cyst on her ovary burst in june, went in found out there was another and it was cancer, they removed it. she had been getting treatments for a while and sid she just felt more pain and then they discovered all this shit

**basballny2** · 08-22-2008, 03:19 PM

thats rough man, but knowing that your there for her will make this a little easier on her. I know this whole situation is very tough to deal with but make the most of these 6 months. Spend every day with her and she can never hear enough how much you love her and how beautiful she is.

**ArcticZ06** · 08-22-2008, 06:47 PM

Dude keep your head up high and give her all the support she needs. Best thing you can do is to make sure she doesn't lose hope and keeps herself up with good spirits.

Back in 05 my mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 terminal lung cancer. They gave her sex months as well. It tore everyone apart but everyone gave her all the support she needed and kept the best attitude possible. Trust me it will be HARD! Especially if she goes through chemo. My mom volunteered to be tested on some experimental drug called Tarceva. Anyways, its been 3 years and she's doing great! She's more active now than she has ever been in her life. Anyways, you'll get through it and sometimes miracles do happen!

**Spaz** · 08-22-2008, 07:16 PM

Originally Posted by Sarge

I'm sorry Boner....Good Lord only puts on us what we can handle.....I'm really sorry...

when we ask for courage he doesn't just give us sourage... he gives us the chance to be courageous...

nothing in life is forever and one day that will be you or me laying down smiling at our family with our last breaths...

all you can do is let her know how much you love her... how much you appreciate the time spent... and that it will be ok for her to finally rest when the time comes...

it's never easy... i've been there many times... each time it gets harder... just hang in there bro... if you need anything let me know and i'll do my best to help...